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Dear Thelma... Re: Spouse With Overly High Libido




Please Thelma help me ask is anyone else experiencing this? How do you cope with a husband that has very high libido? Don't misunderstand me please, I enjoy sex and even if we spend three hours in bed doing it, once he has rested he wants sex again. I cannot keep up and he might start getting it from outside if he not already doing so. Please what can I do about this? Btw I have hinted at therapy but he does not believe that there's anything wrong wit him. 





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  1. He has a high libido I don't think there is anything you can do about it my dear.
    Accept your fate and go on a fucking spree. Except you don't mind your goons help you out and am sure you won't want that.
    And be careful about this cos if you keep complaining he will go out to get some and you will cry and beg for him to even touch you.
    Be careful how you approach the matter.but you can ask wale and eesah; they are married men.how do they feel and react when wifey says "no honey pudding today"

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  2. I think you should be happy about this. I'm single but I've listened to the late Dr Myles Munroe talk about this so I'll share what he said with you.
    Firstly, He said Male NEEDS sex. They don't want it, they NEED it. Meaning it's part of them. As women, we're wired differently in that we NEED affection which can then leads to sex. The issue should be about creating a balance between the affection you get which would in turn help you meet his needs. Don't make your husband feel like he's raping you because he's constantly demanding sex(I'm quoting the doctor o. Please don't attack me). you should gladly initiate it sometimes and make him feel comfortable since he's able to express his sexual needs for you more often than you would have liked. Ok byeee. All the best in your marriage

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    1. In my opinion, you spoke well

      -F

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  3. Babe, enjoy your man and plz don't complain....#hian!
    If he starts away match, my dear he **** **** **** **** *** * ** ****

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  4. Most importantly, mind who you share this problem with. Your friends might decide to ease your burden. That's the way he's wired. Do you want to be part of his sex life? If it's yes, then free yourself from those things which drain your energy. If your husband can afford it, hire staff to do your cooking, cleaning and driving. Start working out, this will give you much needed stamina. Buy sexual aids; nurse's uniform, lubes and props. You can get these things online here. If you're not interested in his sex life. Gently tell him you can't match him. And he should be discreet and have safe sex outside.

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  5. Hnnmn this one pass me ohh,so I would therefore pass and let others comment,oya eesah,Ruthy,TNHW, Mr wale.

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    1. Lolll must Ruthy's nAme always be mentioned.....shes not even married, its like we just like her nAme on this blog....

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    2. Ruthy ain't married but seems she has solution to every problem. Lol

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  6. You all make sex sound llike it's fun fun all the way. If it's too much, it becomes a problem, sex no be food o.

    And that Pussy ain't made of steel.
    Most times sex can become painful for a woman no matter the skills the man plays on her.
    You dated this dude before marriage so I believe you know what you went into, find a subtle way to tell him what you feel.

    If sex is being enjoyed by one party only then there is a problem.

    What of when u get pregnant and can't have sex for a while, will he start getting it outside.

    No go kill ur self bcos u wan please man o, weda u give him 10 rounds if his case is serious he will definitely hit some random pussys out there so berra strike a balance n not hurt ur veejayjay.

    My 2 cents.

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  7. You all make sex sound llike it's fun fun all the way. If it's too much, it becomes a problem, sex no be food o.

    And that Pussy ain't made of steel.
    Most times sex can become painful for a woman no matter the skills the man plays on her.
    You dated this dude before marriage so I believe you know what you went into, find a subtle way to tell him what you feel.

    If sex is being enjoyed by one party only then there is a problem.

    What of when u get pregnant and can't have sex for a while, will he start getting it outside.

    No go kill ur self bcos u wan please man o, weda u give him 10 rounds if his case is serious he will definitely hit some random pussys out there so berra strike a balance n not hurt ur veejayjay.

    My 2 cents.

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  8. This is serious! My dear you gats take it easy o, make him no kill you, ah ah!

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  9. Sadly dear poster, its no longer your body, he has authority over it now since youre married.....

    1 Corinthians 7:4
    "For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does....."

    So erm, sorry, cant help you here mayt...

    Goodluck

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  10. Give him cyproterone acetate, get a prescription from a good doctor, since it sounds this serious.

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  11. U took dose words outta my mouth..cyproferone jare..bae no kill ursef o

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  12. Poster sorry for what you are going through, can't even begin to imagine what you are going through , 3 hours of sex and after he still wants more? Whew!
    First of all you need to have a talk with him, sit him down n pls explain how u feel. Tell him u are willing to satisfy him everyday but when he wants to a sex marathon everyday , it just won't work, suggest the therapy again or that you guys go see a doctor , but whatever you do try not to reject his advances, h e might be tempted to go out.
    Secondly, pray ! Pray with him everyday , pray about the problem on your own too, I recently discovered that praying regularly with my hubby brings calm n peace. Pls pray with and see.
    Wish you the best.
    Trace

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  13. Is he taking any drugs? Do you have any idea if he is? Cos I dont have dis kind experience and so i cant say much from a personal level but I have heard that viagra na d some stuff these mallams add to their tea can make a man go un-ending sexual marathon! #lookingconfused.....and I also heard from some married women that prolonged sex can make the veejay painful!.....don't now what to say again....#JoyDaNuGirl

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  14. Time to start crushing sleeping pills in his food. LOL! I think you've all missed the part where she said she enjoys sex. Three hours on a week day for instance when you have work, household chores etc. could be tiresome. And if it's every day well gadamn.... Hum yeah sleeping pills.

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