This isn't just a story and your opinions and thoughts would be appreciated. Yes (Memphis) Mena is real and yes she is one of us on TTB.
It was a beautiful day, a beautiful date, a beautiful conversation, a beautiful moment. Unfortunately the situation was far from beautiful.
Tony walked Mena to her car that evening and just before she drove away he whispered to her
"I really like you Mena, we can make this work"
Mena smiled and slowly drove away.
However a few minutes later the smile was wiped from her face as she came to terms with reality. So many questions that needed answers. Mena needed answers.
She got home and immediately felt exhausted. Just before she shut her eyes to sleep her phone rang, it was Tony. She put the call on silent and shut her eyes. In the minute that followed Tony called four more times, all four times Mena ignored.
By the time morning came Mena had five more missed calls from Tony and two texts. The first; "I just can't stop thinking about you baby, I feel like I've finally found who I've been looking for."
The second; "please pick up your phone, I need to talk to you. You haven't given me an answer. I hope it is a Yes, I don't think I can go on if it isn't".
Mena read the texts over and over again then put her phone down and started to prepare for her day.
At age thirty her life wasn't exactly where she had hoped it would be. At thirty, one was too old to live on handouts and with no job, it was left for her to go out and hustle. Mena was very broke and had decided that morning to approach a company who's objectives really interested her. She planned to inform the Manager that she would like to work for them, with or without pay.
Just before she stepped out of the house Tony called one more time, yet again she ignored the call. Mena then decided to put Tony out of his misery and sent him a text.
"Dear Tony, I'm sorry I missed your calls. I saw your texts too. It breaks my heart to do this but the truth is I'm just not ready for a relationship right now. Take care and have a good life".
Mena pressed the Send button and hoped that somehow Tony would take her No for No and leave her be, but just as she had expected her phone rang immediately and it was him. She ignored the shrill ring of the phone and headed for her car.
As she turned on the ignition her phone alerted her that she had a text. Of course it was from Tony.
"Not interested in a relationship WITH ME, I suppose?"
In a second an image of Tony at the bus stop struggling to hop into a keke marwa a few minutes after they parted yesterday flashed through her head and Mena felt the tears sting her eyes.
Of course any thirty year old Nigerian woman not only wanted to be in a relationship but wanted to be married as well. Mena wasn't exactly attracted to Tony but she was very fond of him. She could sense that Tony might be a good man but what was she to do with a forty-two year old "good" man who had no money, no job, no business, no car and no visible plans for the present or the future. One who for some reason was squatting in a friend's house and spent his days hoping that "favour would locate" him?
Mena broke into tears. She had never considered herself a materialistic person but she couldn't afford to make the wrong choices. She grew up in a home with a father who had nothing and a mother who singlehandedly had to raise six children. She knew first hand how difficult that life could be. These days education was even more expensive, raising a child was no child's play. She herself had little or no money. "No I'm not saying I want a rich man, but this... this isn't what I want lord". She cried into her hands.
Mena drove to the office with conflicting thoughts in her head. She struggled with the decision she had just made. She had heard stories of women who said that when they met their husband he was not at all what they had expected or hoped for. He was broke, unkempt, scraggy and wretched. Today those women boasted that if you saw their husbands now you would never believe that they were the same persons of yesteryear. Mena wondered if she was making a mistake, what if Tony is one of those beautiful gifts that came in ugly packages?
But then at 42... At 42 he could barely take care of himself. All she knew he had at the moment was a hope that some local government chairman in the east will give him a small contract, that was all. He basically had little or nothing.
Mena drives to work with these conflicting thoughts in her head. She's confused and she would really like to hear your thoughts.