Hello people! Some nights ago I went to see my friend at home and just as I was leaving I ran into her mum. Just like mothers do, she began to ask me about my love life, if I'm seeing anyone and if we're getting married soon. I replied in the negative. On hearing my response, she began to reassure me that all is well and that all I have to do is remain consistent in prayers. She then said to me that when I'm praying I should adopt three things, the third thing she said was Specificity.
She said I should be specific in my prayers, I should tell God exactly what I want. In her words; "If you're going to buy a car you don't just walk into the dealership and say 'I want a car', you tell them the exact model you want, the brand, the year and all the specifications. Likewise when you're praying to God for a husband you tell him; tall, lanky, dark skinned, good job, God-fearing, etc. Tell God EVERYTHING you want in your desired husband, don't leave a detail out. Also do this when you're praying for other things, not just your husband".
Now I found this particularly interesting because it's something that has nagged me for a while. She wouldn't be the first person telling me about specificity in prayers. I've heard other people, both religious and non-religious say it. But then again I've also heard the religious and non-religious say that when you pray you shouldn't give God orders, don't send him on errands, He already knows what plans he has for you, He knows what is best for you and that is what He will give you. Therefore telling him what to do, if not in line with His own plans might be to your detriment.
To be honest with you guys the latter holds more weight with me, it makes more sense to me. But after hearing my friend's mother speak, I was reminded of the times I've heard sermons and lectures on Specificity and now I'm beginning to wonder.
I said some prayers at midnight this morning and I was going to adopt that Specificity method but I felt a tad uncomfortable.
So I'm asking you people; What is the right way to pray/to ask God for something. Do you for instance tell God "I need a life partner/job/relationship" and leave it to Him to do His WILL, or do you tell Him "I need a life partner/job/relationship" and then tell him specifically every detail of this thing you desire and exactly how, where and when you want it?
What do you do, and so far what has worked for you? Please share.