Pls kindly do a post on body count, like when is the number too high? I promised myself I won't exceed 1, then broke up, dated, had a series of other heartbreaks and just last week I had a rebound 6, and I have been feeling very bad about it. I'm 25 btw. Pls what number in your opinion is too much for a lady before she gets married. I await your reply/post.
I quite understand where you're coming from. Just last night I was telling a friend of mine why I wasn't closer to another friend *Mercy, one of the reasons is because I felt Mercy was too judgemental. She had only ever slept with one guy (who she was then dating and eventually got married to) and as far as she was concerned any lady who had slept with more than one guy is a hoe. My friend shook her head and said that Mercy was only fortunate that the relationship with that guy worked out and led to marriage. Otherwise she would, like most other ladies, have slept with more than just one, maybe even two, three, four, five or more, depending on how many failed relationships she had. And this is in fact the truth (unless you're not sexually active).
So to the poster you're not the only one feeling this way, please don't beat yourself up.
As far as how much is too much; I'm really not sure my opinion matters but ... I remember reading Sugabelly's body-count tweets where she said her body count is thirteen. While I questioned the motive behind the tweets I actually felt thirteen for a lady's body-count is rather fair. I have friends who have lost count of their body count. One night I stayed up with a friend of mine while she counted, she got to forty-three and gave up. She's an amazing person with a very promising career, now a wife to an awesome husband and a mum too.
I guess my point is that one's body-count, regardless of how low or how high is not a reflection of the person's personality or character (You are allowed to disagree).
-The poster says to ask y'all; how high is too high (for a lady before she gets married)?
-I'm asking; how high is too high for a person, male or female?
-Should a person's body count be a determinant of your decision to go into a relationship with them? Eg, men will you say I'll never date/marry a girl who has slept with more than 5 guys? Ladies will you say same before you accept to date a guy too?
-And lastly, a tatafo friend here says to ask you all; What Is Your Body Count?