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You're Not a Wife Till You're a Wife. (10 Things Not To Do For Him TillThen).







10 'Wife' duties avoid with your boyfriend. For those who don't already know....


1. Some ladies think that acting like a wife will automatically persuade the guy to put the ring on their finger. That is faulty thinking and could lead you into big emotional problems.

2. Just so we are clear, until he puts the ring on your finger, you are NOT, I repeat, not, his wife. You go everywhere together, hold hands, kiss in public, he introduces you to his friends as ‘my wife’, all that is nonsense until he puts a legal ring on your finger.

3. You are dating him, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you. Dating and 
marriage are totally different things. Even if he is engaged to you, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you.

4. Some men demand that you cook for them, organise their apartment and give them sex to prove that you are good wife material. Don’t you fall for that. Any man who tells you that wants to use and dump you. And, DON’T move in with him because that will automatically make you his ‘in-house-mistress’ who will perform all his wife duties for him without the commitment of marriage.

5. You don’t have to submit to him until he puts that ring on your finger. Some men demand that you should submit to them because you are dating. If he wants you to submit to him when you are not dating, just think of what he would do to you if you are married to him.

6. Don’t give him your money unless you are sure that you will get it back. If you give him your money because he is a ‘potential husband’, you can kiss that money goodbye because you may never see it again.

7. Stop giving him your body whenever wherever. Anytime he wants sex, he calls you up, yet he hasn’t put the ring on your finger. Giving him sex is counter productive. Your objective is to get married to him, not to warm his bed. Pretending to be his wife by giving him sex will not make him put that ring on your finger.

8. It is not complex: if he wants you to perform wife duties for him like cooking, organising his life, sex and all other wife duties, tell him to take you to his family and organise a marriage.Stop being foolish. If he really loves you as he whispers in your ears, he should take you to the marriage registry.

9. If he gets all the wife duties from you for free, why on earth do you think that he will make you his wife? If he is not ready to make a life commitment to you, he doesn’t deserve any wife benefits.

10. Protect yourself from emotional and sexual abuse. Stop giving this man what he doesn’t deserve. If he is not willing to honor you by putting that ring on your finger, then he is not worthy to receive wife benefits from you. When you become his wife, then he will get treated like a husband.



This post is originally titled 10 Wife Duties To Avoid With Boyfriends


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  1. I knew this isn't ur write-up. Even though the points are valid, the message is a bit repetitive and all over the place.

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  2. LOL @number 8 " Don't be foolish. This is just the truth o T. I have so vowed not to sleep with any guy again except he does the right thing by marrying me legally. #Teamcelibate

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  3. If u wanna be a wife,be with a guy that's ready to be a husband and believe me,when a guy is ready for marriage,any flaw u have wld automatically become invinsible in his eyes...

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  4. Is it just me,I feel its the sex people hold on to the most....biko na the two of una do am na.nt all babes engage in the slave trade relationship ohh,now dat we are in the days of Brazilian weavons and iPhones...that naughty house wife

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  5. The title of this post should have been different, it said 10 things to avoid instead there was a lot of repetition. There are some valid points but please let me ask, what if the guy is doing things that only a husband would do? Eg he rearranges his life to better accommodate yours...

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    1. My Exact thought. Babe, if Le Boo is paying ur rent, fees, gives u money for crocodile hair & snake clothes, U should freaking do ALL the above & more! He's doing hubby duties without commitment so u either reciprocate or bounce!

      If he treats u as a Gf, treat him as a Bf.
      If he treats u as a Fiancee', treat him as a Fiance'.
      If he treats u as a wife, treat him as a hubby! EOD!!!

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    2. A man has done nothing 4 U until he has made u his wife. Jes becoz he is your BF/Fiancee doesn't mean that u should friggin do all of the above and more. Millions of women hv done all of the above and more 4 mere boyfriends and learnt d hard way. It doesn't mean dt if u can't reciprocate, u shld bounce either. But U can only try 2 steer a middle course always. Remember u guys are suppose 2 be our treasures, our crown and we are suppose 2 do most of d chasing and trying 2 make it up 2 yall. So U pple should stop idolizing mere boyfriends!

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    3. yep! this reminds me of a conversation I had with a guy recently, tellin me how sex in a relationship is important to him, essential,l blah blah bloh bloh... and im like ehn no problem now, that if u want wifey privileges, r u ready 2 give me husband privileges? will u pay my rent? put a roof over my head? will u replace my car with a better one when its faulty? will u give me a monthly allowance for the upkeep of the house? will u pay my bills? I said all this and nigga went dumb! lets just say he is at the bottom of my friendzone list right now. please if u want wifey privileges then be ready to give hubby privileges. most Nigerian guys (yes I went there!) just want to take take and TAKE and suck u dry and not give anything back in return!

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  6. Thelma this post is d shizniz mehn..
    And I know this peace was written by a man coz this is how the minds of most men work. I hope the Ladies here would listen o, that's if they don't wanna keep learning d hard way




    *lips sealed and watching*

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  7. so true, i did all of the above and infact more, and what did i get.... NOTHING... trust me the next guy will have to work hard to get something or even anything out of me... am not bitter just better...

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  8. Dis might be off point but my bf does everything a hubby should do from paying my rent to placing me on a monthly salary...calls,surprises b all... but on d oda hand,all d cooking,and house chores and d love making,I do dem willingly not for d ring or for notice me... lol.. weda u do all d above or not,wat will be will be.

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    1. Thank you!! and the way some women talk about sex sounds like you are GIVING the man sex.. abi you dont like sex too ? I'm confused! " so we have sex, will you buy me a handbag?" are you a sex worker ??? ..yes wifey duties consist of other things not just sex..they are lots of grey areas with these things.. my bf buys me stuffs, fixes my car or takes to the shop, helps me study sometimes, teaches me sometimes and so much more...are those husband duties ? maybe yes or not..
      when I have the time, i cook for him help him with his wardrobe coz bobo dress sense before wasn't it at all and I do so much more for me..I would not add sex here because I don't see it as a duty or something used to trade (trade by bater lol). I do these things because I love him and he does so much for me.

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  9. It would be nice if people sourced the artwork that they use. Its not fair to artists to put so much time into artwork and not receive any credit for it whatsoever

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    1. Hey Charles, I'm sorry and I understand perfectly how you feel. But the illustration was that which came with the post and I listed my source up there. So, I lifted the entire post and that's the source above. I'm not sure I saw any credits on the site.

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