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Mothers and aunties in the house, a blog reader needs your opinion. Her little boy is about eighteen months old, he's cute, lively, healthy and generally very happy. Most male tots at that age are usually very unruly, naughty and destructive. Hers on the other hand isn't any of these. He is playful but not the kind of child to push things over or scatter his environment, it's almost as if he knows what he can and cannot play with and unlike most toddlers, doesn't venture close to the things he shouldn't play with. Yet, he does so a few times and when he does once you issue a stern warning he backtracks and never repeats it. This all sounds very pleasant, right? But that's the issue. Blog reader is wondering is she should be worried that her little boy is so obedient and well-behaved, could this be a sign that when he's older he could be a pushover, or very docile? Is it really a good thing that he doesn't fight to play with what he wants to play with but immediately let's go and moves on to something else when you ask him to. Could this be a sign that he is a quitter or maybe even weak (minded)? Being stubborn can sometimes be positive depending on how it's channelled but what does it mean when the child is not at all stubborn, headstrong or aggressive like most children his age?

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  1. Don't worry yourself mommy,it might be a genetic thing..my son is going to be three in January and his a very hyper kid and stubborn as well...reasons been that me and my husband are head strong people...he might still change as he grows up,so don't worry too much....that naughty house wife

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  2. It's nothing to worry about. But since you are, gradually instill ideas and values to him. But you'd only be sure he's a pushover when he has a younger sibling, whom he leaves all to, just at the slightest whim. Then you can say something like 'no Jay, May doesn't always have to take your share of cake, she's had hers, let her learn to be content.'...and so on.
    You don't even know if he's just a child that feels he couldn't be bothered about trivial stuff, lol.
    Basically let him be, pray for him and groom him gradually if

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  3. I think its actually good to ve a kid like that, its a blessing, u could also teach him to be able to fight for some stuff so he ll not be a victim of bullying. When my boy was about 2 year, he used to be that way and then hos early days in school he became a victim of bullying and then he became very aggressive till he stuck a biro in the nostril of the boy bullying him, thank God d boy survived it, since then he has become stubborn and i always wish i could ve the easy going him back, but i ve learnt that spanking and yelling doesnt work for him, he only listens to advice and examples and little threats, so i work with that. Raising Boys aint easy tho *phewwww*

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  4. Ok I have a 3 yr old,so kids swing back and forth,that he is so sweet today in abt 6 months a change may occur,my son was ok till some months ago when the tantrums started,I know he is trying to get a giant leap. So kids swing from being nice and gentle to being 'naughty' its all part of growing up.oh u still will get to the hitting stage between 2-4 yrs,cherish these moments

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  5. It is to early to decipher his personality. Enjoy this phase of both your lives.

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  6. Please I want your kid... that's the sortta kid I want!

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  7. @ poster, thr's nufin wrng with ur son. He'll still change as he grows up. I av a 2yr old son. He wuz veri quiet n calm wen he wuz a baby. Doesn't cry or misbehave but he's now very stubborn. He always wnts to av hs way.nobody beats him and go scot free nt his mate, nt an adult Ur son will change with time.

    Perfect Nails and Lashes, Lagos

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  8. Dear poster there's nothing wrong with ur lil man a lot of parents pray for this type of child so enjoy cos he might change before you know it.

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  9. Some mothers can worry for Africa sha. Ah ah. Please when I start having kids, I would really love a kid like that.

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  11. You have been blessed among mothers...relax and enjoy it and if he decides to turn 'a new leaf' tomorrow, then you will still have no choice but to find a way around it. All kids are not the same and this saying of them changing from gentle to trobulesome theory doesn't apply to every child....kisses to the beby...#JoyDaNuGirl

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  12. MY 6-year old son was somehow like that when he was around that age bracket. Mind the tense-WAS. I am surprised by some of the things he does now. Thank God for the Bible which comes to my rescue whenever I have no words to speak following some of his actions.

    Lesson: babies change with time. It may be too early to start analyzing him. However, continue to watch him closely and step in to shape him whenever necessary.

    God bless our children.

    -F

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