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I love you but I'm no fool.

I love you but I'm no fool.
That's what you said to me when I made that tiny request. I smiled and nodded, I understood you perfectly, I never meant to imply that you're a fool. I never intended to take advantage of the feelings you have for me, feelings whether real or imagined. I never meant to suggest you're a fool. After all you're witty, talented and super smart, these are the reasons I'm with you so darling I know you're no fool. 

But what then is love if you can't act the fool? What's love if you still apply your thoughts before you act? What's love is you're unable to be a fool for me. You see loving me is easy but it isn't convenient, and it isn't supposed to be either. Loving me is sometimes putting me before you, it's sometimes wearing a frown just so I can smile, it's breaking a sweat so I wouldn't have to, it's taking the time to do the little things, it's obliging me even when you don't want to, it's indulging my whims, it's tolerating my caprices, it's accepting my inadequacies, it's understanding me even in my silence. Yes loving me is easy, it just isn't always convenient. No, it's not supposed to be either. Neither is it supposed to be wise nor deliberate. You must love me without intending to and when you do you must be lost in it and willingly be a fool without being conscious that such a word exists. 

      So last night when I asked you to please go downstairs and get me a cup of water and your response was "I love you Nwando but I'm no fool", I smiled knowing with all certainty; no my darling, you do not love me. 

PS; love love love. Love gba kwa oku! Simple 'help me bring water to drink' you're telling me the fact that you love me doesn't mean you're a fool that would go downstairs and bring me water when I can do it myself. Nna where is the love? 

Good morning my people, people I love, people that I will gladly get a glass of water for even if we're on the seventh floor and I have to go to the ground floor to get it. Gladly! Because I do love you. Hehe. 

Have a blessed day ahead guys. 


  1. Don't mind them. Quoting love they don't understand. But babe,was he on his way downstairs before u requested the water or not???

    1. Does it matter if he was on the way down, on the way up or just suspended in the air above my head? What matters is that this individual has been singing Songs of Solomon for many many months and my first ever request was met with that response. Mtcheeeew. Lol. (To answer your question he was on his way somewhere and I'd just presumed he was going down).

    2. Hahahahaa! @ suspended in the air above my head and singing songs of Solomon! Lmaooo! The sarcasm is ehn! Lol!

    3. Lol. Thelma sha.

    4. Lol @ suspended but yayyyy now that i know u love me T, maybe u could come help me out this weekend.

  2. Bobo is calculating for the future. Simple request today, major request in 2000 days. Who will rescue him then? "Nahh...bebe..I'm Igirigituombe 1 of Nnewi. Get small water maka gini kwa? Just negodu. Don't let my fellow council chiefs hear this biko."

    1. Hahahahahaha, Memphis am dead from laughter. But i agree with thelma on this one, if u love someone those little things count, d response wasnt even good enough, he could ve said something else, i dont like Men that calculate all those stuff, it pisses me off cos i could do the same for him without calculating. Thats why i love Le Boo *in Ruthy's voice*

  3. Adding the am no fool made it worse, a simple I can't go jare would have been better in my opinion.but then,ve u been giving him some 'mero' duties & he feels it's becoming much? If not, I would say his love dey 1 kind

  4. Glass of water is just the first step to a million steps ahead, as Memphis rightly said. But on a mutual respect, I don't see anything wrong in just getting water for your Other Half. That said, when I read your article, wat comes to my mind are ladies who would want to relate to this in a larger scale like more "substantial" request and in that case all I see is ME and MY there was never an US in the whole article. Now I'm wondering what Love that would be?

    1. Uyi I wrote it from this one sided angle because he's the one that has been professing love, not me. However if I'd written a complete text, of course that would be a little thing to do. Service is part of love, if you cannot serve then you do not love IMHO. (And service isn't even my love language, it's just common sense, it's even part of love for platonic friends how much more a lover?)

  5. His response spoilt everything, choice of words can sometimes let one down that's why I carefully choose mine

  6. That I'm no fool statement get as e be o...seems like the guy get you for mind since and it came pouring out before he could watch himself.

  7. What's love if you cannot serve? The fear of T turning him to house boy tomorrow is the beginning of "wisdom" for him lols

  8. Very obvious that men and women are wired differently, Sorry Thelma, I wont fetch water oh. Not even from the next room!
    There is never a problem with getting that glass of water but what happens thereafter is a story many men regret till today. You simply graduate from getting a glass of water to scrubbing floors, all in the name of some messenger love.

  9. Something tells me you asked him to get you water just to piss him off,and the guy who seems very full of himself had to burst out in that pele.
    sebi that one sef good,what about the ones that will tell you once you ask for financial favours"you think you are smart abi,u know to collect but u will never give" must i give you breast for bread or pussy for pizza? **just asking***

  10. Too much of everything is not supporting guys who are not useful as U pointed above,but I know some peeps who took this for granted and turned dude to a remote control!notfair.

