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Investing In Love's Business.







A friend of mine is in this dilemma and I've been there once before. Questioning the wisdom in investing your own cash in the business of a guy you love, who you're very certain loves you, but who is yet to put a ring on it. You know it may go either way so you become very undecided. When I was faced with this decision I didn't go through with it. As giving as I like to be I just felt it was unwise. But some ladies, some who I'm friends with have gone the other way and made their cash available to him, and they don't all have sour tales to tell. But what would you advise in the situation below which is very similar to my friend's:  



My boyfriend of three years is at the moment unemployed but he has shown his desire to do something just to keep himself going. I am at the moment thinking of investing my leave allowance (I work in a bank) into his proposed business but I am skeptical on doing so as he hasn't popped the question yet but we have talked about getting married. Would it be a wise decision to invest in his business since we are just lovers or I should wait until we get married?



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Comments

  1. Honestly, I will NOT.
    Na boyfriend him be.
    If he's a husband, CERTAINLY!
    A Fiance', maybe.
    But boyfriend, NO WAY!

    It's an unwise investment. Majority of such experiences didn't end well. Let him either make u his wife & give u the peace of mind to invest even ur life in him or let him go look for a job & save his capital.

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  2. Society sees nothing wrong with a guy investing into his boo's business but frowns when the tables are turned. The latter is always subject to debate. But there's love and (adequate) trust, right? So why not? Invest away.

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    1. Memphis it is dat way because its d decision of the guy to want to spend d rest of his life wth the gurl! A gurl is unsure what the guy has in mind for her...

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  3. No matter how we may argue about this, in most relationships the guy spends more on the girl so it's not out of place to see a guy investing in a girl's business. Most times when a guy does that he already knows that such girl is his last bus stop. A lady cannot tell for sure so.......J

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  4. If you have the money and dont need it back, then do it. You are sowing into your own future. However do not attach any sentiments to the investment. A lot of people cannot separate the emotional part. So its not wise for most.

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  5. Do not do it. Except u know u have excess and u can easily throw around the money and even if he leaves you,you would not FEEL it much.

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  6. If you decide to invest in his business please make sure you are a shareholder and there must be a signed agreement... if you guys split you do not lose totally...I would also advise a guy to do the same.

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  7. I'd advise your friend to consider how she would feel if after the investment he doesn't marry her. Some people help just because of God. She should also consider how she will feel if he doesn't marry her but pays her back. If that is okay with her, she could help him, but treat it like any other business investment.
    If na me sha, ee go hard and I'd likely not do it. They say never mix buisness and pleasure.

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  8. why would you ever put money down on anything for no return? And 2 think he is jes a mere boyfriend 4 dt matter! your name simply must be a part of the deal or hold onto the cash...else he shows more commitment by putting a ring on it. As a guy, I can't put my money in a woman's business unless there is a guarantee that we are gonna get married coz I no be father christmas, talk more of a lady. Plz women gotta be wise o, coz these guys of nowadays ain't smiling as well. But if she has enuff money 2 throw around like others said, then...



    *lips sealed and watching*

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  9. My boyfriend needs money for an investment? I can afford it easily? Then I'd LEND to him. This wouldn't be because I hope he marries me but because we're close friends and I trust him to do right.
    If he's an honest man and knows he's ready to float the business and make it work, he should agree to it. Sentiments aside. Though it shouldn't be an amount she'd need soon, as businesses take some time to stand before one can off capital loan.

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  10. Even marriage is not an assurance of eternal faithfulness.

    If you can spare the money, assist him as you would someone you are not emotionally attached to. If you are so unsure, get a legal backing. Who knows what the business may grow to become?

    Life is all about (calculated) risks.

    -F

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  11. Any amount you cannot part as gift pls do not lend any1 esp. le boo if it doesnt work out according to your plans u'd hurt for a long time. le boo isnt hubby biko

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  12. Capital NO, Guys can't be trusted

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  13. Its probably best if you don't put your money up for him. I'm a guy and I wouldn't want to put any girl in a situation like this one you are in. My point is, if you really trusted this guy, you wouldn't be putting this up for advice in the first place. So, don't do it, ok?

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