Some weeks ago I was talking to an old friend of mine who was excited to have finally graduated after so many years of waiting, and also about the possibility of going to law school this year. During the conversation she said to me that she was going to choose Lagos campus because I'm in Lagos, this person is in Lagos, that person is in Lagos, these persons are in Lagos etc, and with us in Lagos she knows she'll have few or no problems, we'll hold her hands and put her through, we'll also take her out and show her the ropes.
I didn't mince any words and I told her bluntly; bae ain't nobody got time for that! We all have our own ish we're dealing with and everybody is looking ahead-ahead, looking for the people that can help them move forward, not someone who's going to pull them back. You've got to make your own way and be your own hero.
She was kind of shocked but then I had to make her understand that I wasn't being mean or selfish, merely realistic. One of the girls in question owns and is running her little oil company, the other just had her second child, the other is an extremely busy business woman that's in and out of the country every week and me, I'm trying to get the different legs of my career running and ensure that every month I'm bigger than who/what I was/had the previous month. Nobody's got that time.
Of course we would not abandon you when you come into town, we're your friends and you're new in town so we'll be there for you. But there WILL be a limit, because "nor be you carry us come Lagos", you're not the reason we're here and nobody has the time to be someone else's hero right now.
And although this friend in question is a few years older than I am and I hated to break it to her this way, it's the truth. I've learnt that nobody is going to save me, everyone is too busy trying to save themselves. The sooner you realize this the better for you.
Of course in all this we continue to pray that God sends us help and helpers, but first live your life like you are completely On Your Own, it's the safest bet you have.
Have an awesome week ahead guys!
Anything spectacular happen over the weekend? Please share, I'd love to live vicariously.