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The Things I Want. (To Be Or Not To Be Specific?)






Hello people! Some nights ago I went to see my friend at home and just as I was leaving I ran into her mum. Just like mothers do, she began to ask me about my love life, if I'm seeing anyone and if we're getting married soon. I replied in the negative. On hearing my response, she began to reassure me that all is well and that all I have to do is remain consistent in prayers. She then said to me that when I'm praying I should adopt three things, the third thing she said was Specificity. 

She said I should be specific in my prayers, I should tell God exactly what I want. In her words; "If you're going to buy a car you don't just walk into the dealership and say 'I want a car', you tell them the exact model you want, the brand, the year and all the specifications. Likewise when you're praying to God for a husband you tell him; tall, lanky, dark skinned, good job, God-fearing, etc. Tell God  EVERYTHING you want in your desired husband, don't leave a detail out. Also do this when you're praying for other things, not just your husband". 

Now I found this particularly interesting because it's something that has nagged me for a while. She wouldn't be the first person telling me about specificity in prayers. I've heard other people, both religious and non-religious say it. But then again I've also heard the religious and non-religious say that when you pray you shouldn't give God orders, don't send him on errands, He already knows what plans he has for you, He knows what is best for you and that is what He will give you. Therefore telling him what to do, if not in line with His own plans might be to your detriment. 

To be honest with you guys the latter holds more weight with me, it makes more sense to me. But after hearing my friend's mother speak, I was reminded of the times I've heard sermons and lectures on Specificity and now I'm beginning to wonder. 

I said some prayers at midnight this morning and I was going to adopt that Specificity method but I felt a tad uncomfortable. 

So I'm asking you people; What is the right way to pray/to ask God for something. Do you for instance tell God "I need a life partner/job/relationship" and leave it to Him to do His WILL, or do you tell Him "I need a life partner/job/relationship" and then tell him specifically every detail of this thing you desire and exactly how, where and when you want it?

What do you do, and so far what has worked for you? Please share. 

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  1. I understand both sides of the argument but I will say I will rather go for Gods will in my life knowing and understanding that he knows whats best for me.
    Although most times, he does drop some things in your heart in other for you to work with.
    There is no one size fits it all approach with God, if you don't feel comfy in your spirit with the specificity prayers please by all means just pour out your heart to God.
    HSF

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    1. very well said, we tend to be very superficial these days however asking that his will be done in your life is the best gift you can do for yourself.Its better to be more interested in being the best "you" you could be and you will definitely attract same, water always finds its own level IMO.

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  2. I feel its better to pray to God with details. For instance, if one's desire is for a husband, including details about character, career et al might not be unscriptural. Remember in Romans 12:2, he desires/encourages us that our minds be transformed to things of His will. Hence, with longer time in our walk with Him, our prayers should be in line with His desires for us and that can be attained. I sometimes marvel how prophets of old often spoke 'big' words without inquiring from God and God made those words come to pass. So much power has been committed to His children and that power can accomplish much. I'd end on this note, that no matter the specificities of what we desire, we should always seek to defer to God's will cuz He meets our needs not necessarily our wants.

    P.S.
    Don't worry if our prayer 'details' aren't right, he'd always give us that which is right and beats our imagination. It's in His nature and thus he can't go against his uniqueness. Luke 11:13, Ephesians 3:20
    Chris

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    1. I wouldn't have written it any better.

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  3. I asked God for the kind of Man I want o, even up to the kind of surname I wanted- yes, I asked for aa cute name.

    I got 80 percent of what I assked for. 80 percent because there were some selfish things o wannted, however, God streamlined it and gave me the most important things on my list.

    Thelms, don't feel a tad guilty, when God wanted hiis temple built, he. Asked for woods from lebanon, stones from the very best countries, he gave details the exact way he wanted them.

    Ask. And Ye shall receive

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  4. I asked God for the kind of Man I want o, even up to the kind of surname I wanted- yes, I asked for aa cute name.

