This evening I was to go over to my friend, Chocolate's place for a sleep over but then I remembered I was meant to see her mum this evening as well. I couldn't negotiate that so off I went to momsi's place. A few minutes after I got there Chocolate's sister-in-law (who's the same age as us) came down with her twin babies who she had about four months ago. Chocolate also had a baby two months ago. Now while I was there the in-law had guests, two ladies, about our age too. One was heavily pregnant, the other came with her daughter who's about a year old.
Just on Thurday I went for Yoko's introduction, this time last weekend I was in the East for Adaobi's traditional marriage. Next month Yoko and Adaobi would wed on two consecutive days.
Ngozi just called to tell me that dates have been picked and I have to be in Asaba first week of December, and also to remind me that I'm both bridal makeup artist and designated Gele tier for both days (with pay of course. LOL), plus Wedding Planner as bestie of the bride.
Presently Chocolate's friend Candy is staying over at her place for the weekend as well, Candy is Chocolate's bestie and she wed a few months after Chocolate. I think she might be preggers too.
After I left Chocolate's mum's I headed home but seeing as I'm averse to sleeping in my own bed on weekends, I took a detour and went to my friend's. It's actually her boo's place but she's there and they're my family. My friend and her boo are presently making altar-bound plans, so wedding bells are in the offing.
Just ahead of me as I drove over here were two jeeps driven side by side, one with GROOM covering the plate number and the other with BRIDE.
So you see, all around me I'm surrounded by weddings, marriages, marriage plans, pregnancies and babies. I'm at that age where the last of my friends who aren't already married are just getting married. The married ones are having their first or second babies. It seems at this point in our lives everything else in on pause and weddings/marriage/pregnancy/babies is the only dish on the table. Careers have taken a back-burner for now (of course we're still keen on our careers but for now they're not as primary...), of course no one talks about hot men and first dates anymore, no one cares who's having what party where and when, or the latest club that just opened on the island, the Runs babes are also among those settling into homes, religion and politics are mere words without meaning. Nothing else matters at this stage.
So you see, when you wonder why I write so much about relationships and marriages, remember that this isn't a news or gossip blog, besides that, I'm not going to post stuff I have no interest in like sports or scandalous details of other people's personal lives. It's my personal blog and (presently) it's centered hugely around what's happening in my life and in life around me, and right now this is my own reality.
Of course personally, as I have neither fiancé, hubby nor baby presently it's different for me, but I don't feel so inclined to share my 'personals' at the moment. I'm more excited by what I see around me, and this happens to be what I see around me. The only conversations I hear are about the best diapers, the best wedding planners, the best baby formula, the best methods to employ to get hubby to do what you want, the best crèches, the tribes with the best nannies etc... Wow. In a moment of realization it dawned on me that right now this is my reality, and it's a very interesting one too.
So just before you get mad or confused about my seeming fixation on these topics, just remember I'm at that (st)age and this is my reality.
And writing this has made me curious. I would really like to know; what is your own reality? What's taking/taken priority in your personal life and in the lives of your friends and peers? What do you and your people talk about the most these days? Do you all have a common ground, similar goals, similar ambitions? What is it that you find matters the most to people that are your age or in the same age-group as you, at the moment?
And (again) while we're on the matter, what other kinds of topics would you like to have discussed here? What do you think you and others might find interesting that's not already on several other blogs at the moment? I would really love to hear your thoughts.