I'm not sure the reason why but suddenly having a small waist and big hips gets you more notice, respect and admiration than the next person, whether they're smarter, more talented or more altruistic than you.
This has led to people placing so much importance on their physical looks. And really, what about those who weren't created with those attributes? Haha! We're are a desperate generation, hungry for the wrong things. We always find a way! Your skin too dark, bleach it! Your booty not big enough, enhance it.
I'm all for wanting to look your best but I only wonder if people pay as much attention to beautifying their insides as they do their outsides?
We have 14yr olds now doing waist training because the media and even their mothers are giving off vibes that it's better to aspire to have a Kim K body than to have Okonjo Iweala achievements.
One of our well known "Lekki wives" left her three kids at home with the nanny and driver for weeks so she could take a trip abroad to get some enhancements done; facelift here, Botox there, niptuck here, implants there... So of course when her fourteen year old became anoxeric and recently loudly blurted out "Eeeeew, that woman is so fat and disgusting, that's so gross", I wasn't in any way surprised. Oh, and mummy encouraged her too; very disgusting dear, that's why you must never let yourself go. I honestly applaud parents who teach their children the benefits of healthy living from a young age, but seriously madam is that really the way to go?
Your kid almost got held back for poor grades yet what's more important is that she doesn't 'let herself go', so you ignore that your child is anoxeric and already has body issues at 14 as a result of low self esteem which both you and the media contributed to. But no, all that's OK as long as she's skinny.
Does anyone care what goes on on the insides anymore, or is it just our outward appearance that matters?
I'm in total support of working towards the best version of yourself you can be and if that means being healthier, trimmer or fitter then by all means, let's go for it. But how do we draw a line? How do we maintain focus on those things that truly matter? How do we let people know that mental health is just as important as physical health and having a low self-esteem can completely ruin a person...