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Tides & Time... By Ziggylucious.

It’s amazing how the tides turn, how time changes all, how nothing stays the same. I sit and I think of the conversation we just had, of your words, of the passion in your voice and the longing it couldn’t disguise and I marvel at the power of time and sayings like ‘every dog has his day’. In my heart I don’t mean to hurt you; the fact that we are still friends means the world to me, and yet you give your world to me and I’ll refuse it. I know many people who know us can’t and won’t understand how I feel about you; I Love You but I’m not In Love with you.

I met you at a time that most have forgotten, I was too young and you were the reason for many asigh, many a smile, and many a broken heart. The first time we made love I was still too young but not too young to know I wanted a lifetime. The years passed, your star rose and I was the person that you would call only when others can’t be gotten. Yet each time you called, my heart would skip and all is forgotten; of how in public we barely speak, of how I’m seen only in the dark, of how I’m never spoken of cos those who matter never knew. And then a few months passes by, I call and never hear you voice. I walk out of the students’ hall and see you leave with one with whom whose worth can’t even see my lights. Remember when your friend had his issues and warned you against treating gold like tissues. Remember the day I told you beware, one day you’ll love and won’t be loved.

It’s amazing how the tides turn, how time changes all, how nothing stays the same. I remember when I had enough; I took stock and took back my life. I was officially tired of things like having the cake I baked for your birthday myself go bad on my table four days after. Or making plans alone cos you had travelled, to see you cruising out in town, another bimbo on your arm. I took stock, I moved on without a glance; without so much as “Hi...Goodbye”. We never spoke for quite a while till even you realized I had moved on. The next time I bothered to ask, you were dying; and that was cause enough to reach out.

You made it through and in the dark, I was there to hold your hand. And life and time, like school had taught you to value the people who had loved you; for in that darkness there was none of your hangers-on to lead and guide you. Yet the same passage that brought you to light had shown me what I could not take. Cos now you want me and I feel like all that’s left are the dregs of what was the best of you; the best years that you had to give, you chose to give to those who leave and if I stay I’ll just be left with what they wouldn’t care to keep and the me that I’ve become today wouldn’t settle for nothing less than best.
It’s amazing how the tides turn, how time changes all, how nothing stays the same. Today I picked the phone and heard the words I used to dream of hearing you say. I heard the passion, I heard the longing which I had heard before, but which was never meant for me. But funny was the way I felt at feeling which would have once made my world; a feeling that was qite akin to hearing that my dog was dead. For though I’ll never want to hurt you, I Love You but I’m not In Love with You.


  1. Phew.....Very Deep~~~# Love Sha

    We have come to cross roads,
    And I must either leave or come with you.
    I lingered over the choice, but in the darkness of my doubts
    You lifted the lamp of love and i saw in your face
    The road that i should take...

  2. DEEP! Nothing in life stays the same cos time changes yesterday... most people leave someone who truly cares for them only to realize someday they left a diamond in search of rock.

  3. I can totally relate to this writeup.

    I took stock and took back my life. I love you but I'm not in love with you.

  4. #Deep, this thing called LOVE. The words in this write up resound even after I'm done reading.

  5. So many people we love but ain't in love with. Let us not wait till we are the one on the other side. Give love as much as you can now that you can. Shits happens, things ain't gonna remain the same.

  6. Effortlessly written. It went down well like pounded yam and draw soup. Do not for a second think that that person who loved you despite all would remain in love with you, there's a limit to everything

  7. If only he read this on time! I'm in the same exact boat.
    But jn my case, I'm not in love with him & I don't love him either! I'm indifferent.... LOL
    Love is VERY easy! People just make it complicated! Don't play games & Love!

    Very apt writeup Ziggy! #Hugs

    1. Thanks Ruthy! Lol at love is very easy! *hugs back*

  8. Lovely, beautiful, touching, inspiring... great job well done. please I will like to copy this and don't worry I will give the credit to my dearest TT.... and by the way Thelma sexy, ain't I qualify for any of those HOT shoes?

  9. Lovely, beautiful, touching, inspiring... great job well done. please I will like to copy this and don't worry I will give the credit to my dearest TT.... and by the way Thelma sexy, ain't I qualify for any of those HOT shoes?

  10. It spoke to my soul's still ringing in my brain sef....this word called LOVE is too deep

  11. People often say that the opposite of love is hate....but personally I have come to know it's indifference.......that point when you don't send the person again.....its like they ceased to exist....

    1. My sis said this same thing about the opposite of love being "indifference"... I used to think it was hate. But quite frankly, it takes an effort to hate someone because you actually do care enough to detest/hate the person....
      While indifference on the other hand requires no effort. Like you just simply care less about the person/thing. you just don't give 2!!! indifference stings mehn!!!

      Back to the subject matter... I hope and pray I won't be the guy in this wonderful piece sometime soon... Amen!

  12. Pls,Is this a poem?? #InnocentlyAsking

    1. Honestly the words just came as a train of thought. Now I'm reading it here, it does ring slightly poetic though. No be the intention my dear. But then there was no intention save getting the thoughts into words (guess na like this them wan comot. Lol)

  13. Hehe, now i can comment as i please without my phone limiting me.
    Nice writeup, i think deep down he always thought you will always be there for him like you were a plan B..... Guys, can't even find a word to describe their way of thinking

  14. Thanks guys for the compliments!! *hugs & kisses all round*

  15. Its so crazy how loss triggers love,the moment you leave you will become the best they ve ever had..
    Brilliant one ziggy,kip it coming.

  16. This really struck a chord within me because I think am at this point. The one seen in dark places, how am never spoken of cos those who matter never knew etc. Really hurts but let my pick what is left of my self-respect and move on. Thanks Ziggy...lovely article

  17. Indeed, opposite of love is indifference and when that switch is pulled, it will never reverse except by the grace of God.


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