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Thelma plz let us discuss this on the blog, I think it will be an interesting topic. You said a girl and a guy can be just friends and I don't disagree. But please how many of you will be this comfortable if your bf has this kind of over-close female BFF? It looks as if they (OC and Lala) are even closer than the couple and I wonder how the wife feels but am sure she doesn't mind. But Thelma if it's me I will mind o. Is it just me, BVs am I alone in this? Will you encourage this kind of relationship between ur man and another woman?


Blog readers, the poster addressed her mail to the ladies but I would also like to ask the men this question, because the female besties also usually have their own men. Dear men will you be comfortable with and accepting of your woman's very close friendship with another man, although they're just friends?


  1. No nada nehi mba lailai I will not allow/be comfortable with my man having a bff, then what am I? No oh even the ones that used to use him as agony aunt and relationship counsellor I stopped all that crap pls if u need therapy go pay a therapist or see ur pastor. Yh I'm possessive like that.

  2. In mj's voice **you wanna be starting something**

    Anyway... it depends... if you trust the guy.... (uhmnnn but sometimes, guys can't even trust themselves in some situations)
    You (obviously) won't encourage it.. you just might not go as far as telling the guy to choose btw you two or something crazy like that...
    although, boy-girl best friend kini(relationship)... me I don't understand sha... "ere ki laja bekun shey?". (which kind play dog dey follow lion play?) lol...

    But then again... I don't know how it feels to love someone and be jealous over the person or how you feel when your "lover" is in a "strong" platonic relationship with the opposite sex... so i'll just shut up and *look*

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    1. Why I'm I not surprised at ur igbotic idiotic foolish nature? Bitch.

    2. Anon, bitch ke. Is life that hard on u? You much have drank too much 'haterade' today. @ poster, no I wont... if u want a loyal shoulder, or a bestie, get a pet. a dog preferably

  4. Why cant this Anon just leave Ruthy alone?

    Anyway I just read on bellanaija that Lala was actually his best man....mehn....oh boy.......

    1. I heard on twitter she was a grooms man.

    2. I'm going to be my bestie's "best lady" A decision we made long before he met her.

    3. Hello Blue Bubble. What country are you from?

    4. I'm a Ghanaian T and please I'm not a lesbian lol my bestie is a hunk.

  5. I won't encourage it. Period!!! The risk involved is just to high. I'm supposed to be his BFF.

  6. I won't encourage it. Period!!! The risk involved is just to high. I'm supposed to be his BFF.

  7. Lol... Ruthilicious I'm so sure you're today's "Dear Poster".

    Back to the matter.. I think it's possible if they BOTH understand the situation. I do not believe that OC and Lala have never entertained such thoughts about each other at some point.. They probably even tried it and concluded that they were better off as friends.
    The point I'm trying to make is its possibe if they both know and understand their unique relationship. I've been best friends with a guy and we thought about it at some point and concluded that a relationship wasn't worth ruining our friendship over. We're no more "best" friends not because of the relationship ish, we just grew apart when i went to serve but we're still really good friends now. So, it's possible.

    As for letting my husband have a female bff, I honestly don't know how I'll react to that. I guess it will depend on the babe herself. If she comes off as territorial or possessive of MY man, then she will so "start something". And the supposed man gan, he has to be a tested and trusted honest person too.
    It all boils down to trust. But some men these days can so like to lie ehn! Wanting to eat from both sides of their mouth just like the post from earlier today.. God help us

  8. Err...well everyone and their own reasons and perceptions. I've come to accept mine, that I'm Best friend with a lady who had her court marraige I was snapping pix(with a Professional Camera),it got to a point I needed to snap with my BFF, He (the Newest husband) took the Camera and started snapping I and My BFF. Probably someone passing by would think he was d camera guy nd I&My BFF are the True couple.
    Point is, Trust is one of the virtues of Love. If you don't have it, forget your 'relationship'

  9. Chei, I've been LOL here!
    Dearest Anony, I am HERE! In flesh & blood. U are even becoming more frequent on this blog than me. Monitoring spirit Oshi

    Anyhow mehn, OC's wife is a real MVP allowing such relationship in this age & time when the devil is constantly paying for hotel rooms & laying rose petals on beds?
    DFH, I am your mother! Ur Sister! Ur Bff! Ur buddy! Hell, I'm ur Great Grand mother! U don't need no other female with boobs except our daughter!
    Oh, it's that serious.... ROTFLMSAO

    1. Lols. So u wldnt have a female dog? U harsh

    2. Hahah! I thot u were pretending not to notice! Has t gotn to calling names??? Lmao! #iforsay!

  10. His wife must be a rare breed to be ok with it. As for me, no way!

  11. Well, it's really OK for such a thing to be, but as Ruthy has pointed out, it won't be easy as the devil works overtime in this present age. I personally might unconsciously turn to a monitoring spirit if my girlfriend had a male BFF.

  12. Why r u on Ruths case? This isn't her blog and neither is it Urs. Just stop,pls...

  13. I used to be a class-mate's bff during our university days; sleeping in the same bed; eating same time etc. In fact, people thought he was my first daughter's dad but truth is we never talked about adding romance to our friendship. The issue didn't just come up and I never considered it (don't know if he did). As fate would have it, we grew apart and it was more of my fault. More so, I felt I had to hand over the 'space' to his wife.

    Would I encourage my man to have a female bff? I doubt it because that should be my role once I'm part of his life.

    Would I want another male bff? I've given some guys the opportunity and they all asked for sex.


  14. When i see the guy wear red suit for I'm wedding, ee no surprise me say I'm get woman as BFF n best woman

  15. Ermmm NO

    In past relationships, My BF can't even be in the same room with me doing his own thing,i would wanna know what he is doing.....its not that I don't trust him..I am just possessive and yeah clingy that way.

    He needs a BFF,it has to be me nii oh


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