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Miss Perfect Wife Material.


I really want to know why being docile or subservient is qualified as being good Wife Material? 

One of our well known blog readers complained to me a while back that her Ex boyfriend of four years dumped her because (according to him) she wasn't wife material. Apparently she talked back, didn't go to his parents' place during the weekends to spend time with his mother and he constantly complained that she didn't cook for his friends, something their girlfriends all did for the rest of them, therefore she wouldn't make a good wife. 

Do men really want these supposed Ride or Die chics as wives (girls that will do anything for and take anything from them) or is it just a myth? 

In your opinion, What Exactly is WIFE MATERIAL???


  1. That picture is hilarious tho. Reminds me of the how to be a Nigerian wife post.

  2. Sorry to be tribalistic but this is typical of Igbo men with their backwards thinking.

  3. Chei, xx u wan start world war 5 oh!

    Anyway... A complete wife material is the Shulamite maiden who maintained a Chaste relationship with her betrothed & the Proverbial wife taking care of her home! (Both in the bible).
    There's boyfriend/Fiance privileges & Husband rights! Don't mix it up!

    But, for the 21st century wife material, (LOL), Nne do what makes U happy, comfortable & doesn't make u sin against God. (If U are happy & comfortable doing Ekaette for his friends & family, Go on. Just avoid fornication).
    I've been there & did that *cos I loved the feeling of satisfaction I enjoy afterwards* but na single ring I get, e no reach double, as for now, na empty finger sef. LMSAO. So NO guarantee Ngozism/Ekaetteism!

    Hence, I'll advice U stick to the bible's description! It gives U THE BEST "HIM".

    1. Hey Ruthy Love, dat's ma name there, Ekaette! lol, but this Eka is no nonsense one sha ooo. You want a wifey, do the right thing but don't expect me feed your battalion of friends and family mbok. This Eka is skinny and cant lift a pestle *winks*

  4. lol... i started hissing from the first one. pala pala!!! lol!
    No sane man in his right mind would want this ke? ahn ahn. this wan is not wife material o... it is "dodoyo" material.... meanwhile, the person that came up with this must be in "crazy" land. lala land too small o.
    Oya sane men get in here and give us your opinion of who a wife material is. biko!


  5. Story. Some real saucy women have husbands. Marriage is by the grace of God. Me i talk back to my husband, i am not an opinionless donkey. Different strokes for different folks. Anybody that can peel onions without crying isnt to be trusted.

  6. Lol. Been married 16yrs. I remember thinking being submissive meant agreeing with whatever the hubster thought, regardless of what I thought. Few months in and he sharply called Me to order. He said he asked me out cos he loved my grits and spunk. And didn't expect that to fizzle away just because ring was now on said finger, and he could see me swallowing ny opinions. He said I don't want a didirin for a wife o. I want someone who will challenge me and I can,bounce ideas off and be told the truth. Out came my inner tigress. Churches pls make sure to explain to young ladies what submissiveness really means. Stooping to conquer doesn't mean becoming a fool. OJ

  7. please! i'm tired of all this wife material talk! husband too get e own material oo.. bella naija today, posted a pre-wedding photo shoot between a bimbola and oladipo on their instagram page and a woman commented "he is engaged? he just slept with someone I know last week...rubbish nigerian men" !!! on bellanaija's instagram PAGE! bimbo must have seen it, so how does she feel! ..naija men are just something... make money and find you a sperm bank and raise your kid without man wahala..dazzall lol jokes ...(but I'm I really joking though ? )

    1. can u imagine?he slept with someone just a week ago!well dats not the end because he will apologise to his lady and they will get married sha!

  8. Thelma ride or die chic isn't related to being docile and not have any sense of worth. It's making up your mind to be with a man without looking outside, giving the relationship your all but draw the line on taking bullshit. (Well that is my definition of ride or die chic sha)

  9. Nawa. Its not by force to marry now? Number 3 though? that's like an extreme form of slavery. Please its never that serious.


  10. Me and my partner broke up at the end of last year. He wanted to go on a break, I didn’t want to but I eventually agreed. He said he needs time away for a while and be single. He said he would contact me when he was ready to speak to me again but its approaching eight months. I don’t know how long he’s going to take but I was willing to gave him as much time he needs to think things through. I can’ wait much longer, so I search whole web and I found very powerful magic person. He has this website , I buy from his love spell, and it worked after one month. I ‘m happy again.

  11. if guys from entire world thinking like this,, i better sleep on my own...


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