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Worried Blog Reader Asks; Does My Husband Have Another Family?

Is it not possible to find out if your husband is having another family outside you when he is alive?. Must he die before one finds out?. I ask because I am honestly suspecting my husband of having another family.
We have been married for few yrs now without a child. The guy lives in another state while I stay in another state because of work. I tried sometime to seek posting from my place of work to his location but was disappointed within a few months because he was posted out. His job demands constant posting. The way he shields me now from his friends and family is suspicious. Most in-laws will know their son has another wife but will do everything possible to hide it from you. As for me, Any man that can hide another family from his wife for years can as well kill that woman.
I am really worried. I am getting depressed because of suspicion. He changes his phone codes at intervals. Most times when he is around, his phone will be off with the excuses that he does not want his boss to know his whereabouts as he was not on pass. So many suspicious characters. I have done my best to know if there is something hidden to no avail. I desperately need to know what is happening behind me to avoid Had-I-Known, A childless woman is worthless to in-laws.

Please has anyone had a personal experience of her husband keeping two homes?. How did you find out. 

What FBI/CIA skills are available to someone in this situation? How 'fatal' is it to just ask him outright? 

Anon I'm not married but the ones I know who found out when hubby was still living, hubby never came clean. It's either a strange woman showed up at the door with child(ren) or by some happenstance wifey stumbled upon the truth. 


  1. bv,I'd say ur emotions are playing a fast one on u...mayb because u don't have a child of yours for now that's why u think ur hubby is having another family...he might be shielding u from ur in-laws,who knows?am not saying he can't have another family just saying he might be protecting u...pls play safe,make u no go cause wahala for urself...that naughty house wife

  2. Hmmmn, dear poster I am not married yet but I feel you should calm down first, whenever he is around you could just try to talk to him about it Or pay him an unannounced visit to that place he is, stay for a few days, if you notice the same behavior with him then.. I really don't know..


  3. Hmm,they say a woman's instincts are hardly wrong.
    Then again,ur paranoia might be getting the worst of u cos of ur temporary childless state.
    But which ever way,its a man's duty as the head of his household to provide and this provision includes providing mental security and peace to ur wife. If she's suspecting anything,its ur duty to ensure that those fears/suspicions are laid to rest.

    Now,if ur suspecting,just ask him straight up and let him openly admit or deny!

  4. Dear poster, dont u visit this man?, please pay him a suprise visit. Am sure it ll help.
    Ifunanya Ekene

  5. Ifunanya I miss U wella... Good to have U here again!

    Poster Dearie, start by asking him. If he doesn't give u a satisfying answer, Pay him a surprise visit & stay for a week!
    If that doesn't work either, enter security village & hack the man's phone biko! Ur Peace of mind & happiness is worth more than bill Gates bank account!
    All the Best...

    1. Ruthy, how would she hack a phone that she doesn't even have access to? am sure d guy has his phone with him 24hours a day. which does not necessarily mean he's cheating. after hacking n the bobo is innocent nko? hope shes ready for what might follow if shes caught. this might just be plain paranoia and trust issues except he's giving her reasons to believe he might b cheating or she knows sometn we don't know n not because he locks his phone n switches it off. i lock my fone n le boo doesnt have access to it when we are together i sometimes put it off or ignore certain callers to avoid flimsy innocent conversations that could upset my partner. am not cheating, never had, never will. he does same too to avoid stories that touch. you know we women can come to a conclusion easily n every movement is suspicious esp wen there's lil or no trust. besides its a long distance r/ship n id appreciate quality time with le boo. our fones can be off for the whole weekend for all i care. as for the in-laws he might just be protecting her. there's no hard n fast rules to r/ship n marriage. its what works for you. in as much as transparency is good, TRUST is equally important n Privacy should be respected else u'd NEVER be happy. in any case pay him a visit before you confront him. It might be hard to find out the truth cos if there's another family they might also b in a different location afterall his job demands constant posting. abi is military guy? where visiting can be a bit tough. poster, may God help you in your quest n may you find inner peace

  6. When you hear Hoof beats, dont go thinking Zebras think Horses...
    The truth might just be wat your eyes are seeing ryt now

  7. Uyi where has thou been?. Welcome back. U were really missed.

  8. @mabel I've been around... I guess Blogger has a beef with me comment.

  9. In my opinion, why bother looking for his other family which might not even exist.

  10. What if he's protecting you from his family so they don't point out your childlessness to your face and be mean and nasty to you?


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