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People though... (Thelma Asks)

So far I've spent my day doing siddon look because I was meant to have an appointment with someone who kept me waiting. 

So this dude that has been asking me out for sometime hired me to draw up some agreements for him. Of course that's a paying job so I got right to it, he sent me the details I needed and I got the job done. 

Then he says, "before you print out the agreements let me proofread them then you can go type, bind and all of that". Two days ago we were meant to meet up to do this but he cancelled and and suggested yesterday morning. Before I got there yesterday morning I demanded I get paid, either in full or in part, he agreed. 

So we had a breakfast meeting yesterday, I brought my laptop with me to show him the agreements and this young man schemes though them and says he didn't bring along his glasses so he can't read them properly. Hia! Then he tells me that he did some transactions earlier in the morning so he couldn't pay me fully but he could give me some. That was fine by me. Next thing I know a few minutes after we parted he sends me a text asking me to mail him the agreements so that he can read them and let me know if I can proceed, in order to save time. I suggested we meet first thing this morning, I would come meet him at home, at work, wherever he is, so that he can look through and I can go ahead. He agreed. 

This morning he calls me up at 7am and says he has to rush for a meeting and he would be back by 12 noon. A few minutes after 12 he sends me a text saying something just came up and he needs to rush to the mainland to meet up with some people for an urgent meeting and won't be back till much later in the day, so in order to save time I should please mail him the agreements so that he can see them and 'OK' them since I'm traveling tomorrow and we wouldn't be able to see again today. 


I told him I'll be back on Monday at the latest and since this thing (obviously) isn't that urgent then we can wait till then, otherwise transfer my balance to my account and I will mail the agreements to you and you print them out. 

The guy sent me a text saying "Nawa. Babe you harsh o! I no know say you sharp like this". 

Hahaha. See this man o! Why do people think they're smart. Nigger has been avoiding reading this thing so that I can mail him the agreements (which he knows I've done and perfected) so that he can "proofread". Stories that touch, like I don't know that once I send those mails that's the last I will ever hear about it, next thing I know he'll say "err, we called off the deal", meanwhile he'd have already printed them out and sealed the deal. 

Shame to bad people!!! LOL. 

And then you know the funny part, he immediate switched back to toaster mode, sent another text ten minutes later; I really miss you black beauty. Dinner tonight?

LOL. SMH. RME. I'm tempted to reply him saying I don't do dinner with scammers, fraudsters, 419ers, liars, but I'm going to stay sweet till he collects his agreements and I collect my balance. 

People shaaaaaaa!

So my friend thinks that I should still give this guys a shot in spite of him trying to play a fast one on me. She says he's youngish, single, comfortable and very good-looking and no one is perfect. 
    What do you guys think? Would I be overreacting if I turn down his advances because of this?



    What rubbish! See, Lying is my deal breaker. It's better U don't tell me anything than lie. If u date him, he's only going to use U (financially, Mentally) cos he obviously has NO respect for U.
    He should take one of those SDK's seats up his A-Hole! Ooops.

  2. Absolutely not! I've dealt with quite a few like them. I do a drawing and send to my clients with a huge "SAMPLE" in the middle. If they insist on a clearer picture and "promise" to send my balance I just watermark the "SAMPLE" and resend. It's then it dawns on them to pay up or they get no real design. *smart people*. Nonsense.

    By the way Thelma, scammers have no conscience, so be careful with that dude. Do your business and say goodbye.

  3. People are vexing o! Even if he's trying to outsmart someone why try to outsmart a woman you're trying to date? That's very low.

    1. As in ehn! Very low! At least you'll try and form good guy for her... mstchew! after trying to pull a fast one on her... you have the liver(guts) to switch back to toaster mode! Nonsense.

      Thelma abeg.. noh waste your time.. better people dey front...

    2. Very low somebody, no respect at all.
      Lol @ black beauty I really miss you, dinner tonight?... Lol

  4. You won't be overreacting at all,Turn him down,totally low and not cool,if u decide to give him a chance I feel you guys will always hav issues concerning money whch can sometimes be a touchy subject in relationships,he myt try to outsmart which won't b a good thing ...

  5. You shouldn't even be asking the question to consider or not. "Business grow when friends and family pay" if he can't pay now he's a friend, imagine the story if he ends up as family... Be guided Thelma.

  6. This just goes to show that some of your friends are not true to you. They really do not want you to be happy. The way he acted shows a little sign about his character and that is not good

  7. The guy has no conscience oh Thelma. In my opinion, he is a professional time waster. Collect your balance and move on.

  8. Please stay nice and collect your balance. After that,lock up.

  9. Be careful with this kind of people. They hardly ever change, they have no conscience. my weight lossblog;

  10. This guy is the kind that will taste d honey pot and never send u an sms again. Biko flee from his presence. What sort of grab grab mentality does he think he has? On the other hand get your money first, and one or two outings/dinners to go with it, then a Lil shopping. After that drop him like a bad habit. rubbish#

  11. Give him a shot keee, after he has showed u his true color moneywise, dts nt a good idea o.
    Nne, pls form good girl till u collect ur balance from him, after dt abeg free d guy jare.

  12. Lols,everyone is truly vexing! Ahn ahn!

  13. Omg i just freaking screamed, tell me that your last question was a joke, Thelma i'm gonna ask you again, who are these your friends???? Give him a chance? Wow. This is the kinda nigga that would steal your atm card while youre asleep and then proceed to empty your account. This is the kinda nigga that wdnt show up at church on the wedding day. in fact, no words. #ByeFelicia

  14. Funny how we all jes jump in2 conclusion sha. So you guys jes labeled him all of d above from d little info that Thelma gave yall about him? Yall jes looking in2 d building 4rm d outside trust me. Business is different 4rm relationship and what happened with this guy here are things dt happens in business day in day out in Lagos. Even d best of d best find themselves trying 2 outsmart d next person. The average Lagosian in business feels like U R dulling if u don't try 2 outsmart pple. I've had pastors tryna play a fast one on me severally. It isn't a good habit/mentality but we can't wright him off totally bcoz of that. Guys phuleaseeeee. Yall would be surprise that telling him she doesn't like dz particular habit will make him put a stop 2 it. Thelma isn't jes gonna jump in2 marriage with him 4 instance, she still has lots of time 2 keep a tab on him.

    #My opinion

    1. Your response is the reason why this "out-smarting, business" people thrive. It's one thing for you to want to make so much profit of your sales or business and its another thing for you to try to DUPE someone, which is what we have labelled "out-smarting" it is pure "daylight thievery". U contract a professional to do some work, and agree to pay a fee (of course), then midway through, you suddenly want to steal the work done and run off without paying???? And you say you are smart??? You may be smart, but you are thief as well. The fact that something has become popular culture has not made it right. And trust me people's attitude when it comes to money matters, tells ALL you need to know about them.

    2. How is my comment d reason Y out-smarting pple thrive? What I'm saying is dt they are lots of pple in d out smarting business that their real lives are far 4rm that whn u get 2 kno them better instead of righting them off. I've seen lotta them. That doesn't make d attitude right. Infact I detest d habit. But it is smthg dt can be worked on.

    3. In Eesah's head,*chai! I just wrote something intelligent,everyone's gonna love it and agree with me* reality *he's so dumb and makes dumb comments and doesn't know it*..grow up boy!

  15. My dear run for ur dear life.anuofia

  16. Say yes at your own peril.

    Me thinks he's looking for a way to get back the fee he paid you, cash or kind. But then, I may be wrong.




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