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"African Men Love Fleshy Women". Reality Or Myth? (Weight-Gain TipsUrgently Needed)

With no offense to anyone.. T can we have a post on how to put on weight pls? This may be hard to believe but there are actually people having sleepless nights over this. We may belong to the minority but it still remains a cause for concern, especially when it involves one's self esteem which isn't helped any by the "African man's love for fleshy women" theory. It's fast becoming an obsession for me and I worry everyday all day, which in turn isn't helping my struggle to gain some weight any.

Dear Poster I saw the above picture on Instagram last night just after I saw your request, and her post sounded just like yours. If you're on Instagram you can follow @bodynomics, they primarily cater to those of us who want to shed weight but they have a few weight-gain tips. 

Please I need to ask o! Do African men really love fleshy women? Because yesterday's post (for instance) written by an African man suggests quite the opposite. Also when I'm out I don't see many "African" men with fleshy women. So what gives?

I also know that some are attracted to fleshy women but because they don't look so good or appealing when you go out with them, they rather date skinny women who look much better on their arms. This is something I've observed over time. My friend who likes plus size women was dating one but always refused to take her anywhere or introduce her to anyone. Classic Ashamer/Ashamee situation. He eventually dumped her and married a size 8 lady. Secretly he craves a bigger woman but most men don't want to be carry about an Iya Akpati when their friends have Naomi Campbells by their sides...

So please while you offer weight gain tips, let's discuss African men's love for fleshy women; Reality Or Myth?


  1. Pls,when did "African Men" become an association and who is their spokesperson?
    All I wld say is some like it hot,some like it cold,some like it 3days old...
    Weight loss or gain,implants or reduction,etc should be done for ur self and esteem and not to please another mortal...

    1. Hahahahhahahahahaha. Oh sasha bone. I'm officially a fan. After me and SDK, you are d next sarcastic person I know.

  2. Confirm Akuko!!! MYTH of the highest order!

    They don't like any fleshy anything! Maybe a lil bit of boobs & Ass but once the belly starts folding & the mother Sunday arms appear, U become disgusting in their eyes even if U are the mother of their 5 awesome kids! Majority of men sha cos I believe there are always exceptions!

    The only thing that made me gain weight was lots of carbs, bread, spagg, rice, Fufu etc & rest of mind ie no cheating partner drama!

  3. Weight gain isn't only about eating more carbs and calories, u've got to hit the gym and lift some weights too, that's one sure way.

    1. My dear you don't gain weight by hitting the gym, you loose weight

  4. When you are not happy with the way you look as a person....whether you are slim or fat...then you need to deal with dat. As for me I have had issues with an ex who open him eye see me o say i no get body i.e. I be lepa...say make we go out na after I say yes, the rat say make I do something about my breast and ynash make e big! see me see o.....hen...broda in the Church o.I bless the Lord who ended that horror episode in my life sharperly but now wey I don dey get body he is now smiling at me....I bone am! be anoda man takia of me till I get small body? So now Mr Rat wan dey famz...back to the matter...some like it big and some small but when you become too big/small that its affecting your health...I guess thats when one should consider doing something about it...and adding weight is not by eating also, I am speaking from experirnce......#JoyDaNuGirl

  5. Most African men go for fleshy babes jes to "get some." But whnever they wanna get serious with a woman or looking @ a long term relationship with them, watch them go 4 the skinny/average kinda women with moderate tits and a55.
    T that's Y your friend who likes dating plus sized women always refused 2 take them anywhere or introduce them 2 anyone coz he is ashamed of them and only there 2 satisfy his joystick.

    *lips sealed and watching*

    1. LOL @satisfy his joystick. All this weight talk, abeg just do what makes you happy. I have heard n seen guys that were on about liking on slim girls and later married a fleshy one, so abeg do what makes you feel happy and healthy

  6. i hear sex with fatter girls are more enjoyable than sex with skinny girls is that possible ? can a guy explain because I've heard this from guys..They say the vagina feels different .. lol

    1. Yeah some guys blv dt d taller the woman, d longer her cervix, and d shorter the woman, the shorter her cervix and u know dt most fat women are short. Also some guys claim dt they like d feeling they get 4rm grabbing some flesh in dr hands while gbenshing away, unlike the skinny girls dt don't hv extra flesh/a55 2 grab. Some of d few reasons I've heard...

    2. Eesah wow , you know a lot about this topic. Im just gonna sit here and read comments.

    3. Actually from what I know is because fatter women have more fat down there which gives their vaginas a cushion feel that skinny girls don't have. Also they're known to secrete more juices down there. Then besides the vag their fuller bodies are softer and more womanly and most men want to be able to grab a woman and feel something not just bone. But remember that fat has degrees, if the woman is morbidly obese then that one no follow.

  7. Lol@sasha n eesah una no go kill person ohhh. Read online about a UK based gal who died today @24all because she went for surgery to add buttocks. I feel it's better we appreciate how we look n just be healthy,African men or no African men. Shikena

  8. Thanks T! Will check out the the instagram referral

  9. Meeeeee o. I can't never do a fat girl. Ki ni mi wa nbe. Max a UK size 10. Am not particular about yansh o. As long as the Bobbie is set. I no fit do babe wey no get boobs o, even if ur miss universe o. Mbanu!!! All them Eku Edewor. Na odo over ten o

    1. Anon,shows you love boobs,hope sey you no suck mumsy dry when you were growing. LOL

  10. Thelma I think you're getting it all wrong, what Mr Gym complained about was the "belly".whether you like it or not fleshy, well-endowed women are a beauty to behold.However, you have to be firm/all toned up with a flat tummy for full effect.I do not think that big stomach and flabby arms are sexy at all.
    Imagine a woman who is 36 D, DD with a 28 waist and 36 hips. That na the shape of life and that aint skinny.

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  13. oh boyz 2 years later i read this thing e too funny... meanwhile how can an african man gain weight.... with this kind economy


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