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Dear Thelma... (Blog Reader Really Needs Your Advice)

I have been battling with prophecies for two years now. By this time two years ago,my close friend and church member called me to tell me that God said I can't be in the world and serve him because my destiny does not allow it,it's either I follow the world or follow him and allow him direct me. The truth is am a worker in church,I read monthly bible scriptures before d congregation,I pray and fast a lot but my only barrier is the married man am dating.
He is a divorcee and we have been dating for four years now. This same prophecy came out again through my pastor n this my church member two weeks ago. The scary part is my neighbour also saw d same thing a month ago and told me that the way he is sensing it is that GOD would allow a disaster happen for him to get my attention. Now the problem is am scared to leave this man,I work in an insurance firm with my ND n what I earn isn't even enough to cater for my rent,clothes,feeding I n my sis cos she stays with me  and let alone my family. Now how do I survive? I just enrolled for my HND fulltime and so many other things,this man has always been the ONE. Why would GOD not give me a husband if I don't forsake that man?I have questioned God,prayed and told him to have mercy and send my husband but he says no until I leave that man. Though i'm not having SEX with him because I told him no more sex and we have been without SEX for five month NOW. I don't wanna gamble with my LIFE n at d same time m scared of suffering again. No family member to help n mum is struggling to cater for my siblings. Thelms I need BVs and your candid opinion please. 


  1. Poster , all I can sense is that you do not trust God.In other words, you read, meditate and study the BIBLE but you do not know him.Otherwise how can you trust a mere mortal that God could just take his soul off in one fell swoop than his creator?
    My dear God is not known as JEHOVAH JIREH for nothing, it is not a joke that he has that name.
    Thousands or maybe millionaires in the East (for example) might have not even gone to school yet they are entrepreneurs.
    Im not going to sugar coat it for you, quite whining , stop being lazy and stop taking the easy way out.
    Get yourself educated!

    1. A hundred likes 4 ur comment. So @ Poster, U are testing d Lord's sovereighnty yeah? Issokay..

      *i jes dey observe*

  2. We're all called to serve GOD but not under duress. It's your Free Will that is most important. If you receive a special call to serve, the circumstances leading to/surrounding your task won't be depressing. Your friend, neighbor, and pastor have to explain to you what they imply by "being in the world". As far as I can interpret, it may mean "being dead to sin", as St. Paul will put it. If your conscience isn't completely with the divorcee you're currently dating, then pray fervently about it. Your prayers will only work when you trust GOD for a better option than your current boo. It's good enough that you've decided to be celibate. I hope this helps. Stay blessed.

  3. Hey blog visitor.. Pls read Matthew 6 with an open mind and open heart, your mind would be put to rest after you read this. And pls don't think because everyone is saying God this God that, they are being overly religious. I think if you just sit down and read this and let the Holy Spirit guide you, your mind would be at peace!

  4. I'm lost. Is the prophesy that u shldnt get married cos u have a spiritual calling or that ur BF is the one blocking ur calling or u and ur BF shldnt be together irrespective of if u have a spiritual calling or not...?

  5. Would you just allow God do his thing? You're worrying about things you shouldn't worry about. Quit being just the "next door christian" or better still church girl. Quit wilful sin and leave him. Things might be tough after all but just trust and stop doing Gods work for him.

    Whew....Good to be back home. Happy 1st anniversary to TTB. I missed everyone.

  6. If you know God and his operations then you won't say what you are saying. As for the prophesy you should even be lucky that God chose you to work for him; lemme tell you something that has worked and is still working for me, hold God to his word and watch the word work for you. Eph 3: 20 please read that also. If he can provide for common bird who are you that he won't take care of. Please leave that man and stop delaying your blessings. May God see you through. Will say a word of prayers for you dear. God bless

  7. If you have the call of God upon your life, there are somethings you just cannot dabble into. We are all special in God's eyes but there are some people that have been specially set apart. If God deems it fit to send a message to you, and you do not adhere to (all) his instructions, you're calling for trouble. Jonah had a very good reason for not going to nineveh, david still went ahead with the census and look what it caused. And Saul..
    I know people that things went really bad for simply because they held on to somfn God told them to let go of and their reasons seemed pretty valid and reasonable at the time. So dear poster, like you've read.. just trust in God.. it seems really hard cuz i'm sure you'll be wondering how you're gonna survive without the man and the perks that come with the relationship... but trust me... these reasons would seem pretty stupid when God decides to show you the price of disobedience. long story! Bottom line is... LEAVE the man, ask God for mercy and grace to move on... you'll be fine! God works in mysterious ways. Iv seen him do it. My friend is a living example! No dad no mum.. and today she's a graduate of Law... she would be called to bar this month,(how she paid for law school is still a testimony I would never forget.. God of the 11th hour) and she's in (nysc) camp now. Excepts she tells you, you'll never guess! God's glory over her ehn.. is unexplainable. And I know God is taking her places. so really! It'll be fine. Just obey and trust in him. **bear hugs**

  8. I'm sorry but am I the only one that read something different? How are you dating a married man if he is divorced, if he is divorced then he is not married. I'm lost.

    1. Aha! Ur man friend is still married. I know this will be very difficult for you,but God has already used different people to talk to will get by somehow dear.hmnnnn God have mercy on us all.bloggitup

    2. Huh? Was this neant for me? M even more lost now

  9. Dear blog reader, send the details of your OND and any other document to show you do have a degree and other qualifications to If you are lucky you may get a scholarship, however your admission to study for your HND should be ready to.

    If you want to serve God, you must trust him enough to knw he will be there for you and provide all your needs.

    include your telephone number let's take it from there (also quote TT blog) no concrete promise is being made here, however, if you are for real, you just may be lucky. Clare.

  10. Pls how is he married n divorced @ d same time? *confused*

  11. @ FLNP n anon 6:36, go and read your bible thoroughly.

    1. Actually, you sre the one that needs to go back and read your Bible thorougly, take some time out to study the new testament and then you would understand that not all divorces are sinful. The Bible (jesus) gives two exceptions whereby one can legitimately divorce without sinning. Many people just dont understand God's mercy. No point going into further detail because once i start on Biblical matters, i just dont stop. I read the Bible like a text book.


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