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Proud Muslimah: Are Muslims Really That Bad?

I'm somewhat fascinated by religion, religious differences and stereotypes. Reading this article by Proud Muslimah on Bella Naija and then reading the comments the comments that followed, had my head filled with a myriad of thoughts. I thought it might be a good idea to share with you guys; as the message contained herein should really be shared, but also to hear your thoughts and perceptions. 

The Article below;

Every time I see an article online about terror I tell myself I will not read the comments underneath, but I always do. It’s almost as if I can’t help it. It’s always the same though , and with my heart pounding and sometimes tears in my eyes, I read comments of people calling Muslims and the entire religion of Islam ‘evil’ and other names too lewd to even write down. It genuinely hurts!
As an objective Muslim, I ask myself, if I wasn’t lucky to be a Muslim, would I feel this way? I’m not entirely sure, but I know for a fact I would question the religion of Islam and what it stands for and maybe I would try to learn a bit more about the religion.

Islam is a religion of peace which Allah has perfected. Feel free to roll your eyes, utter your ‘yeah right’ or even hiss, it’s your prerogative, it won’t change that fact.
Muslims on the other hand are humans. And like all groups of humans are made up of the good, bad and ugly. Just like in every other faith.

It’s an utter shame that an entire planet full of Muslims is being judged by the actions of probably less than one percent of us. And I use the ‘us’ very loosely, however I am not God.

People who have been oppressed and brainwashed and are fighting back the only way they know how and need justification for their actions. So they say they are fighting for their religion and their God. They twist the Quran and the teachings of our Prophet(peace be upon him) to suit their whims and fancies and to make themselves sleep a little better at night. Judging all Muslims by these people is like judging all Caucasians by the Ku Klux Klan or all Germans by Adolf Hitler!

I am not here to teach a history lesson, and believe me there’s a big lesson to be taught, I am here to ask all the non Muslims reading this if any of them has truly been treated badly by a Muslim in their everyday lives. Have all the Muslims you have come across your entire lives been blood thirsty, other-religion-hating fanatics? and have you never been treated with kindness, love and courtesy by a Muslim? The true tenets of Islam.
If you can honestly say every Muslim you have met, or even a majority of them have been this way, then I rest my case. But if it’s the reverse, then I ask you, why would you let the actions of a few wipe away the actions of many? Why would you let the people behind all this win by turning us against one another as enemies when we have lived together peacefully for years?

It is so heart breaking the number of people that have died and are still dying or suffering because of people’s greed and selfishness! And when you really educate yourselves you will understand that very single thing that is happening is being orchestrated by a very scheming group of people.

My family of four lives in an apartment building with three other families and in the entire compound, we are the only Muslims. All staff included! We have never given anyone any reason to say ‘Muslims are terrible people’ and I’m sure a lot of you live and work with Muslims too. Muslims that go about their daily activities alongside you without any issues. Muslims that invite you to their homes to celebrate Eid and other family celebrations. Muslims that visit you when you are sick, encourage you, support you and are generally just good people to you. People who are so ‘regular’ that you forget you aren’t one and the same except maybe they dress a little differently, excuse themselves to pray at certain times and don’t drink alcohol or eat pork!

I pray we all wise up before it’s too late. We are being used as pawns in someone’s game whether we like it or not and it’s painful to see.

Read a little about Islam. Ask a Muslim questions. Don’t believe everything you read or hear in the media and maybe, just maybe, we can flip the script on those behind the chaos and mayhem.
And like I always like to end when I speak on this topic:
‘Let them plan, verily Allah is the Best of planners. The All Knowing, The Wise’


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  1. Proud Muslimah,
    Thanks, you are right. Not ALL muslims are extremists and Islamophobia has to end.
    But I must say these:

    1. 25% of muslims are extremists (i.e. believe in extreme violence in the name of Allah and that all must convert except Xtians and Jews who must still pay tax). 75% are peaceful loving people unfortunately 25% do more than them.

    2. Muhammad did not teach peace or respect for other or anti-pedophilia, his life was opposite of these things. Allah swt is kind and good but muslims seem to listen to Muhammad more maybe because Allah swt is too benevolent and peaceful?

