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A Woman's Story

A blog reader sent me this link from Stella Dimoko's blog written by SDK, and asked to share with you. It's quite a read. 

They were so in love back then and this babe gave him everything and part of giving everything included being driven to the Doctor's every two months for a 'Flush out'.

The abortions went on for years,every two months I think..He was rich and suave,the talk of town and everybody expected them to get married.
After dating for years,they broke up and he took a walk and married a Christian sister almost immediately.His kids are almost through with their University Education and live abroad.She has been married for as long as I can remember but is yet to conceive.
She has been everywhere,done all the tests and is in her 50's already...

Years later they ,et and because she wanted closure she asked him why he had dumped her so fast when they were in love....his reply which she told me a few days ago was shocking.
He told her he was scared she would not be able to have babies later because of the frequent abortions so when he was ready to marry,he tabled his fears before his close friends and they planned the 'break up'.

The same thing is happening to a lot of in to unsafe sex when they are in love and paying the consequences of abortions alone.

If they end up marrying you,whilst you wait and cry on God,they try their luck with some other woman....that is why most of you have co-wives you know nothing about and side chicks who have been promised heaven on earth if they can birth babies for hubby DEAREST.

If you must have sex with someone who has not put a ring on it,then protect yourself babe,If the sex results in Pregnancy,PLEASE KEEP IT.

Abortion?Am I a saint?Hell no,I have been there and I know the pain and emptiness thereafter but I have made peace with my self and God and I am not ashamed to talk about it.

Some of you will never talk about yours because it happens 5-10times every year!!!
Some of you would rather die than tell your abortion stories to anyone else

The moral of this post? Stop abusing your body and damaging your womb all in the name of love.
And please know that whether he dumps or marries you,the consequences of the 'flushings' fall back on you! pay the price alone woman!


  1. Thelma SDK wrote that on her blog, I hope you don't get into trouble for not acknowledging her. The reader should have included where she got it from.

    1. OMG * Covers face

    2. Look up baby, I not only credited but included the link.

    3. She said she was betrayed? Lol foolish woman.

      Well all the babies she agreed to kill are fighting back

  2. Quite a read! Ladies love with ur head and nut with ur pu55ies. Ain't nobody saying u shldnt love, but as u fall in love with ur heart, make sure 2 carry ur brain cells along. That's if u don't wanna live 2 tell stories that touches d nipples and tickles d clits like this one.

    A world is enough for the -----------

    1. Lmaooo! How does this story touch the nipples or tickle the clits?!!! Hahahahahaaa! Egbami!

    2. @Kabuoy yes it does o, d woman is d one facing d music now while d man is happily married with kids. Worse is, she is in her fifties already and u kno wht dt means..

  3. Thelma uve done a post on Abortion before na.

    He who has eyes let 'em read.

  4. I just don't get why girls do tons of abortion for a guy and the most painful and annoying part is that after reading this or something like this,some girls would still end up doing the same thing. The fact that he told you to do the first should have sent alarm bells ringing in the lady's head but noooo,they love him and would do anything for him. Sometimes I can't help but wonder if they were brain-washed.

    Every two months? And they dated for years? Heaven have mercy!
    So during the course of their relationship,they never heard of condom and pills ba? Them try well well.


  5. Just went thru the post & comments on SDK'S blog & am yet to recover from the stories shared & d ones I know personally & passed thru too

  6. Na wa oh.
    Is life not hard enough? I'm too Pro-life.
    I'm keeping any & every pregnancy!

  7. The comments on SDK's blog tho... men

    I honestly don't understand why pple have unprotected sex. It's not safe for anyone!

    I was at Spar this evening with a male friend who I know is sexually active. At the checkout counter, there were condoms and I jokingly told him to get once since his girlfriend came into town today. He laughed and told me that he doesn't need it. I laughed and told he ad better buy one and stop forming he then said he truely doesn't need it cos he doesn't use it. My mouth dropped open.

    How would an educated man in this day and age not use protection? He said he can control himself such that when he wants to come he pulls out. I just stood there staring at him.

    At that time, I was thinking about all the STDs and STIs that abound and how someone will be stupid enough to think it's ok to have unprotected sex simply because sex with condoms isn't "sweet". Reading this post just made me remember his girlfriend. She's the one who keeps letting a man have unprotected sex with her every time.

    I don't get it tho. Why love someone more than yourself?

    Ladies please, love yourself first. You come first! Anything that will compromise your bright future shouldn't even be touched with a long pole.

  8. I'm going to be anonymous.. Yes we should protect ourselves but still, you still find couples getting pregnant. Frankly speaking,sex with condoms and not with condoms feels different. the latter feels way better. but using lubricants with your condoms can be enjoyable as well.
    Yes I was strict with my bf for 2 years about using condoms but the last 2 years we sometimes went raw (which felt great) and he did know how to control himself and pull out at the right time and i was strict with my BC pills and days I ovulated. Pregnancy was never an issue. I know that was a crazy thing to do..what if I got some std if he decided to stray ?
    well i'm pro choice, do what you want with your body BUT do it for you and nobody else. and abortions every 2 months? hmm

  9. People like to be holier than thou. It is not easy to be in a serious relationship, fuck regularly and not get pregnant. I have had my fair share of abortions. I am not proud of it but it is what it is.

  10. Sex before marriage is bad. Why have sex when ur not married? Until we realize that the things in the bible are for our own good to help us live great lives, then we'll continue to hear such stories. I stand against pre-marital sex. It's not worth it. Wait till ur married.A lot of people would av been alive today, a lot of beautiful babies would av been alive today if not for this abortion thing. Please wait!!!

  11. 9 years ago I had an abortion. I could not forgive myself. After reading this post yesterday, I decided to confess this sin which I did this morning. After 9 yrs I think I am prepared to forgive myself because I know God has forgiven me. Thank you Thelma.

  12. Abortion is a no for me, why not use a condom? God help us.

  13. I am both Pro-life and pro-choice. Some ladies have had abortions on their own,some have had their bf drive them to the clinic while some had their mothers arrange the whole thing (either clinic or some mixture to help flush it)
    This is 2014,getting pregnant isn't a mistake but a choice. U either insist he use a CD,drink pills (and risk adding weight) or monitor ur ovulation. If all of the above is too stressful, biko abstain! But pls don't tell sob stories when u get preggs outside marriage and he refuses responsibility because u owe ur body more responsibility...


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