    I got 80 percent of what I assked for. 80 percent because there were some selfish things o wannted, however, God streamlined it and gave me the most important things on my list.

    Thelms, don't feel a tad guilty, when God wanted hiis temple built, he. Asked for woods from lebanon, stones from the very best countries, he gave details the exact way he wanted them.

    Ask. And Ye shall receive

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  5. What I do is tell God exactly what I want then say but if it not your will then let your own will be done.

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  6. I've listened to both sides of the coin.
    Both are scriptural. If U just want to ask for something, maybe a Car & U specify. Green Honda Accord, 2010 model. Or U just say God pls give me a car...
    As Long as that desire of Urs is in harmony with his will & U the person asking is living in harmony with his will, He'll give U what U deserve, which is the Best.
    Not specifying shows U trust God too much for the Best.
    Specifying shows U have a strong desire about ur request.
    Both is acceptable according to the Scriptures!

    But For Me, I NEVER go into detail cos I don't trust myself. LOL
    His Blessings has NO pain so I leave it to him!

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    1. I'm with Ruthy all the way with her every word, don't need to say much

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    2. Hmmmm his blessing has no pain... word to hold on to.

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    3. Oya Uyi & Subomi this is my email: myrtwo@yahoo.com

      Let's start from there!

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  7. "A child cannot ask his father for bread and he will be given fish"
    Ask God for the kind of man you want but God will give you the best.
    See, prayer is communication with God. When you pray for something, you tell Him specifics of what you want. But if those specs that you have asked for are not His will for you, He will give you the very best that he has for you.
    I've come to realize that some Christian couples who have shared their testimony most at times says that, their spouses were not exactly what they wanted but they turned out to be the best they could ever wish for.
    My point here is just that, when you ask God for something,be specific and also ask that His will be done.

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  8. Well said Ruthy, especially when it comes to man matter, i dont go all specific cuz i can be really superficial so i leave it all to God cuz He knows what i need, He maketh rich and addeth no sorrow to it so its all good. But strangely enough when it comes to job, career and Other stuff, i go all out to be specific and start naming names and that has worked for me. I think i have accepted that i'm just really messed up when it comes to relationship choices....

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  9. I just say 'Lord, please grant me my heart desire as far as it is your will for my life, but if it's not your will, Father let your will be done'. That's how I say my own o. God knows our heart's desire, and I know he wants the best for us.

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  10. Our specifics may not be God's will so I majorly ask for things I want but say it should be of his will.even if I get specific,I say if it's not of his will then it shouldn't happen.God knows what's best for us,it could really be our specifics but the timing may just be different.

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  11. Both ways can work,but wen d matter at hand is really important I talk to God lyk I will talk to a friend,I try to explain my reasons and then say God at d end let your will be done ...n so far this method has worked for me, I mean prayer is communication tell God what you want,there's a way you will say it that its won't sound like you are giving him orders

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  12. As long as its God you are praying to, doesn't matter how u ask for what you want.. just ask.
    I always specify what I want in a way that does not sound like giving orders and I get it.

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  13. God already knows our heart desires but He wants us to confess it, proclaim it, say it. The Bible admonishes us to ask so what does ask entail? It is true that sometimes we don't exactly know what we want and we can be very superficial in the things we ask for but usually I first pray for God's leading to make the right utterances and request. Over the years I have had to tweak what I want in my husband but certain values remain very constant and I mention them to God. I am so sure that those values will be evident in him when I meet him. I believe in being specific, because I have already asked his guidance on what I should pray for.

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  14. Both are scriptural. Ask and ye shall receive. So i told God exactly what i wanted in a man. (someone that will listen to me, fear God, comfortable in life, love me beyond words and most importantly someone that won't be carried away by my body of want to sleep with me before marriage) Guess what God brought exactly what i wanted and when everything was manifesting i just knew that he has done it. T be specific in your request and trust me God will grant you the desires of your heart,

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