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See-Finish Syndrome. (Relationship Etiquettes)





Sometime back one if us (lemme not name you) used to be in this awesome relationship. She and boo were like two peas in a pod, they were besties, they shared everything, talked about everything, gossiped together, had great sex and were generally very close. 

But were they too close? This blog reader and her boo would lock themselves inside their room and have farting competitions. Yes, you read right; farting competitions. 


When you go and visit them you'll hear them say things like "mehnnnnnn, if you came here yesterday your nose for block!" Or "dang! This girl wanted to use mess to kill me yesterday" *SMH* (I literally smh @ both of you because after all the million your parents spent on your 1st degree and Masters in obodo-oyibo this is what you have to show for it. Smh. LOL). 

So when I watched one of Ariyike's Vlogs last month and she talked about Relationship Etiquettes I immediately remembered this my psycho friend and her boo. 
          
In Ariyike's video where she talked about how to act when you're with your man, she listed these:
Eat sexy. Stop shouting. Don't fart. Stop over eating. Sit right. Do not talk too much 

She urged women to do all these in order to avoid 'see-finish syndrome'. 

But I wonder because err, some of us have done all these. Some of us have all the etiquette but no man to show for it. Yet, some psycho chics that will hold their grounds in farting competitions, they'll take a dump that smells like hell and will tell bae to come into the toilet and "smell this epic sh*t" (LOL. I know a couple that does that), they throw every caution and etiquette to the wind and embrace their psychoness, yet they have strong loving relationships. 

So what gives?

My question is this; 

-Is there really anything like Relationship Etiquette? Are there certain things that can or cannot, should and should not be done in the presence of a significant other?

-What will you never do in the presence of your boo, and what things will instantly turn you off if your boo does them in your presence

-Do relationship etiquettes really strengthen a relationship. Can the absence of etiquettes in a relationship ruin the relationship??? 



Just to briefly answer #2; I will not and have never farted in the presence of my man, and I have always appreciated it when this courtesy is reciprocated. I know people say it's a sign of bond and closeness when you guys can fart in each other's presence but I'm not interested in that kind of closeness biko. Also please, when you need to poop SHUT THE DOOR! Why do men think it's ok to leave the door open and be having a normal conversation with you while releasing those missiles? Men, why?

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  1. Lol,reminds me of someone I once dated. He would stand at door and gist with me while I shit,we usually have a farting game called"who mess pass"lol,it was funny and we both enjoyed it,sadly we parted ways. But truth is T,I can do anything in the presence of my boo, I might be forming at d first few months of meeting but once I become free with you,I do my self without hiding it.lol. There is nothing I can't do in front of my SO though.

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  2. Lmao! Anything i can do infront of my sister, i can do same infront of my hubby, i dont want a relationship where i ll ve to be walking on egg shells, checking my every move when i ve to live with the person all my life. Its ok to maintain those etiquettes if its just for a whie

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  3. too little experience to comment

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  4. Ni kiini wen He ll be seeing my punani while giving birth with Blood and all those shit. He beta get use to me farting. Me n my nko Do farting competition but i do It most. He even likes n comment lik u avent mess today ke. Lol I tink It good to Experiment alot of this tins while dating. So u cud knw d dos n dont of your patner.

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  5. Please what she said is BS! There's NO relationship etiquette esp in our generation. Everyone should do what works for them!
    How do U tell Ekaette to "form" when she meets Prince Williams?
    Or Tell Queen Elizabeth to "form" when she Meets Yusuf the plumber & fall in love?

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  6. I rily don't mind being the only one to stand for d etiquette stuff! Not neccesarily dat name but pls let's pull some moves to avoid this see finish of a thing cos its for real! Personally pls dnt fart in my presence, be u who biko, I won't do so ida! Hian

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  7. T I'm with you on this one, I can't mess when hubby is around me cos I hate it when he does(doesnt stop him tho) can't belch too but he does it freely, I won't poo if ANYBODY is in the toilet biko, but hubby says I fart in my sleep, I think he says that to make me feel bad.

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  8. I'm open to openness but me,myself and I can not watch u watch me take a dump! Strip to shower? Yes,Shower? Yes,cream my body after shower(with my towel on)?Yes,dress and make up after? Yes,poop,dig my nose,change my pad/tampon,shave south,watch u do ur biz? No!! Honesty is my best policy...

