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When, What & Why? (Do It Over Again).

Today has been a day of retrospection and reflection for me, and to be honest at the moment I'm not in the liveliest of moods. So during a chat with my friend Ginika this evening we began to reminisce and talk about quite a lot of things and it was then that I blurted out that I wish I could just turn 19 again. She asked why and I gave her my reasons. After hearing me out she told me she also wished she could turn a certain age as well and told me the things she would do differently if she could. 

Like I've already said, I wish I could go back to 19. 
Why? Because that's when things began to go awry. That's when I made my first BIG mistake, that's when so many ideas, thoughts and opinions were formed that defined the events of the years that followed. 
What I'd do differently... Well among other things;
I would have taught myself that I didn't need certain things, and I didn't need to do certain things to get those things. 

I would have taken my education a lot more seriously.

I would have grabbed the opportunity to learn the ropes of music production when it was offered to me  instead of this thinking I still had so much time. 

I would not have listened when they told me I'd lost too much weight and I needed to gain some back.
I would not have taken it all for granted. 

I would have saved all that money, or invested it. Unfortunately I'd thought the well would never run dry...

So hey, it may not make much difference though in a little way it might, but if you could choose an age from your past what would it be, why, and what would you do differently?


  1. I wish I could go back to being 20 because dat was when I took wrong decisions in my LIFE,when people where telling me I had an hour glass shape that I never knew would now turn to fat,I wish I never had to mix with bad friends n finally I wish I jumped at d offer of learning fashion n hairdressing for a free offer.but I tnk God because all these experience n many more made me d strong woman I am today.

  2. I don't really have any big regrets about the cards life has dear me. Maybe back to 19 and not give my virginity to who I did because it really had no value to them,and perhaps marred me in some respect. My one wish would be to go back 6 months ago to where I received some revelations that have changed life for me as I knew it.

  3. 16. Would have learnt hair braiding or tailoring before going to america for university. The korean girl that did manicures in my dorm set up businesses at the mall nearby and had a full scholarship. Pretty much learnt a trade and applied myself and time better

  4. Oh T, Did we live almost the same lives or what?
    I would love to be 19 again!!! Why?
    *I wouldn't let my virginity be taken away without my Sane consent.
    *I would choose Education over Biochemistry.
    *I would have given my money well better treatment cos by now, it wouldn't have run dry.
    *I wouldn't have had a matric party cos that's where my woes started.
    *I wouldn't have undergone my life threatening surgery.

    But hey, This is ME now, & boy, do I Love me or what! I'm Too Proud of Ruthy!

  5. Its official. 19 is when things start going south. Those are the very same things I wish I could go back and change.

  6. Just last year...
    I wouldn't have put on so much weight as I have now... I went from a size 6/8 to size 12! I'm now like the orobo in the house and Iv(my body) refused to lose some... I just felt I was looking scrawny, unhealthy and anyone that asks me "so how is school?", and I tell them i'm through.. they go "what?!!!!!" and people kept looking at me like I was one baby. And I felt the solution to that was to become fatter... now i'm hating it! :( yeah! I guess that's the major one... and well I probably would have served in a multinational company and not choose to serve in a school. Didn't want to start going through 3rd mainland bridge traffic trauma just yet! Lol.. so I guess... that's all.

  7. I would have gone abroad to study instead of waiting out the strikes. I wouldn't have had sex for free because I liked the man and wanted to be independent. I thought men like that. It turns out men want free sex. And men like bad girls. By the time I married in my late 30s, those bad girls had teenage children. Oh, I'd have more sex in my early 30s instead of believing I'll get it when I'm married. Now, I'm sexually frustrated.

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  9. awww cheer up T, what you have gone through and whatever choices you have made in the past have only made you the amazing person you are today and your blog is a gift to others and your own way of blessing others (even though you might not believe it sometimes). Thanks for yesterday too, it was a pleasant surprise.

    For me, I would say I wish I could go back to when I was 17,which was the same year my folks shipped me off to college in England and I lost all my christian values but I thank God I had a major life changing experience which prompted me to move back fully and finally 2 years ago and I found God, myself and my christian values again. lol so yep definitely 17!!!

  10. I wud ve saved more n spent less... nw,sea don dry choiiii.... gurls i(we) alwais fink we can neva go broke lol... ms tee

  11. I would say 19 or 20, I wish I would have had sex and partied away and not be such a bookworm in uni but it's paid off now tho but I kinda wish av slept with more ppl not just one recently at 28 after getting tired of waiting till marriage


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