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The First Time...

In Asaba when I was thinking of blog topics this came to mind and I thought it might be too risqué so I held off on making it a blog post. So as you can imagine I was quite shocked to see this post Nairaland on  where Nigerian celebrities shared the juicy deets about how they lost their V card. 

UCHE OGBODO- I Lost My Virginity At The Age of 20

FOLUKE DARAMOLA- I Lost My Virginity To a Rapist

LAIDE BAKARE- My First Sexual Experience At 21 Was Horrible

ICE PRINCE- I Had My First Kiss @13; Raped By An Aunty

PETER & PAUL (PSQUARE)- We Had Our First Sex At 14 & 15 Respectively

GENEVIEVE NNAJI- Getting Pregnant At 17 Shocked Me. Genevieve lost her virginity at 17 and got pregnant afterward.

ADA AMEH-Peer Influence Got Me Deflowered & Impregnated At 14

UTI NWACHUKWU- My First Sex Was A Disaster

EUCHARIA ANUNOBO- I Lost Mine During My A-Level

As for me, I'm not sure I have much to share. I can however share one tiny info with you. This falls under the most bizarre things that have happened to me. A few days after it happened, my dad whom I've always been very close to called me into his room and said to me; "I'm very disappointed in you. You have gone and defiled yourself". Till today I have no idea how he knew. I didn't ask then and we never talked about it after that. 

So... That first time... Anyone care to talk about it?

Memphis Nwanne m, is everything ok? Your phone has been off all day. 

cccc I miss youuuu. 

Blink I'm totally worried about you; you've not answered my calls and I've been calling for weeks. 


  1. Thelma dearest everything is great. Thank GOD. I've been in the *bush*. Lol.

    First time? Errmm...I think I already mentioned that in a previous post..something about Our Firsts or something like that. Too shy to re-spill biko. :-)

    1. Hello baby!!! Yes, that post was about the first time you did anything at all, this just refers to the V-card alone. Anyhooooo...

  2. Lol your dad though, thats something my dad can totally do. I hid my boyfriend from everyone in lawschool (abj) only for me to come home (lagos) one day and my dad told me my boyfriends fullname, his family history and All the bad stuff he had done in his life. Till today, only God knows. Different cities for that matter, dunno what he did or how he did it. Was too scared to even ask.

    Please i cant relate to this post, i'm a virgin. #BornAgainVirgin

  3. LOL... ur Dad is a G!!!

    My 1st is something I don't talk about but I was 19... #I'mOut

  4. I did it with my bfrnd in uni,was 18.but he never believed he was my first cos we didnt see blood(read a story on sdk's blog recently & pple shared their experiences too. glad it wasnt just me it happened to & no sexual experience b4 then) but he just agreed I was very tight.smh,still regret doing that

  5. Memphis, which kind ojoro be dis wan.... some of us did not see it nah!!! oya oya spill biko! i'm all "eyes"...

    ***very excited kabuoy***

  6. Lols... I'm only here to read comments. I'm also #TeamBAV

  7. Awww I feel somehow to have let it get to this, that you'd miss me. I've missed you too!
    So that day I was like, so this is the yeye thing people keep begging for?! Hiss,

  8. Hmmmmmmmm. I would just sit back n read comments cos I bet you all know my story. *handsovermic*.

  9. Was 21 still miss him

  10. