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Body-Count. How High is Too High?

Pls kindly do a post on body count, like when is the number too high? I promised myself I won't exceed 1, then broke up, dated, had a series of other heartbreaks and just last week I had a rebound 6, and I have been feeling very bad about it. I'm 25 btw. Pls what number in your opinion is  too much for a lady before she gets married. I await your reply/post.

I quite understand where you're coming from. Just last night I was telling a friend of mine why I wasn't closer to another friend *Mercy, one of the reasons is because I felt Mercy was too judgemental. She had only ever slept with one guy (who she was then dating and eventually got married to) and as far as she was concerned any lady who had slept with more than one guy is a hoe. My friend shook her head and said that Mercy was only fortunate that the relationship with that guy worked out and led to marriage. Otherwise she would, like most other ladies, have slept with more than just one, maybe even two, three, four, five or more, depending on how many failed relationships she had. And this is in fact the truth (unless you're not sexually active). 

So to the poster you're not the only one feeling this way, please don't beat yourself up. 

As far as how much is too much; I'm really not sure my opinion matters but ... I remember reading Sugabelly's body-count tweets where she said her body count is thirteen. While I questioned the motive behind the tweets I actually felt thirteen for a lady's body-count is rather fair. I have friends who have lost count of their body count. One night I stayed up with a friend of mine while she counted, she got to forty-three and gave up. She's an amazing person with a very promising career, now a wife to an awesome husband and a mum too. 
     I guess my point is that one's body-count, regardless of how low or how high is not a reflection of the person's personality or character (You are allowed to disagree). 

-The poster says to ask y'all; how high is too high (for a lady before she gets married)? 
-I'm asking; how high is too high for a person, male or female?
-Should a person's body count be a determinant of your decision to go into a relationship with them? Eg, men will you say I'll never date/marry a girl who has slept with more than 5 guys? Ladies will you say same before you accept to date a guy too?
-And lastly, a tatafo friend here says to ask you all; What Is Your Body Count?


  1. -How high is too high for a person, male or female
    3 is too high.

    -Should a person's body count affect ones decision on starting a serious relationship?

    -Tatafo, ke ije? Mine is 4

    1. Lol. Anyi no ofuma. Body count nke m bu ............ Lol. Too ashamed.

  2. Body count is totally irrelevant when it comes to relationships or marriage, what matters is the personality and character, its not a determinant of success or failure of a marriage or rship. I have a friend who married as a virgin but is yet to ve a baby whereas i knw people with high body count and several abortions that are happily married with kids. Life is truly not fair sha

  3. T are u sure I'm not the friend ure talking abt? Cos I've lost count too. Mk I run comot b4 them go cuss me

  4. Am going anonymous on this,My body count is 10 at twenty five,ONLY slept with seven out of the ten. Body count doesn't really matter,I feel it's personal thing n a thing of luck. LIFE is funny you know,most runs gals get married and have good homes while d ones who did Christian sister things are still unmarried at 30+,I have few as friends. GOD help us.

    1. Err, body count us the number of people you have actually slept with.

    2. Lol @ Mabel. This anony thingy ain't 4 u. It has been giving u away 4 as long as I can remember.

    3. LOL. Mabel! Anonymous no dey work for u. But 7 is still ok. I thought your body count will be more than 20.

    4. LOLLLLLLLssssss Mabel.... pls dont ever go anonymous again cos somehw u reveal urself. 7 aint too bad. an average girl shld av that nos. mine is officially 3. goin anonymous too. lolz

    5. LOL. Don't mind me guys,I totally forgot ohh. Chaiii

  5. I put up this post in a hurry and forgot to add that the best way to watch your body count if you're so worried about it 'spiking' is abstinence, because for as long as you're unmarried the chances of having sexual encounters with different people are very high.
    Also, it's possible to be in a relationship with someone without actually being sexually intimate with them. If you're not sure where your relationship is headed you might want to consider holding off on sex.
    Still up and about, if I remember something else I forgot to add I'll comment again.

    1. lol @ spiking. dunno y I found that funny. reminds me of body temperature or something. hehe. I totally agree mehn abstinence is the way cuz if not, hmmmmm ure looking at 50 upwards. again, this aint about me oo!

  6. Na only memphis get liver here every other person went commando stealth loooools @memphis 4 tho hmmm u need more practice. Ok bye y'all...

    1. Habamana,4 people don't necessarily mean 4 times. He might have done it 100 times with just one person making a total of 400 times...abi Oga memphis? (prove me right biko)

    2. Chineke e kwe ihe ojo! 400 gini? When I'm not the son of Zeus.

    3. laff wan kill me

    4. ROTFL. U people won't kill somebody.

    5. Lmao, Sasha Bone will kill person one day...Memphis bobo!!! I hail o

    6. Lol, @When I'm not the sun of Zeus. Sasha your analysis though haha

  7. Lol...all I wld say is enjoy sex now while single cos with the stress and pressures of marriage,both u and ur hubby might be singing "ku-nie n'ibu dike" and it wldnt be the gospel version!

    1. Translation?


    2. Hahaha,Sasha u funi die.....hahaha,no b small ibu dike

    3. And that is how Sasha stylishly dodged d bullet...

    4. Lol. Sasha bone what is ur own body count and pls translate.

    5. "kunie n'ibu dike" means "Rise up, mighty warrior"- note she said it wouldn't be the gospel version ;)
      I think my body count is actually above 30 and, hey, before you chop me raw, I'm the first to admit that I was like Samantha in sex and the city- it didnt really mean a thing.
      I'm married now and have kids so, those days are gone and dusted.
      And, yeah, I'm going anon on this.

    6. All you anonymouses ok o! Lol

  8. Haha y is everyone going anonymous, lol Memphis u r brave and bold. T i cant even respond to your post honestly without getting judged (p.s:doesnt mean my bodycount cant be 1 or 2 o!) so i'll just move on and enjoy the comments

    All i know is that for girls, well nigerian girls, if a guy ever asks, the magic number is TWO. I repeat, the magic number is TWO. You have all been warned.

    1. Actually if your asked the magic no is 1, I repeat 1!

  9. 3.Married the third the second was once but like FNLP said my husband is only aware of number one, so to him 2 lol

  10. Wow T ur friend lost count at 43 and I'm here stressing myself over body count of 8. Mtcheeeew. But I always say two sha. Lol.

  11. and why is this a problem? you are not a prostitute. just a girl who loves to have sex ? why is that a concern for others ?, well I've slept with just my ex and a rebound.. but my ex only counts if a guy i likes wants to know... i dont care what he's count either .. he's not a monk so how that one take concern me ?

  12. LOL@every comment here. Sasha n Memphis una no go kill me biko.

  13. LWKMD...Some posts I just don't have the liver for. Amma just enjoy the comments and keep laughing but I do agree with FNLP too, 2 is the golden number. You don't wanna sound like a prude nor a pretender.

  14. My body count is 18 and yes I'm going anonymous for this. #runsaway.

  15. Im not ashamed of my body count, it is what it is , made me who I am today , it is 4 and my husband is no 4 and yes he knows about the other 3. I married really early tho and maybe that is why its average for sure if I married way into my late 20s God knows, Lord knows because I always knew in my head that I had the tendencies to be a bad runs girl- say aunty N..., I used to say if you wan chop toad, chop the better one wey get egg I would've gone on president, Vp levels you know whatta mean?

  16. Well, it doesn't really matter where one has been. All that matters is where one is going and what one has learnt from where one has been. For no particular reason, mine is 0. I'm getting married to lady who hers is 0 too.

  17. Wow! I missed out on this post! Came late to the party!
    LMSAO at Memphis & Sasha. But really, 3 is TOO high for both guys & girls!

    My own? #ScratchingHead
    Technically 1, Le Ex (Though we might have done it 1million times, God has forgiven me).
    The 1st count I was unaware of. #Translate it Ur way! #DropsMic

    1. haha @ Ruthy, I was wondering where you were. and why is 3 too high? please, pray thee, do tell.

      infact this Thelma's post has got me feeling some type of way....I'm just overthinking and overanalyzing unnecessarily.

    2. Sweety, me am always thinking with the Bible as my baseline sha oh.
      If i've committed fornication once (with one person) & relationship ends. That's the right time to be celibate na, Beg for forgiveness & trust God to bring a man that'll marry me without us sinning 1st.
      3 body counts just proves I'm an Unapologetic fornicator!
      Then again, THIS is MY opinion.

    3. hmmm never really saw it this way as in the unapologetic fornicator part. makes sense anyways. and also at any point one asks for forgiveness (whether after 3 counts or whether after 25 counts, one must always make a very conscious and honest genuine effort not to commit said sin again. after all, the Bible even says it, "shall we continue in sin so that grace may abound?" so I get you Ruthy...

    4. Sorry Ruthy to burst your bubble but you shot yourself in the foot with that your analogy. An unapologetic fornicator is a person that commits the act over and over again. it does not matter if it is with the same person or different people. Imagine a girl slept with 2 guys once each and became celibate and you stayed in a relationship for years and fornicated 1000 times please who among the two is the unapologetic fornicator. Do I sense self righteous issues #runs away#. J

    5. It has nothing to do with self righteousness. That's one thing i'll never do.
      An unrepentant fornicator is someone who has sex with another a 1000 times or 1000 people once each!!! (which I fall in the category of the former though the latter is worse, cos it increases ur body count)

      But we are talking body count. So read it again Dear J.

    6. I'll say an unrepentant fornicator is one who has a high and healthy sex drive and doesn't hv a problem basking in it (be u man or woman)

  18. hmmm never really saw it this way as in the unapologetic fornicator part. makes sense anyways. and also at any point one asks for forgiveness (whether after 3 counts or whether after 25 counts, one must always make a very conscious and honest genuine effort not to commit said sin again. after all, the Bible even says it, "shall we continue in sin so that grace may abound?" so I get you Ruthy...

  19. Am a guy and I honestly have lost my body count. M sure it is over 100. You guys here are so holy o. M sure most of my friends have lost count as well.

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