"Who is that your friend?"
"Which friend?" I asked him in confusion.
"That your friend that you quarelled with?"
"I don't know who you're talking about sir"
"That one, an Igbo girl. She wears jigida on her waist, she is quarreling with you because of a man, do you remember her now?"
"Think well, you will remember her."
After forcing me to think long and hard and still coming short, and then forcing me to agree that I have an Igbo friend who wears jigida around her waist and is quarreling with me over a man, he nodded in satisfaction and proceeded.
"You must be very careful. She wants to deal with you"
I tried to resist rolling my eyes and looked at my friend who told me that I had to meet with and talk to this very powerful pastor. I was at the point where I'd grown both wary and weary of some Nigerian pastors with their prophecies of doom, but what can I say, my friend is very persuasive.
"There are two men in your life, you don't know which one to choose."
"Two men. One is rich. One is not doing well. Do you know who I'm talking about now?"
To avoid a repeat of what happened above, knowing that once again I will be forced to agree I know these fictional men I nodded my head.
"Those two men, that one that you like, he is not for you. He is not your husband. That one that you don't like, the one that you're looking at anyhow now, he is your husband. He will not always be like this, tomorrow he will be a very big man, don't look down on him because of how he is now. He is your husband."
I nodded and smiled. Unfortunately at the time there wasn't even half a man on my case, how much more two men vying for my hand in marriage. Odiegwu!
This is one of those events I've pushed to the farthest corners of my mind but when I read Mz Chizzy's post this afternoon I found it being brought to the forefront. More so because my friend who I accompanied to see this "strong" man of God ended her relationship because pastor told her that that man is not her husband; apparently she would die after the birth of her first child if she marries him. And that was it. Poof! My friend removed him from her life.
This isn't news though, I've had older friends and relatives say to me that when I find someone I should bring his picture so that they can "check". In 2009 precisely, my cousin had three suitors, one of whom she had been in a relationship with for a couple of years. Her mum took their pictures and their names to her pastor and pastor said "No, none of these is her husband". Apparently one was doomed to a life of poverty, one was going to die very early, and she would never be able to carry a pregnancy for the last one. My cousin is well into her 30s now and still single.
Men are not exempt from the vision of pastors in relationships. *Busola and *Mariam have lost their relationships to their boyfriend's/fiancé's (mother's) pastors. Everything is almost set and in place and suddenly Pastor says NO, and that's The End.... Even after a few years Ex-boo is still so in love with Busola but cannot take it further because pastor says she is a witch and he will lose his good fortune if he marries her.
No guys, I'm not ruling out the power in prophecy. I believe there are genuine prophecies, and I also understand the desire in seeking some form of assurance when it comes to your chosen life partner as that one decision could and probably would extensively affect the whole of your life for the rest of your life. As such, it's quite understandable that you might want to have a glimpse at least of what the future holds, an affirmation that this one decision is not going to be the beginning of the end of your happiness and peace of mind.
In the words of Mz Chizzy, What do you think? What is the role of visions in relationships? Would you listen to a religious leader’s advice to leave the man/woman of your dreams because he foresees danger…
Have you been forced to or have you gone against an advice asking you to? Please enlighten us. Let's talk.