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Nigerian Wedding.

So in the past few days I've seen things, and to the blog reader who asked, yes I'm still in the village. (I've got things to do in the East and the South in the coming days/weeks so for now I'm still here). And just in a few days I've learnt of several domestic disputes which arose from the kind of marriage that was or wasn't done, which leads me to ask what you think the most important form of marriage in Nigeria is, and why?

Is it the Traditional marriage, the Court marriage, or the Church wedding?

Over time I've noticed that everywhere I go to visit, every neighbour, every friend or relative seems to have someone in their family facing issues arising from the kind of marriage ceremony that was performed. Apparently some people just do one and move ahead with their lives. This often leads to unforeseen and unexpected road bumps in the future. 

So if you had to advice a person to do one (there are sometimes, and for a number of reasons only one can be done instead of all three) which would it be, and why?


  1. I think i'll advice The Court wedding... U will need ur marriage certificate for a number of things ie some jobs, travelling out, etc
    Also when there's major problem that leads to a separation or divorce. U'll treasure that Document more.

  2. If I had top advise a person to do one, I would advise having a court wedding. Like Ruthylicious pointed out, the certificate will be needed for a lot of things.The traditional wedding and white wedding are important, but, not as important as the court wedding

  3. I did it all. i think its better to do it all to cover all grounds.

  4. The problem is that tradition does not recognize marriage certificate. If anything shld happen to ur hubby u claim much with certificate if tradition says otherwise. If you are Igbo Nne or Nna biko do traditional marriage otherwise you are not married.

  5. Court first,traditional next and church last. Make the church a destination wedding if possible. The fewer the better...

  6. Traditional wedding is the major wedding. Any other type aside it is stealing. In the Bible that is the origin of marriage, it is the traditional type that was mentioned, where bride price is paid and parents give their blessings especially the bride's parent.

  7. Traditional wedding is the major wedding. Any other type aside it is stealing. In the Bible that is the origin of marriage, it is the traditional type that was mentioned, where bride price is paid and parents give their blessings especially the bride's parent.

  8. I would do all but d most important one is the court wedding cos it kind of covers so many things and it makes you look legally married according to Nigerians.

  9. In the bigger scheme of things, Court wedding is the most important.

  10. I did traditional and court wedding. They are the most imp to me.

  11. Traditional wedding is the most important according to the bible then court for legal reasons, church wedding is just jara

  12. Court wedding biko

  13. Court and Traditional. You can get your church blessing at your convenience.

  14. Court wedding, for all the reasons stated above. But if I had to choose, traditional and church will come after.

    I did traditional and court. I never fancied the crowd at church weddings while growing up.

  15. I would advise someone to do all. In Naija family blessing is really important. If one had to choose, sadly I'd say the Court wedding (because that makes it valid in the eyes of the law).
    But once again, trad wedding can be really small if it's a financial hardship, at least bride price should be paid. You can have a religious leader say the words over you with only immediate family too.

  16. If my memory of matrimonial/family law is correct, technically, the church wedding (when performed in a legally authorized church) covers the legality of a marriage certificate as well (as soon as it's registered in a court I think, which authorized churches do before they give you your copy). Think of it as two for the price of one; u get the blessing of God n The Church, and legally binding documentation as well. This only applies with respect to certain churches with the legal jurisdiction however.

  17. Everybody is shouting court. Its called a registry joor oh. For me the registry is the most important. Get that certificate. My mother is oyinbo, my father didnt pay bride price and they have been married for 34 years and going strong.

    1. Lol @ Everybody is shouting court. Its called a registry joor oh.

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  18. Do all three and save yourself the headache when it arises.


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