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Thelma Asks; Wedding Dresses, To Buy or Not To Buy?




The last few weeks have seen my friends married off and I still have one major one to go in December. One of my first thoughts this morning was that I wouldn't make The Experience as this amazing individual who's gone from being my friend to my sister is wedding on the same day and attending her wedding isn't even remotely negotiable. 

Anyhooooo, with all these weddings I've watched and learnt a lot. But one thing I'm yet to figure out is what informs a bride's decision on whether to buy her dress wedding dress or to rent one. I know you might think that it's all about how bouyant the bride is but that isn't always the case. I've seen broke brides buy (sometimes expensive) wedding dresses and I've seen bouyant brides rent theirs. 

I try to think about what I might do when the time comes and I honestly cannot say. On the one hand, the Sensible part of me says; "Rent. You will never wear that dress again. Why waste valuable money?" On the other hand the Sentimental part of me says "Buy. You're not buying the dress alone, you're buying the moment, the memories, the feeling you got the moment he saw you in that dress. That's valuable, that's priceless.". 

So I'm left wondering. I got into a conversation with one of my bride-to-be friends and she too isn't quite sure what to do, and the possible gains and losses in either buying or renting a wedding dress. And that's what led me to this blog post. 

Would you rent or buy your wedding dress? What are your reasons? 
Did you rent your wedding dress, or did you buy one just for you? Looking back now, would you have done it differently, and why?

Ladies, we really want to know. 

Comments

  1. Buy nii ooo. I want to feel special in my dress, knowing dt m nt d first 2 wear dt dress wouldn't give me dt total feelin of bin special. Also, I'd like to keep it so I can get 2 c it once in a while, even if its jst 4 d memories of how I felt wen I wore it.........
    Doe d rational mind in me is saying rent sha,dt y would I use so much money to buy sumfin I'd jst wear once n nt b able 2 wear again.
    Buh na lie jare, I'd totally buy my wedding dress.

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  2. I plan to rent, what am I going to be doing with the dress after that day? Just to open my wardrobe and be admiring it? No don't think so. But if I don't see what I like that's up for rent, then I might buy but won't be happy about it. I certainly would fight to rent instead, would rather lavish money on the honeymoon

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  3. I will make mine and it won't be the conventional style,just so I can rock and re-rock at will. So help me God.

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  4. I rented my wedding dress and i did not regret it.

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  5. I was one of those people that was pro rent (Bisroy you can rent new wedding dresses which was what I planned) but then I saw this wedding dress and changed my mind. I even had an added advantaged of getting a customised one to the very last detail cos I had time before my wedding. So there went my renting dream, right out of the window. I consoled myself that I will sell it but I got so attached. J

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  6. I had mine made to my specification because I could not find anything I remotely liked. I sold it after the wedding, I had no need for it.

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  7. Personally i for like rent o but not sure le boo would like the idea plus his family are so boxed up so buying one won't be a big issue

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  8. I bought mine for less than half the retail price at a charity shop, by the time i added a belt etc it was under my budget. I used to say I would rent, but when i was ready, i went straight to the store and fell in love with the 3rd dress i tried on. I borrowed my veil though.

    In the process of reselling my dress. I already researched my resale price etc.

    www.pynk360.com

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  9. I rented my wedding gown. I was lucky to find d one I iliked for rent. So if find one u like for rent, by all means rent. But if u won't mind buying a gown u won't use again. Then do. U can might sell it, or rent it out.

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  10. @ ur question Looking back, I wouldn't have re done nothing.

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  11. Am so buying my wedding dress ni o, the tot of renting one has neva cross my mind sef!

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  12. I would like to tailor mine to suit me. In other words I will sew it.

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  13. Buy/sew but def sell afterwards.

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    1. I'm buying my materials & sewing my dress(Less expensive). As the years go by, i'll keep altering it for all my anniversaries!!!
      That's MY plan. Reason : it's MY dress & mine alone.
      How will I rent dress, attend a wedding & see another bride wearing that same dress, I go comot am for her body oh!

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    2. Ruthy make sure there's plenty of allowance when sewing the dress cause when kids start rolling in, you will definitely alter it .

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  14. My sil gave me hers, when she bought it she showed it to me and I liked it, so she was like "whoever they propose to first will wear it and I wore it first n ill probably dash it out some day tho I haven't made up my mind about that yet.

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  15. I think I'll have mine made. I went to this bridal shop in Ikeja a couple of years ago and I fell totally in love cos the lady is so good.
    The thought of renting has never even crossed my mind.

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  16. I bought mine,after the wedding wanted to sell it the price was so annoying,wish I had rented it

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  17. I bought mine. Now it's in a box in my closet. I guess I could have rented and it wouldn't have made a difference. But weddings (and wedding dresses) are emotional nau! It wasn't so expensive sha, so I'm using that to console myself. I'm thinking I'll use it to make a christening gown for my kids.

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  18. I rented mine though it was made for me. Met this lady who makes whatever you want, and you can buy or rent it. Showed her a pix of what I wanted and my gown was perfect.

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  19. I made mine. So simply styled that I could rock it as a dinner wear later. It's cream in colour.

    I haven't worn it again though, almost 5 years now.

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  20. Am so buying mine...aint buyn d wedding gown but d memories,I can only imagine d way I feel anytime I see it,dos memories,happiness,its worth more dan d money!

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  21. buying please. I wana buy it and keep it and alter and alter and re-rock and re-rock lol

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  22. Am making (with specific details to the dress-maker) or buying already made that's not the conventional wedding dress so i can still wear it afterwards for events.

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  23. Hmmmm!! Donno yet sha! If I can get a beautiful dress to rent y not? I can rent if not I better buy jare me I can't shout

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  24. #exclaiming the opposite of the OLX pay off line....BUY IT!....#JoyDaNuGirl

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