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Comment Of The Day... On That 3rd Class Ish...


OMG! So I was just reading this post on SDK's blog for people who graduated with 3rd Class from the University and their experiences so far. Not sure why but this particular comment cracked me up. 






"My hubby made third class!!!!! He has been hiding it since we got married until I stumbled on it,i was so disappointed because he's d over sabi type. Claimed he took first all through primary and secondary school, even was double promoted twice. Am so angry cos am super intelligent,i made first class. I really dnt want any of my kids 2 take after him. Dnt hv extra money 2 repeat skool fees."


Funny as it may sound this comment raised a lot of questions in my head. Why did hubby feel the need to lie; was it out of the shame that's bound to come with graduating with a 3rd class, OR because wifey is really smart and he felt intimidated by her 1st class OR because he knew the kind of attitude wifey has; the 'cos I'm super intelligent and I don't want my kids getting your dull genes' attitude?


It makes me wonder if when people lie to us we're sometimes the reason they do so...

And lastly, you know I just have to ask; what would you do in the woman's shoes if you, with your 1st Class and super achievements, just found out that your spouse who you were led to believe was super smart and a high achiever isn't exactly all he/she makes out to be?


*this is not to say that I think making a 3rd class is sign of dull intellect, nor that it should be a limitation*. 

Comments

  1. Hehehe. Olodo husband. Y do men lie tho?

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    1. Hahahaha,was gonna type same but u beat me to it!

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    2. I heard women love hearing lies :\

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  2. I know people with third class who have done better for themselves than the 'super intelligent first class' ones. The end always justifies the means. It is good to have good grades but it is even better if you do great things with your grades. Some people perform so well in academics but in the business world, they are push overs.

    I don't suscribe to the husband lying about his grades but I would consider his business achievements first before berating him about his poor academic performance.

    -F

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  3. If it never came up in their discussion, He wouldn't have mentioned it...she must have seen other qualities in her husband before marrying him, He can't have it all

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  4. She just gave us the reason why hubby is an oversabi *first* class. See how she concluded by saying she doesn't have money to repeat school fees. Degrading.

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    1. Degrading as it may sound,its a reality. I know families who keep pushing their child to the next class even tho they know they shld repeat. It cld be out of shame or out of the fact that there's really no cash to spend on another year in the same class. Cos I know some skls that wld insist on u buying everything over again even though u have them in ur library at home.

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  5. If find out 2mao dt my spouse isn't even a third class grad, but an O-level grad, I won't stress my pretty head coz I don't place much importance on certifications. What I'm about is her capabilities. And of course they must be other qualities that attracted her 2 me in d first place. So it doesn't change a damn thang! Life is beyond someone's "oyinbo" education/degrees.




    *lips sealed and watching*

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  6. Sad to say but society puts those pressures on. Its only in recent times that nigeria has seen this boom in trades and arts and music. In my day you dared not show disinterest in school, even if it wasn't your forte, your folks wouldn't hear of it. I know a man whose wife thinks he's a graduate when in reality he never even finished 200level. It started off as being too ashamed to admit he didn't graduate esp when all his friends did and no girl would even look at Him not being a graduate. And the lie just stuck. But I don't think you should lie to your partner. In my opinion, if your prospective partner gives you a complex, you have no business being together. OJ

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  7. Depending on the guy and other factors,i might not have an issue with it. It is important that he should not lie about it

    It matters a whole.lot to some people,my.colleague broke up.with my cousin because she graduated with a thirdclass.Apparently,he assumed.she graduated with a 2.1 and a 2.1 graduate is the least his wife can have.

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    1. I just had to reply your comment...YIMU to your cousin.
      ...in other news, sorry guys it's been a while, been so busy, i can see you are all doing ok. God bless y'all esp Thelma.

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  8. Personal I don't place so much importance on certificates though I can't marry an o"level holder,but I feel certificates or grades shouldn't determine your love for your spouse or what so ever,like eesah said,definitely there was a quality you saw before saying I do to that person so keep d love flowing n do not be bothered about grades.

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    1. @Mabel don't say that u can't marry an O'level holder. The Dangotes of 2day didn't attend university. There are some o level holders out there that are way smarter, wealthier, well spoken and more business oriented than many graduates. He can always get a uni degree after marriage if necessary. So never say never.

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    2. I get where Mabel is coming from, I myself cant marry an 'O' level holder, its not necessarily about being more business oriented or wealthy etc, there's more to it for me I think, at least let me have it at the back of my mind that you have gone to Uni and you have a degree! In some weird twisted kind of way, I feel its safer that way and God forbid if something bad happens to you in the future and you lose everything, well at least you have a degree. Degree after marriage ke? abeg its better to have it before marriage, what will I tell my parents? How will I even start to explain? I can introduce a "Dangote" to my parents but I know the first thing my dad would ask me is "what university did he go to" loll.

      As for third class, hmmmmmmm I really dont know, maybe if he has the third class with a mad ass job. But if he lies about it, then thats a different story entirely. Lying about anything is already a dealbreaker for me.

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  9. I believe there are certain things one shld know bout their spouse BEFORE the marriage.
    In his defense the dude hid it from her and thus didn't lie. That he had a 3rd class in uni doesn't mean he didn't really come 1st in his primary ati secondary skl (after all he didn't brag bout his uni certificate).

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    1. Lying is not only by commission but also omission. He deliberately left that piece out and misled her. Certification shouldn't be the be all and end all but why lie? I remember the guy I was dating before things went awry read sec admin and when I told my mum, she was like what? A man? But he's doing very well for himself now. I still say if you feel you have to hide pieces of you from me,then it means you really don't feel comfy with me and we have no business being together. OJ

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  10. I'm more concerned about the "Lying" than the Lies he told.
    It's an established fact that 3rd Class graduates are more placed in the society than their 1st class counterparts.
    But Nigga, if u lied about certificates, what else are U lying about?

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  11. How are they more placed??? I understand trying to give them hope and all but why give them false hope?? The truth is that they struggle more, getting a job is much more difficult. Maybe this difficulty makes them more resilient pushing them to think outside the box.

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    1. Exactly! That's it! @ "Maybe this difficulty makes them more resilient pushing them to think outside the box"
      Basically, the point is whether one is a first class, 2.1, 2.2, third class or pass graduate, it really does not determine how successful you'll become. Your ability to work hard, attain excellence, and think outside the box is what counts. And nothing should be an excuse for failure. As much as the message gives them hope, it also challenges them to do great things and makes them understand that nothing should limit you. It inspired me sef! So don't get it twisted! And some of them are actually highly placed!

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  12. Flnp u read my mind n you truly know where am coming from.

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  13. 3rd class or 4th class I really don't care as long as he's a good hubby to me!

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