  11. Haaaa! You guys tho. Wale and Mariam... Maybe because I know I'm just not that way and I don't even think that way. In all honesty if he had asked the same of me I would have grumbled a bit but I would do it. If my friends asks the same of me my default answer would be "No. *rme* are you high? *rme*" then I'd get up and go get it. When you abuse that privilege is when it would be withdrawn. I dunno how others think but this is me.

    1. Worry not T, u asked for water! Which is life! If he can't get you that, then he can't give u so much.

    2. I really don't understand y pple wud think a guy fetching water 4 a woman would automatically b d genesis of d woman turning him 2 a houseboy...I bet if it was d oda way round nobody wud have a problem wit dat

  12. I honestly dont think it should be a problem to do anything at all for someone you love....whether it would lead to the person asking for more from you or not, you should always want to help out a loved one.. thats my 2 pesewas #runsaway

  13. Well, d guy can sense you don't love him, and he doesn't want his love to be taken for granted. More like she doesn't even love me, and she wants to turn me into her house boy. Btw Thelma were u so busy you couldn't get it yourself? #scratches head# d request get as e b sha.

  14. Dude is still in the 12th Century.

  15. I agree with a Wale jor. So because he likes you he should turn into your personal slave? Even love has limits

  16. Guys like this will be a problem in marriage, ego issues. Seriously, water, water? Whats the big deal? Yet nigga wud b professing love up n down, u c thats y i cant even deal with guys that talk too much. Actions speak louder and the whole glass of water thingy is a very good example. Hian!

  17. abeg this is serious ego issue I totally disagree with all those in support of lover boy's action, what bringing fool into the matter.

    Please get me a cup of water isnt supposed to be a big deal, unless that privilege has been abused over n over.

    This is d kind of thing that makes me cringe at men. . If it had been the other way round, the guys will be quick to say the lady is not "wife material" Lets quit the double standard.


  18. @wale, I want to understand if this is mutual. if you want 'her' to get water for you,do you expect her to get it. cos she's not your messenger either. I understand that some girls are so spoilt but I see nothing wrong wt helping her get water if she was polite about it. if you don't like being sent and you love her, you could av joked about it and allowed her to understand dat you don't like it. love is not a rigid thing, sometimes we av to indulge the whims of our lover like Thelma said. and I know this reply is everywhere, but dis is just my 2 cents. iyanu

    1. I can never want her to get water for me, I send people around only when I am paying them for a service. Will get the water or whatever myself when I am on my way to do something else.

    2. Hian! Wale, so you're implying that you'veNEVER asked your sis /bro/friend (younger or older), cousin, wife etc, anybody basically, to get anything for you before? anything at all ranging from water, your wallet, your phone, food from the kitchen, your documents, etc?????

      "I love you but am not a fool" is a very DEEP answer, to a "please get me some water" request. I ask my siblings/friends (older n younger) to help me get stuff from wherever, sometimes, I call them from their room(or another location) to get me stuff that's in my room, where I probably am atm o! And they do same to me, and nobody feels insulted or hurt or is life really that serious? That a loved one/lover requests for (weird, if you may) help and you consider yourself a fool???


  19. Its safe to conclude that men think alike. I do understand the guy tho. This is something my dad can do. Mumsie won't even think to ask anyway and I'm 100% sure that he loves her to death.

    I was driving my mum home a couple of Sundays ago and we were talking about a family friend who complained that the semo her husband made for her had too many lumps and she made a big issue out of the small mumu matter. I can categorically tell you that the husband in question is not a "house boy" kind of man. He was just being a caring husband because the woman was pregnant.
    My mum then went on to tell me about a former colleague who used to fetch water for his wife cos the taps inside their flat weren't running. One day after a very long day at work, Mr. Nice Man got home wanting to just lie down and sleep, guess what Mrs. Nice Woman did? She didn't ask him how his day went or what he would like to eat. As soon as he came in and took his jacket off she went, "Baba lagbaja, when are you going to fetch water". It suffices to say that the day before was the last time the man ever fetched water in that house.

    I'm all for men helping out around the house when they can especially with the heavy lifting but women have a way of taking everything too far. I do believe the guy should have gotten the water if it was on his way. Plus this is a toasting sumtin not a gf/bf thing. You are supposed to do everything she asks during the will-you-consider-me phase of things...

  20. I always go 4 lunch wit my male colleagues n wen I make such requests they gladly do it same way I gladly do it wen they send Thelma said, platonic frnds do dis so I dnt get y a lover wudnt

  21. Hmmm if this is how men think really then it's time to tell my baby THANK YOU! You not only help me get water to drink, you do so much more, God bless you HONEY!

  22. @wale, no offense but I analyze things and this is my analysis of you; you're a 'too' serious, no-nonsense person who operates by a set of rules. I might be wrong. +dear ttb readers, permit me to give a shout out to my bf. You're d bestest bestie ever and all my inhibitions melt away when you're around. iyanu.


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