Let me begin by saying that I am so happy and it's been years since I felt this way. We ought to take happiness wherever we can find it, isn't that what they say?
Thelma I just don't care. I've been single for longer than I care to remember and I am so f*cking tired of being alone. To you it might be wrong but to me it's all right! Yes I know he's married but so what? It's not like I'm going to have sex with him, I've already told him it's not going to happen and it's fine
I cannot remember the last time I had this kind of companionship or had someone give me this much attention, I can't remember the last time I had someone call me in the morning and at night to check up on me... I cannot remember the last time someone took me out and told me nice things. He does all that for me and more. It's not even about money, he doesn't give me money as such. But HE CARES. I matter to him. When last did I matter to someone?
T for years I've done all the right things, I've lived a good life, I've been celibate and I still am. But in spite of all that my life has been bland and empty. Then someone come and shows me what it feels like to be loved and cared for, and you expect me to turn it down? You must be joking!
Don't worry, I know it's not leading anywhere, I know he has a wife and kids. I'm not tryin to replace them but I'm not giving up on what we have just because he's married. After all we're not having sex and we're not physical, so I'm not doing anything wrong! And if you think I am then please tell me why and how I'm wrong.
The above is a reproduction of a conversation I had with a blog reader. I'm posting this with her permission. We argued on this relationship that she has with a married man; she's certain that provided they're not sexually active with each other, they don't have a relationship; therefore they're guilt-free and she's doing nothing wrong.
I, on the other hand opine that they're having an emotional affair, and although devoid of sex, might be just as wrong.
We both argued and eventually agreed to disagree. Yet we agreed to throw this open and hear your thoughts and the reasons behind your thoughts; is there any wrong in being close friends with a married man who cares for you, yet does not have sex with you? Is anyone else presently in a similar situation?
We really would like to hear your opinions on this matter.