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    1. Ahhhh you have to allow ur SO mow the southern region mmmmm bliss

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    2. I agree to No on the negatives except the 'landscaping of the South of France'. That has hidden potentials that r not often utilized in a relationship. Speaking from past experience, that is definitely on the menu! (How else would I know the skills u learnt @ d barbershop)

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    3. I could fart in my sleep (which one consine me, I dey sleep na) but consciously, heck no! N don't u do either! (Except in ur sleep)

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  9. Eti what? Pls nothing like that in a relationship, where's the fun then? Me and d hubster have farting competitions and poo with the door open biko this life is too short to be looking for toilet when hot mess is catching u

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  10. Lol.. This is so funny. I really don't know cos I'm not in any relationship. But I fart when my friends are in the room so if I can't fart in his presence then I'll be pretending. This ofcourse would happen with time.

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  11. There shouldn't b etiquettes for relationships because evryone's love life is different what works for A myt not work for B

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  12. My goodness, etiquette all the way purleazzz! Forget boyfriend, i could never fart infront of my husband! (Do i even fart infront of myself?), i could never shower, poop, undress infront of my boyfriend, never have and never will. It would take some time to even get that comfy with my husband.

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  13. So, you date a guy, sleep over in his house sometimes and you have never farted (even when you are asleep and don't know what goes on around you)? Nne, your Anus most be blocked.
    What's the big deal about farting? Abeg it is a natural phenomena (according to my friend). Farting is freaking natural...you are just releasing gas from ur body o. There is this story about a woman who was in a meeting and refused to release the gas cos she didn't want to embarrass herself and she died.
    Please Fart when you want, don't hold it cos it can lead you to the great beyond. And by the way, who told you dat boo dat you want to so respect urself in front of is not releasing silent smellos...abeg jor...farting tinz na sure pass.

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  14. No farting in his presence and he shouldn't fart in mine, no undressing completely (asin going naked), he shouldn't watch me poop or shave south and I'll not do so too.

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  15. Honestly if a guy I like farts in my presence it won't change the way I think about him, I would expect the same from him, if the smell is too much I laugh and leave the place. If your in the toilet, close the toilet I don't want to be perceiving ishi but it still won't change the way I think about you

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  16. I love a no holds barred relationship. Leave etiquette aside. Most times its our relationship principles that pushes your partner away. Love is love, in anyway its expressed and I think doing crazy things together is a better way to bond. Forget ”see finish”...

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  17. 1st few weeks/months I agree on acting all prim & proper but after then,sorry if I fart on ur head.lol.
    Isn't see finish to me sha but I wouldn't stay if ur shit smells like shit!!!

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    1. Lol @ shit smells like shit. Should it smell like Nivea before? Hahaha.

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    2. Lool.mine does *tongue out*
      With d exclamation marks,just mean d type that could consume a whole state & send every1 running out

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  18. I've Neva heard of relationship etiquette n I dnt believe in it. I believe in u being original. U shud b able to do anytin n everytin in d presence of ur partner instead of forming sumtin u r not. Relationship etiquette my foot

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  19. hehehehe, im the best "farter" in the world, no time for see finish, I'm totally doing me.

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  20. The see-finish shd not be with Farting or no Farting. This is a natural thing. Even some belching cannot be controlled. What we shd be looking at is where a girl meets a man n d next is relate all d problems in her family, what a sibling is passing through, I mean bad habits or challenges some are going thru. This one na see finish.

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  21. Abeg who died and rose up and decided that there should be Relationship Etiquette? What works for A can never work for B. Please do what makes you sleep well at night. if i can't fart in front of my Boo, who will? if i can't do my crap bizness with the door wide open while Boo and i are having a convo, who will? if i can't be ME in front of him who should i be in that relationship or marriage? That's why there's alot of divorce and seperations because couples have refused to be Friends.

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  22. I mistakenly farted in the presence of my fiance and I was embarrased! It has only happened once and it was one of those farts that just 'drop' without asking permision.....i dont subscribe to it,we can be close but to dey do mess i messs...i no fit....#JoyDaNuGirl

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  23. This etiquette thingy tends to sum everyone's relationship as one and same and then puts it in a box like a one size fit all dress. As A, B, C, D to Z are differently spelled and pronounced, so are people. So forget "air ticket" (etiquette) and do you.

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  24. Lol. I can do anything like farting etc in front of ur boo . I no fit form oooh

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  25. Eti kini??? Feel free as a bird around me as long as you respect me as a person and express your love for me without holding back or walking on egg shells. Fart all you want in my presence and lock me up in it sef. I'll just fart worse and make you cry from the smell. We don invent our own play be dat. Be the most expressive you ever.
    Perfection (being prim and proper) is boring. Humanity is swagnificiently awesome!!!
    K.O.H.

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