    3. What part of Nigeria are u from? Because my cousins went to ABU and the things they went through, no one in my family could believe it. They were marginalized badly because they were southern muslims. They were persecuted for not covering their hair or saying merry christmas to their christian friends. and these are muslims that did nt consider themselves extremists. The remaining 3 of them could not even finish, had to move back to the Western part of Nigeria.

    4. The peaceful muslims usually keep quiet or support dastardly acts because of islamic unity. See the underage Shettima videos where Unilag muslim boys were saying once a girl sees her period she can marry. Knowing fully well that it’s wrong. If you say anything bad (even if its honest) about islam even your most reasonable muslim friends will keep malice with you or treat you different. Why are we adults if we cannot constructively discuss flaws in any religion? After all you see other religions call out their leaders and so on. Funny part is muslims will easily abuse pastors (e.g.. Idiot El Rufai) but they cannot take what they dish out.
    Most muslims have this attitude of ownership thats why you have people justifying Islamic Caliphate and Sharia law in any society that is not all muslims.

    Yes, not all muslims are extremists but the peaceful ones don’t fight their fellow extreme brothers and sisters which makes most non-Muslims feel betrayed.

    1. This comment is from the post on Bella Naija, I think this person made a lot of sense

    2. "...the peaceful ones don’t fight their fellow extreme brothers and sisters which makes most non-Muslims feel betrayed..." This is so true. I told one of my Muslim friends the same thing and he was giving excuses of how they keep reiterating their need to be at peace with non-muslims. How effective is that? Until these peaceful ones stand up with the non-muslims they claim as their brothers, Islam will always remain an evil religion to many people who don't even bother trying to understand it.

  2. This is so true! I am Christian and I have never had issues with the Muslims I've had around me; if anything, some have been of immense help (my old bosses, my neighbors). Even here in d UK some of the best n most helpful friends I have are Muslims. Really makes me think of the concept of one drop of red oil ruining the cloth.

  3. I am a muslim and even though I don't like talking on this kind of topic cos m nt 1 2 argue but still I'll like to air my views on some of the points raised by anon 12:12 above.
    1. I don't believe 25% of muslims are extremist, that's jst too much. If u say 5% I might agree.
    2.Where did u come up with the idea that muhammad didn't teach peace or respect for others, you need to read more about the life and teachings of the prophet.
    3. I'm a southern muslim and I schooled in ABU. I don't cover my hair, I wear trouser n most of my friends are xtians but I did not, even once, experience this marginalization u said ur cousins went thru. D only thing I know is that MSS consist of mostly northern muslims cos dey dnt give d same level of recognition to southern muslims as dey do deir northern counterpart. Apart 4rm dt, ABU is a peaceful environment for both xtians n muslims IMHO.
    I think u need to learn more about islam in general. Maa Salam.

    1. i think 5% is a little bit too small..

  4. I have no opinion on this topic!

    Dear Anon that owns Perfect nails, biko send me a mail:

    Let me come get my mani/pedi done.

  5. Honestly, as a southerner married to a northerner i will have to say a lot of muslims are very very honest and true their word even more than most christians that profess their christianity. However, they get so easily blinded by religion it is terrible.A lot of Muslims especially those of northern extractions could easily get bind sighted by religion, it has made them shallow minded and opposed to being open minded. Why would you go live in say France, and insist on using your hijab even when they say No: you would expect that when you go to Rome, act like the romans right?No, they want to instill their dogma wherever they are and thats where a lot of people have issues with these set of Muslims.

    Give me a muslim to do business with anytime than any other tribe that is how honest they are however they grow up thinking they are better than all other tribes most are spoilt because they don't have to hustle hard to get a job/work/contract( all you need is little education and a fellow Northern muslim in the helm of affairs of wherever) this has made them lazy,very entitled and also very rude as they expect to be worshipped by all others.

    Its so sad really, because as a child growing up especially in High school I never saw religious and tribal lines, whats happening in this country is a damn shame and its appalling.Our parents generation have failed badly and its left for these good muslims to rise up and challenge those that are tarnishing their images rather than chastise and hurl vitriol and Christians who are just sick and tired of being sick and tired.

    Wo biko , pardon gbagauns , Im hungry and tired

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