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Question For The Ladies

Your husband is dying, you are by his bedside. One day you come to the hospital and find a woman in his room with two children ages 7 and 4. He admits that this was his side chic and these are his kids with her, he admits being unfaithful and that he was her primary source of income. Hubby passes away a few days later and never left anything to the woman or the children in the will. You receive his $2.5M policy. You live a comfortable life already. Would you give his additional family a portion of the money?

Explain and pls be honest. 


  1. I would give them, why shouldnt I?

  2. At first I won't be too receptive because I will be mad as hell, he had a side chick n two children. Arghhhhh, but if they are not doing so well in terms of finances n the woman herself comes to ask for help,I will help with the kids school fees but just the kids not going to give the lady a fine after all she knew he had a wife before 'chucking' her ugly head in.

  3. No I will not...maybe in reality it would be different but as I'm thinking of it now I so would leave him to die alone and rot in the mutuary...thinking of it is even pissing me off

  4. If he wanted to,he wld have....

  5. For the Kids, I sure and definitely would support them, and I mince no words. For the woman, she berra go get a job. I ain't supporting her, the kids will get their fees paid in a school I can afford, and probably a little extra cash for xyz.

    The funds won't even be paid to the woman! Maybe the directly to the school.

    Or I just might give a one off lump sum,

    That's what I'd do. Clare

  6. The Chica got to go work! Shebi she has a secondary source of income? Lol, She should hustle well at it. Please what's the meaning of give her/ them some of it?
    The best I will do is pay school fees if she can't afford it, dazall!

  7. bcos of God, I might help the kids, the shouldn't suffer for mummy's sin, and ffs money is not the problem.

  8. Very intriguing question. If I were a woman and I were in such shoes the lady and the kids will get nothing. It's easy for everyone to be in touch with the chaste side of their humanity as regards this issue, but if we think deeply about it we'll notice that our human nature entirely disagrees with such a circumstance and will immediately yearn for justice...justice that will be readily handed down after the Will has been read. "Imagine the betrayal and arrogance, the nerve, the effrontery, the impudence...". My dear ladies, let the woman go and hustle. After all it's not like the kids were hungry when you saw them at the man's sick bed. Side chicks and mistresses watch out. >D

    1. dude, your harsh however I get your point.
      If I find myself in that position I will help the kids because they did not chose to be birthed by such an irresponsible bunch(my husband and their mom of course) and shouldn't necessarily suffer for their sins.I would do everything I could do to ensure they do not lack and they go to school, for the most part Ill be a mother to them.As for the mom, the mistress, talk to the hand to me she will not/does not exist

  9. LOL. Memphis Oh! My belle biko!

    Honestly, I will help ONLY the kids. I'll have a trust in their name sef. But as for the woman, she should just fly to another planet when she hears I'm on earth!disgusting whore!
    If I can help a total stranger, how much more my step kids. It's nothing.
    The mom & my husband hurt me not the kids!

  10. Abegi..... he had enough time to include them in his will, except he really didn't believe the paternity of the kids. They won't get adime from me, especially if I have been working all thru the time and d lady just dey siddon for house. Make she find another aristo. Tee

  11. I totally agree with Memphis, she's not getting shit

  12. Some commenters here don't have empathy. So the little kids shud suffer for the infidelity/wrecklessness of their Father? Wow! Forget abt the mistress, she has nothing to do with this. Afterall she may not even be aware of ur own existence.

    1. You only talk about empathy if the dying man was a little close to a survivalist. Seems you didn't get the picture. Dude was rich or close to being rich. Mistresses of such dudes hardly ever get neglected so unless it's a fairytale world, mum and kids get NOTHING.

    2. The empathy isn't for the dead man, but for The innocent kids who wud face ur wrath just cos of pride. They don't even know wat is going on and "he was her only source of income"-the side chick. And you have gotten $2.5m in Addition to your living comfortably. They(kids) shud suffer yeah? Wow again!

    3. Memphis! Have you ever been a woman before?! You are sha trying to put it into perspective for us! We get it! Hehe! Lol!

    4. Uyi that's the point I'm trying to let you understand. Who told you the kids would suffer? While the wife was digging ridges with hubby, mistress was living like a queen. And you think the man wouldn't invest on the children of his mistress? Such ladies gaining from a rich dude would have nothing less than N2million. Let her change her lifestyle to enable her take good care of her kids. Wifey shouldn't be emotionally blackmailed with *suffering* kids.

    5. @ Uyi, there are lots of children suffering in orphanages. The money will be more useful to them.
      The guy had 7 years to plan for his kids future. Why didn't he do anything about it?

  13. She and her kids aint getting a penny, not even a half torn 5 naira note. My husband (emphasis on MY) left things for me, meaning you've had yours while he was alive. Lady better take off your designer shoes and buy flats to work your whoring ass off. You shared my husband while he was alive and now you want a piece of him in death? Haba babes, have a conscience and allow me mourn my husband in peace with 2.5 million dollars as handkerchief.

  14. I'm sorry but they get NOTHING!. Besides, he was a quarter past dead when he confessed, how are we so sure he was even in his right senses? why couldn't he have confessed the day before or something, never take seriously, what an 'almost-dead' person says. I can forgive but sadly, the kids have to be 'punished' for their mother's sins....

    Numbers 14:18..."The Lord is slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love, forgiving iniquity and transgression, but he will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, to the third and the fourth generation..."

  15. I will if they are not doing well. But if they are, then there's no need for me to give them anything

  16. I would definitely give especially if they are in need, preferably a one-time-lumpsum. For God's sake I could be dead the next minute too and leave all those money behind. More so, this is somebody's DEATH BENEFIT we are talking about and not my money (originally).

    Do we even know the circumstances surrounding the birth of the children or the start of their relationship? There are a lot of married men posing as singles just to get their target lady.

    Regardless of the circumstances, I would give if the woman and children need and want it. If I could help a total stranger out, then I see no big deal in helping those who share a bloodline with my own kids and I would say again: the husband-stealer is not so much at fault as the randy husband.


    1. *Regardless of the circumstances, I would give if the woman and children if they need and want it.

  17. Not a dime! she should have been smart enough to get all her 'gettings' while she could and ensure her kids security, like others in her position do. Her failure to do that is her own undoing and na so God dey take cash them. The man that fathered her kids and knows her well did not leave her anything, who am i to now interferre with that situation. As you lay your bed so you shall lie on it. When you decide to play a dangerous game like that, you know the one were you are full time mistress to a married man and decide to give him kids while at it, smartness should be your watchword because if you snoose, you i said, Not a dime!

    1. He didn't leave the money in a will. It was his death benefit (as it is called in insurance) and naturally, your legal spouse is your 'named beneficiary' or next of kin to whom the money is paid (except otherwise stated. We should note that mostly, only one person is named as beneficiary). I believe the husband would expect the wife to show the other woman (or at least, her kids) some compassion; that is why he mentioned that he was the woman's primary source of finance.


  18. Lol. Like I have said and wld say again,mistresses and side chicks shldnt be expecting wifey benefits in times like this. There are terms and conditions to such r/ships.
    Anyone who says she prolly didn't know he was married is just in denial. They know. They always know. If he had one child,I'll say it was a child by mistake but I will not pretend the 2nd and subsequent ones are too.
    As Queen Spiecy said,uve shared him in life,allow his legal wife to mourn him with her $2.5m as handkerchief. He cheats on his wife and still expect the wife to bear his burden after death?

  19. how can I be sure he has not left $10M for the side chick and her kids? If he could hide them from me for so many years, he can also be lying to me that he didnt leave anything for them. I won't be a fool for the second time.


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