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The Words We Swallow... (*Changing Mouth* Syndrome)


‘Feminist until you get married

Activist until you get rich
Atheist until the airplane starts falling’.




So I got the quote from Peculiar Okafor's Changing Mouth post on Bella Naija and this campaign poster took my mind right back to it. 

That's not to say that I agree with Obanikoro or his strategy but that's completely besides the point of this post. 

Isn't it funny how we judge, criticize and wrinkle our noses at some things people do but then we find ourselves in that situation and it's suddenly ok for us to do that same thing?

My former colleague used to go on and on about how she could never live on the Island, the Island is for fake people, the Island is a scam, the Island is trash, people who live on the Island are just deceiving themselves, all the men on the Island live above their means and 'borrow pose' to impress, even if you give her a million dollars she'll rather get a nice place in Magodo or Ikeja than live on the Island bla bla bla same story every day. Then one day she's fortunate to seal a deal and made some bucks and the first thing she did was to rent a room on the Island. Issorai!


Likewise my friend who always expressed disgust at married women who have extramarital affairs but found herself in a loveless marriage and is presently having a steamy affair with a broda outside

Or my formerly feminist friend who couldn't cook or clean, said she wasn't going to learn because a woman's place isn't in the kitchen or on the ground sweeping floors and she believed in equal rights, but a week after the wedding she made YouTube cooking tutorials her best friend and is now the poster-girl for Stepford Wives. 

Some politicians actually went into office with the best intentions but ended up stealing even more than their predecessors whose wrongs they came to right. Situations and circumstances sometimes change people.

In my late teens I looked at sexually active young adults engaging in premarital sex and said God forbid, I will never open my legs for a man who is not my husband! Well hello adulthood, love, infatuation and hormones... We all know the rest. LOL. 

I guess my bottom line is this, are you going to criticize someone? First ensure that you've stood in the exact spot they're standing and you walked in a different direction than the one they're walking in. Otherwise keep your criticism and judgement to yourself. 

What are your thoughts on "Changing Mouth"? Are there things that you're certain you would never do, regardless of the situation? Have you ever changed mouth; done something you swore you wouldn't do, then levels/circumstances changed and you found yourself doing them? Do you know someone who has?

Do share!



Comments

  1. In any situation u find yourself in life,NEVER SAY NEVER!

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    1. Gbam! I tell you I never say NEVER. It is just funny that that very thing you said 'never' to is what you find yourself doing the next minute. Just pray for grace, kapish.

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  2. I have learnt to just never say never, and just watch how situations will unfold.
    I used to hate the whole natural hair thing or "craze' some months ago, I would always go out of my way to tell anyone who cared that I would never be caught on this natural hair thingie,that I loved my hair the way it was and nothing was going to make me go natural, for what naaa... But see me now, it's this same ME who now has the natural hair on for some time now, I'm sure when those friends of mine see me they would just shake their heads for me.. Loool

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  3. Well, I keep saying this one:
    I will NEVER stop being a JW.

    Everything else I "may" be capable of & YES, I have done changing mouth well well... it's called growing up I think. LOL
    But that doesn't mean RIGHT won't continue to be RIGHT...

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    1. I will vex one day and convert you :D

      *Never say NEVER*

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    2. Memphis ur liver no reach! LOL
      I've been a JW for 10yrs now. Na me convert all 6 of my family members!
      That's one Never I can lay my life for!!

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  4. This post reminds me of Peter who said he'll never deny Christ, but he did 3 different times. A lot of things I'll never do, but never say never, so by God's grace, I'll never denounce Jesus even in the face of death

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  5. As we grow up, experience and life tend to make us realise that so many things aren't the way we viewed them before......so overtime I've learnt to never say never.
    But regardless of the situation, I will never change my religion.

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  6. very well said all, I was amongst the "I must marry as a virgin" crew chastising those that had boyfriends in high school, fast forward to college hmmmm no words Sha but Im thankful for Gods mercy in my life.Not only did I not marry a virgin, I was pregnant when I got married now I dey form spirroooo up and down. I always try not to judge anyone again, cause i literally did everything I said never to.sigh
    HSF

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  7. I think the saying never say never is used by people with no principles.

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    1. I would say yes 2 some degree, but the phrase is open 2 re-interpretation

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  8. "If U are going to criticize someone, first ensure that you've stood in the exact spot they're standing and you walked in a different direction than the one they're walking in" WORD!

    I for one isn't d type that goes back on my words and I don't criticize untill I've actually found my self in dt position and walked in a different direction, or sometimes had better offers than thiers and still did d opposite. This is very easy 2 achieve once U R principled, God conscious and U always keep your words.
    Overtime, I've realized that all d things I said I wouldn't do since I was a kid, hv not been alterned in anyway. From never going to change my religion and belief, to engaging in things I blv are immoral among others. It's jes abt self discipline and following God's lead which is very achievable since the Lord I serve burdens not a person with more than he can bear.






    *lips sealed and watching*

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  9. never will I smoke weed but I decided to give it a try after my final exam and it was awful.
    never will i sleep with a fat man...haha, y'all know the rest. great lover too. My huge teddy bear lol

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  10. I said I'd never marry a man with a kid... here I am now.

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  11. I mean we r humans we fall,more Grace from God is what we should pray for and try not to b judgemental at all times

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  12. As much as am open to life, there are still somethings I say never to.

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  13. I'll never stop believing in the gospel of Jesus Christ or marry from another religion. I'll never sleep with an animal... Plenty things I can confidently say I'll never do. Still plenty I can't say never to.

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  14. I try to put myself in people's shoes before criticizing. That you aren't doing it doesn't make it wrong. That you are doing it doesn't make it right. I have said Never on a couple of issues and I ate my words #lol# so just be open minded n judge less. Live and let live.

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  15. I said i'd never have anything to do with a younger guy, not even a year younger,well........hello Cougar!

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