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Lessons I Learnt From a Brutal Teacher.

Ok guys, it's no news that experience teaches us lessons the way no one/nothing else can. I can attest to this because there are certain life lessons I have learnt that only experience could have taught me. I'll share a few of them with you; 

Money & Friendship don't mix. Seriously people, they just don't. I've lost a friend over money. I paid for something and several months later the goods still weren't delivered. Friend travelled out just after I made the payment and I had no way to contact her. Eventually she returned and things were smooth until I said I want my money back, keep the goods, I needed them months ago not anymore, I want my money back. And that's how my friend changed it for me. I saw a side of her I never knew. We'd been friends for many years and suddenly because of some thousands she showed me an entirely different person. Wow! And that's how friendship of several years came to an abrupt end. 

Another example is this; a friend purchased 'something' worth several millions. I drafted the agreements and my legal fees should have been a few millions. I'm too ashamed to tell you what I was paid, or if I was even paid at all. Of course if there was no friendship involved I would have enforced my payment but... Now this isn't to say do not do business with friends, just ensure that it's AIRTIGHT first. 

People want you to succeed, just as long as you don't do better than them. I'd rather not go into details. 

A man who just wants to shag you is willing to go to any length to shag you. He will jump through any hurdle you put up, skip through the hoops, sell his mother's head if need be, promise you heaven and earth... do whatever needs to be done just to accomplish that mission. (Now I'm sure you don't need me to tell you the experience(s) that taught me this lesson. Most of us ladies have taken this course, failed the exam and learnt from our folly). 

Your best friend has a best friend. Be careful what you tell those closest to you, they have others closest to them too. 

Sometimes life throws challenges your way, strangers; people you didn't know a week or a month ago would be the ones to help you pull through. Your loved ones will either not care enough or secretly want to see you fail. I can tell you stories that taught me this lesson using this blog. In the last one year a few blog readers have played a more active/useful role in my life than people I've known all my life. It's absurd but so true. I presently have some blog readers (whom I met on the blog) that I'm closer to than I am to some of my own people. I cannot go into details but guys, I used to hear this before, now I know it's true. God raises the least likely people to raise you up when you're down. 

I don't want to say too much, I want to hear your stories too. What lessons have your experiences taught you? And oh, don't forget to share the experiences that led to the lessons, that's the fun part! Please share. 


  1. 1. 3 friends can't play for 10yrs.
    I used to have 3 close friends for 8yrs, we tell ourselves everything & anything. If anyone had told me i'd lose any, i'd have died but 2yrs later, I have just ONE, my bestie, I love u to the moon, beyond & back Bunmi. The other 2. One just stopped talking to me (we no drag boyfriend oh), the other moved & forgot even my name. I was the one calling & visiting for months until I picked my sense outta their toilet.

    2: NO ONE I repeat NO ONE is irreplaceable!
    Nna mehn, those that u feel u'll commit suicide over eventually turn out to be the ones u'll forget their existence.
    5months after I called my engagement off, My Ex Fiance seem like the "ay" in "okay" to me! After 5yrs & 2months of dating. I just remember him & forget him with a shrug! It's the Lord's doing & it's marvelous in our eyes.

    3. U can truly KNOW a man's intention after doing FBI/CIA.

    Judge me if u pls, but oh boy, I dig & dig & dig. I need to know all ur love tales are true after at least a month of dating! It saves our time & emotions but reveals his true self!


  2. I Can perfectly relate with the besty has another besty part,used to have dis best friend whom I never knew had another besty and God she sold all my secrets out to her besty n I became d isolated one choi. NOT ALL FRIENDS WANT YOU TO DO WELL. used to have dis very good friend whom I was so close to,she knew I had asthma,we were in d same reading group when I did my ND,I was having better grades dan she did and she was angry I was doing well,she invited me over to her place for dinner,I went,met her cooking,after few minutes of getting there,she started bleaching oil which she knew could kill me,I told dis gal to stop bleaching the oil but she refused,oya open door mk I step out but she no gree till I passed out,only thing I knew was I found myself on the hospital bed. Later she told another friend she had planned to kill me that day if not for her mum that walked in. O . Boy ohh since den many stories . Ohh but time wouldn't permit me to share or type.

    1. Damn,are u for real?
      Do people go that far? O.o!!

    2. Lord have mercy...that was satanic.

    3. That's evil! It begs to wonder if she hasn't killed someone else before. It takes a lot to go tru with such. Wow! (11th time sending...thelma are u seeing dis?)

    4. haaaaa Mabel stop it pls ure joking ryt??????

    5. The sad thing about life is that, for every one person that do not hide their hatred for you, there are several that are unknown but working day and night to see you dead.

      It started since the days of Cain and Abel and will not stop until the end of time. May God save us from unknown and unseen enemies.

    6. Mabel please tell me this is not true.NK

  3. #CollectsMic...

    Well,what can I say? C'est la vie...


  4. I've learnt that no matter how much you try some people will never love you so sometimes it isn't worth it at all.

  5. Yes oh sasha am for real ohh,even me I still find it hard to believe it till date. People are mean you know.

  6. Yes true, friendship and money don't mix. T, I'm not sure but I think uve told me about the friend u bought goods from who travelled etc. might not be the same one though. me too I have lost friendships over money, guys actually, like guys I thought I was actually close to, but unluckily for them, i can be a very MADDDD person when i feel like I'm being cheated. the first guy, i got another guy friend to send EFCC to his office in Abuja and i made sure i got my money back. 2nd guy thought he could be smart so i called his boss at work and sharply, dude paid me. once money is involved, they would show u another side to them, so so true. money and friendship don't mix. But i still don't understand y i am different though, i just cant owe anyone, infact i don't borrow from friends, i wdnt evn b able to sleep at night.

    2ndly, yep ur bestfriend has a bestfriend. i remember this chic i used to call my bestfriend, been friends since we were like 13, n then one day me her and another friend of hers went out to go c her boyfriend (i had already met her boyfriend before but this was the first time the other girl was meeting him) and then lo and behold, my ''bestfriend'' introduces this other girl to her boyfriend as her bestfriend. as in, infront of me she goes ''Mr A, meet my bestfriend Miss B''. in my mind, i was like huh wait what? So since then, i no dey do bestfriend o. Jesus is my bestie.

  7. Life has taught me and continues to teach me that even some of your family members do not want you to succeed. They only use you as a cash cow to meet their needs, but honestly deep down theres no real love there.
    sad but true!


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