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This Is Me Now. (City People thingz, Biggest Babe Days...)

I woke up and the first thought that hit me was how weird life is. Some days ago an old friend and former crush called me and after talking for a few minutes he insisted he wasn't we talking to Nwando; this is an impostor; Nwando wouldn't talk like this; Nwando wouldn't ask what I'm talking about, she'll know what I'm talking about (He wanted me to come and see him on Wednesday morning after my interview. I pointed out to him that I don't see people socially during the week, except at night, if I really had to. He then said "ok, we won't see socially, come over and we'll see spiritually". After repeatedly asking him what he was on about he started accusing me of being an imposter, said the real me would know what he meant. Turns out "Spiritually" meant us smoking weed and getting high. I really have changed though, Nwando then would have understood immediately.)

For a lot of old friends I've become this gray-haired granny with huge thick glasses. It's kinda like I'm this uptight stuck-up prude whose idea of fun is reading in bed with a nice cup of Twinnings camomile tea ... 

So anyways I woke up and remembered that morning years ago when someone called my phone and asked me to rush and get a copy of City People, I couldn't understand why but she wouldn't say, she just asked me to hurry and get it. So quickly I grabbed some money and ran downstairs and right on cue there was a vendor just at my junction. I grabbed a copy, paid him and ran back home. I quickly flipped through the pages and the second I found what all the fuss was all about my phone rang; "Ha, UNEC's biggest babe!" My elder sister screamed into the phone. That was what I was looking at right before me on the pages of City People's magazine; UNEC's BIGGEST BABES! LOL. 

So there it was. I read how they said *Chinny, my friend and sister had a hummer in school, moved around with at least six MOPOL and owned properties in VGC or something, Then came Chocolate; the daughter of so so and so. Her father is so so so and so. She spends millions in school (or something like that). Then came moi. Nwando. One of the biggest babes. Co-founder of the hottest club in the school and probably in the East in general (along with Nene and Chocolate) she's yadayadayada.

ROTFL. I read the rest of the article, it was pretty spot on as it had some actual "big babes" in it, but it was hugely exaggerated. Choi!

I remember how a few weeks later when I'd almost forgotten about the article a friend of Chocolate's (who's currently a well known blogger, fashionista, columnist and Lagos socialite) said we could get some really cool things at Yaba market, then Tejuosho market. So on we went a'shopping. My darling Chocolate was so uncomfortable, dunno if she'd ever been to Yaba market before and I doubt she's returned since then. I noticed she kept on ducking and her head was constantly bowed low and she refused to haggle over any item, she quickly paid whatever she was told and hurriedly scurried away. I had to ask what the problem was and she said "Imagine what would happen if someone sees us, UNEC's hottest babes, inside Tejuosho market". She was genuinely worried. LOL. 

This memory makes me smile. How much we've grown.... We've all really come a long way. 

Anyhooooo, yes I used to be that girl. The party animal. The co-founder of the club that threw the biggest, baddest, insanest parties that people talked about for years, and some literally still talk about. The laid back chic that'd 'kick it' with you and have a drag from your joint and join you on your spiritual plane. The one who couldn't leave her house without baring 60% of flesh. The one who was mad fun you wouldn't forget about her in a hurry. The one who could drink you under the table and still walk in a straight line. The one you knew would be down for whatever... Yeah that was me. 

But this is me now. 

Sometimes I feel the need to apologize when I talk to an old friend and they 'accuse' me of changing. A few actually make this observation with admiration, but for some others it's seriously tinged with disappointment; like the way you feel when you're rushing to a party and getting there only to find that it ended five minutes ago.... That kind of disappointment. 

But how can you possibly expect me to be the same person I was five, six years ago? Isn't that like the worst thing that can happen to a human being? That was me then. I'm not who I used to be, for no actual reason I've changed, because that's what people do, it's called growth, it's called maturity, it's called life. 
      And if I meet an old friend and you're still exactly who you used to be some five, six or seven years ago, I'd bid you farewell and be on my merry way. The Me now probably wouldn't get along so well with the You then. 

PS. I'm not suggesting that everyone had a wild past and everyone should have changed (or be a 'bore' like me). What I mean is; I expect that naturally, everyone has grown up, matured some more, is more serious with/about life, has got a set goal in mind and is generally just an individual with a solid personality, or a personality at the very least. Basically. 


  1. it is the new T that i like and admire

  2. The only constant thing in life is change! If u haven't changed or improved in d last 7 years, then I SMH for u!
    @Thelma I gotta say dt it's gonna be a challenge keeping up with the new u, lots of frwends would wanna draw u back, they'd be temptations here and there, but u know what..

    "If it doesn't challenge u, it won't change U".

    So keep doing u, coz we love the new u!

    Old things=Passed away

    *lips sealed and watching*

  3. You've come a long way and I am happy you were able to rediscover yourself timely.
    We must all continue to grow till we die and drop some (bad/negative) habits along the way.

  4. Its great you became YOU. I love love this new you even if I did not know old you.

  5. Thanks. I forgot to add that the new me isn't perfect either, and still needs a lot of work. Ruby Diamonds I hope you were able to sort the template issues out?

  6. Thelma I feel your story...I used to be like that in school then...but I dnt feature in city people the craziest friends and chilled with all fraternities in school...but fast forward five years later am married,dnt have friends,focused on been the best fashion designer...#working on it# so people change...but for good is better....#irepseptember 9#that naughty house wife

  7. Na wa oh! U'all make me feel like I didn't live my life to the fullest. No drugs, smoking, drinking, parties? Who wan carry me go? No friends. Even as the V.P of my Dept I avoided deptmental & school parties!
    *Confessions of a chronic introvert*
    I'm changing & becoming a Lil bit social...

    But T, I'm Super duper Glad U are changing & growing positively. Only Good changes should be celebrated. This New U, I Love. But the old U, I'm still judging, LOL. Like how dare u live ya life like that? Lmao. #HugsHon

  8. I am glad to know the changed you, Thelma.
    Everyone ought to be like wine that gets better as it gets older.

  9. This gave me a diff view about you ,not in a bad way, I've always seen you as the big sister type of person, you know the sober sister and designated driver type and all that. But its good to have fun because you know you have done it all and it wont stop you from getting what you want , need and deserve. You might not know this but as a reader and young blogger I look up to you a lot.

  10. Couldn't stop laughing at the thought of this! The stories UNEC gave our lives! They did give us lives, n now we can and have grown up n moved on. Btw I miss u girls o; u, Ujubiebe, Chocolate, Mrs K, d diva N K-A. We need to hook up in December or after New Year o!

  11. Lol those were the days anyways I loved the years of them club parties they were fun I really loved dancing. Elle and one other club I can't remember the name did throw the baddest parties. I did love those years but I don't miss them. Still trying to get really drunk one day *it's a bucket list thing. #youngwildandfree @ziggylicious you bet we gonna have a tush get together

  12. Groove @ d rite time, mature @ d rite time

  13. Groove @ d rite time, mature @ d rite time


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