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You're Famous, You're Not a Human-being.

I just heard Human being by MI on the Beat fm. This was Toolz' song of the week (or day, not sure which). Before she played the song she mentioned that she loves the song because she can completely relate to it and it makes her so emotional. In my mind I was wondering 'what's this one on about?' then I heard the song and I understood. 

Coincidentally Ibinabo Fiberisima just replied her 'haters' who castigate her for having children by different fathers and ended this by stating that being famous doesn't make her less human. 

This makes me wonder, why are celebs held to different standards? For instance there's probably some lady in your neighbourhood who has many children from numerous men, it's no secret but no one points fingers. Yet when it comes to celebrities fingers aren't only pointed, the celebrities are judged, insulted, bullied, ridiculed and castigated.
    Like Toolz also said; the average person wears something that doesn't sit well on them and everyone just sees it and quietly observes that they don't look too nice, but when it a celebrity they make it very personal and make sure to get the message across in the most vitriolic and hurtful ways possible. 

Why do (some) people treat celebs and public figures as less human? Do they actually forget that they're human? Do they just not care? Do they deliberately aim to hurt them? Or are they just jealous?

Sorry guys, seriously I'm sorry but I have to say this. I apologize in advance to Memphis et al. But you see this Ibinabo situation, IMHO it's classic "he's not promiscuous, he's just bad with protection" situation. You see, if some of us were to keep all those pregnancies we have aborted then some of us would have a dozen offspring from a dozen men. Just saying... (For those who are either virgins/celibate/very good with protection don't chew me raw. You're exempt from the "we" in this paragraph). This is the way I see it and you're very free to disagree but I would also like to hear your thoughts. 

I deviate, apologies my people. Do tell; Does being a celebrity make a person less human? 


  1. Celebs are human but the truth is,that unknown woman who shares similar tale with Ibinabo was also judged but by less people. We celebrate good whether from celebs or not and wrong wld always be wrong and judged whether from celebs or not. It's even in Naija that celebs get away with a lot cos of their status. We've seen and read of US celebs going to jail and tagged ex-cons.

    Now to the 2nd part,a woman owes her body more responsibility than the man she's sleeping with. Unless u wanna have the babies,dont blame the men for knocking u up. Postinor 2 and other contraceptives haven't been banned from the market! Protect urself if he wldnt...

  2. Dozen of children is an exaggeration but I agree to an extent.

  3. When a celeb visits an Orphanage with 3 bags of rice, we scream philanthropist!
    When a random person gives 50 bags of rice to 10 orphanages, who hears it?

    Celebs are held in higher esteem because the portfolio of "celebrity" calls for it. Why else are celebs Endorsing brands? Because they have the "Power" to influence people, likewise with the choices they make!
    U won't hear an Ajegunle boy saying I want to be like a mushin boy, he'll say I want to be like Ramsey Nouah, 2Face, hence the bad choices of such celebs will rub of on him negatively.
    So, Celebs are Humans who should have HIGHER standards!

    1. Very apt Ruth. I needn't add anything to it.

    2. You just said everything Ruthy

    3. You just said everything Ruthy

  4. @sasha bone: Best Comment of the past 1 week for me! Well said and spot on. They shuld get use to it, cos without the prying eyes(fans/haters), I don't think they would eat (financially) from it. Hian... In short I'm a fan of sasha bone and her comment. I rarely comment these days though!

  5. "...let not your freedom cause others who are less prepared, to fall...When you disturb the weak conscience of your brethren and sin against them, you sin against Christ...if any food will bring my brother to sin, I shall never eat this food..."-St. Paul; 1Corinthians 8.

    Celebrities are superhuman, they know this. What they cannot come to terms with most times is why they can't live their lives freely without people scrutinizing them. Well, I'll say "you can't eat your cake and have it". Either you are simple and free, or complicated and caged. When JESUS became famous did people let HIM rest? And did HE complain? That's the baggage.

    As for Ibinabo's case, how come it's a case of "bad with protection"? She's one of the very few actresses I love but let's call a spade a spade. Like Sasha said, "a woman owes her body more responsibility than the man she's sleeping with". Let's not begin to paint promiscuity with bright colors when someone we love is accused.

    1. Dear Memphis, thank you oh. Celebs aren't less human Thelma; they are SUPERHUMANS and that's why people expect so much from them.

      When you say someone is less human, you are likening them to an ANIMAL because an animal is less human.

      But on a serious note, I don't want to be a celeb. I cherish my privacy a lot.

  6. Ruth 10 gbosa's for your comment, mephis, 50 gbosa's, Sasha, 10 gbosa's. Well said people.

    Celebrities have a role to play with their status. It's very distasteful having 4 kids for 4 men.

    But hey, it's her baggage, and God is the judge. CEO


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