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Mad At The World.

Hey guys. Good evening, It's been a very long day. Service this morning and was extremely amazing. Extremely. After church I went to meet up with a new friend for brunch which extended to lunch and then to drinks this evening... A whole day's affair. LOL. So basically today was the first date and having just come from church we started by talking about church and House On The Rock specifically. If I should share the conversation here it will have to be a post in itself so that's topic for another day entirely... The issue is still marinating within me and I'll share it when it's time. All I can say for now is I cannot understand why some people have a lot against that church. 

What I want to discuss now however is very different. *Tade and I talked about so many things and one of them was an old friend of his who at some point in life went on a rampage; sleeping with any and every girl that came his way, and when they didn't come his way he'd try to put them there
himself. For instance, he tried to sleep with Tade's then girlfriend and attempted the same thing with most of his friends' women. Nobody could understand what was wrong with the guy, yes he had always been a man who enjoyed the female company and sometimes the company of loose women but this was a new level of low. It was months later when Tade saw him popping some pills and noticed that he was very sickly and had developed some rashes that he secretly rummaged through his personal belongings and found that his friend was HIV positive. 

So apparently, it was when this guy found out about his status months ago that he tried to infect as many people as possible, not only every girl that came his way but also his friend's girlfriends so that they could in turn infect their boyfriends; his friends. Wow!

I asked Tade why his friend did this, and his answer? He was angry. 

What kind of anger causes some people with certain infectious ailments to infect as many people as they possibly can? I read of an HIV positive lady who swore that before she leaves the world she would make sure she's given her virus to over a hundred men. 
     The last time I was in PH I went to the movies with my friend and her aunties. While there, we saw this young guy with a very pretty chic and my friend's aunties immediately began to babble, I noticed that a debate had ensued. I was surprised when I heard the reason. Apparently they knew the guy in question to be HIV positive and according to them, that is the way he goes around carrying girls all around town and sleeping with them in order to infect them. The debate was whether they should call the girl aside and inform her of the (impending) danger. 

All these stories are dem say dem say (hearsay) but when my friend was almost a victim it wasn't mere hearsay. We were broke corpers then and my friend was particularly in need of some money. One of her former aristos from her Uni days came into town and asked her to come see him in his hotel in Victoria Island. On getting there the man immediately wanted to get some action which my friend wasn't opposed to, after all that's why she was there. There was one problem however, the man refused to use a condom. My friend insisted that he used one as they hadn't been intimate in years and she didn't know what he had been up to, and she was very adamant. The man was also adamant, insisting that they have sex 'raw' and when my friend stubbornly refused he got angry, put his clothes on and said he was going for a meeting. 
     After he left she called room service and ordered some lunch and it was while waiting that she idly started going through his things. Inside his toilet bag she saw a lot of drugs which included antibiotics and herbal drugs; the bottles informed her that the content was treatment for Gonorrea, Staphylococcus and various other STIs (you know those herbal drugs that claim to cure all STIs on the face of the earth). My friend was shocked and immediately called me to tell me, I asked why she was still in his room and hadn't packed her things and left. She said she wanted to look at his face when she asked him why he was so evil and hear what he would say.
      He returned some hours later and she asked him why he was insistent on sleeping with her without protection, especially when he knew that he was a carrier of diseases. You wouldn't believe his response; "Wasn't it a woman like you that gave it to me?"

Oh boy! I certainly cannot understand the mindset of these people. Tade's friend for instance, he got infected after sleeping with a bar beach prostitute without a condom. Who freaking does that?!!! How can you be so careless and then take it out on the world when it comes back to bite you in the butt? How?

Almost on a daily basis we hear of one HIV positive person, either homosexual or heterosexual, that's on a mission to infect the world with their terminal disease (and BTW HIV isn't even a death sentence any longer!). They say they're "Angry". 

I can understand Anger. But anger isn't always such a bad thing, anger can be channeled positively, anger is sometimes productive depending on how you use it. These people are not angry, they're bitter, and bitterness is a harmful and dangerous emotion. Bitterness eats into the very core of your spirit and turns you into an evil being; thoughtless and unfeeling. This evil is what makes them want to spread it to as many people as they can, but does it also make them stupid? Do they not know that no matter how many people they infect, they themselves are still carrying and will still carry the disease? ... Or could it all boil down to the popular saying "Misery loves company"?...

I just don't get it. 

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  1. T like your friend said yesterday all these dates you are going on choose one. As for the post you already said it. Misery loves company.

  2. Misery loves company. Like you said...and miserable people likes seeing others miserable.

  3. But these people sharing the virus sef. I would think if I feared I'd die soon, I'll most likely be contrite and do good... so I can go to Heaven na!
    The bitterness makes them even condemn themselves... Not a god thing.

  4. Beach prostitute without condom?!!! He simply sentenced himself to a life of HIV. He should wake up to this reality. It was his choice not to be responsible for his health and future. I pray He finds God and peace within to accept his fate.

  5. Definitely a case of misery loving company,people r mean thou

  6. I once met a man that was willing to give me everything just to date him, i was OK being just his friend but he wanted more, but i said NO, my friends were already gingering me from all angles, this man wld drop by with lots of cash n goodies for everyone around me, and in one of those days he dropped by, he met my sister, lo and behold he was her HIV positive patient *bbm surprised face*, nawa oo.

    1. God loves you. Th6ats what is to be said for that situation.

      on another note, i worry about women who do runz and not think about the consequences. For any man to offer that much money for sex which they can get almost anywhere is dodgy to me.

      Some people want to share the nasty hand they feel they have been dealt.

  7. It is wicked, vindictive and downright evil!!!! I like to think they have a special place in hell! I watched one interview on Ch 154. One Ghanian(musician) got infected by a member of her church who knew he was hiv positive! Their actions are inexcusable... and it should be a crime(attempted murder) if it is not.... ajegbodo weni kun ra(misery loves company) very annoying! Me sef i'm mad at them... cuz who sent them to be promiscuous and to not protect themselves? Like that !*?;# that slept with a bar beach prostitute without condom tori Olorun!!! Ha! I'm just pissed jor! The heart of men is desperately wicked jare!

    1. LOL. Kabuoy the drama queen. You crack me up honestly.

  8. Some people like it Raw and natural, so they shud also be prepared for the consequences.

    Life is wat you make of it, simple.

    And honestly, to those who are involved in sexual relationship before marraige please try and understand all the unwanted predicaments dat comes with it and make efforts. Condom is CHeap oh!!!

  9. re: HOTR, a lot of people including me judge that book by its cover shallow I know


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