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Dear Thelma... (Blog Reader Needs Answers)

Hello thelma, i am an anonymous commenter on your blog. Just want you to share this on the blog and get people's advice. Myself and boo have been off sex for month. We saw yesterday and  he asked for sex. I declined and he propose we sud have oral sex. I declined. Eventually we did have sex but i notice that le boo that couldn't go on for more than 20 minutes without releasing went on for about 40 minutes and he till hadn't released. He attributed it to stress and the long abstinence. But i am worried. Is he getting it somewhere else hence the greater stamina. And secondly i am trying to reason why he asked for oral sex. Can having oral sex increase the stamina of a guy. Please share on your blog. I am confused.


  1. LOL... All these sex talks sef..

    I honestly do not have an opinion on this matter so I'll just sit back and read the comments. Eesah, Ruthy, FNLP and That Naughty House wife, the floor is open..

    PS: Thelma this your blog will soon put me in trouble at work o.

    1. Don't face your POS database o! Be stalking Thelma's blog! Sir Tee is coming for you! Lol!
      Meanwhile, instead of you to face ur DB now... u wie now come and be forming... "ooo, I had a long day at work, I left late today cuz I had to finish my work.." now we know why u don't finish your work early enough!.. **putting a call through to Sir Tee**

    2. smh.. That shawarma is soo gone as in, past tense..

  2. lmao @Sunshine, must you mention my name? am I the ''causer''?

    Mehn this topic aint my forté, I can only attend to your legal questions/concerns or address the matter from a legal perspective.

    So I will wait on Ruthy,Eesah n co to shed more light. Thanks.

  3. My dear the possibility of him getting it else where is 98.1%. If he hasn't had sex for a month all u needed to do was show him ur Breast and the job would have been over lool. Unless he has masturbated his life out, thats another 2.8% of the probability. And the last 0.1% is that maybe he was just too excited and holding it because he doesn't know when else u will let him have it, since u said u have been starving him. Everything is about probability. Hehe

    1. I would say same. But like you said, it's all probability. Simply ask him or you might know from the quantity of semen released. Little, if he has been masturbating or cutting show and much if he has really been waiting with you.

    2. how does quantity of semen or sperm released apply to cheating? i know someone that releases a bottleful anytime he gets some yet he is a chronic womanizer. I don't believe that theory, its all bull crap.

    3. Bloggitup ur sleeping with a chronic womanizer, dats d only way you can know the quantity of his semen. I hope u use condoms all the time.

    4. Ama go with Tolu on this one....atimes I gat to learn,so on this....I say Tolu wins.......that naughty house wife

    5. Hey anon read up,I said "I know someone" I cant remember typing" I slept with someone" that someone is my close friend and we talk about almost everything that is how I got to know cos we have talked about a similar topic way back. Puma anon.

  4. Poster unless your man has a dysfunction that makes it hard for him to ejaculate then it's likely that he is cheating.

  5. i have had this kind of experience before, but he did not come after my so many effort, oral sex included. i had to leave him to find solution to it on his own o... anyway the long and short of it is he took a drug before the sex and the other time it happened, he said it was as a result of too much alcohol in system, he was not high but it had that effect on his sex.... and to the other issue, if he had been holding it for so long, he has the tendency to come real fast... so dear la boo is getting it somewhere or as someone rightly pointed out too much masturbation too can cause it... they get so use to holding it that when the real deal is done, it's like they are still masturbating and they don't want to let it go and when they finally want to let it go, it is stalked up there...abeg dey give the guy regularly na, no be ur husband he be?

  6. Dear Poster Listen to Tolu Alabi... Read her comment & keep nodding ya head.
    But first, Check if Le Boo didn't take drugs. If he didn't, Revert to Tolu's comment.

    You Pipu tha mention my name, God is watching U on 5D! #Yimu

    1. Ah Ruthylicious 5D toh bad oh! You don fast forward technology o! Funny you!

  7. It simple. A man that have been holding for a long time comes quicker than one that have regular sex. He loader to the T. Like some earlier mention alcohol and masturbation causes delayed ejaculation. My 2 cents

  8. I think ur boo is getting serviced elsewhere. My X back then, all I needed to show him was my boobs like a commenter mentioned above and the deed is done. He comes faster and last longer during other rounds.

  9. I thought alcohol makes a guy come earlier???

  10. I think he may have masturbated prior to having sex with you...its not necessary dat he may be cheating on you. Scientifically, Sperm is produced virtually everyday unlike d Female Egg. That said, there's no way physically possible dat a man would go a Whole 40minutes (hian) on a First Rounder without either Masturbated d First one or must have taken one hell of a drug. If he is/was cheating on you, you can't know dat tru sex duration except u're thinking he had had sex earlier in d day before actually meeting you wch, to me,is Beyond 'cheating'. So try finding clues outside Sex please. GoodLuck


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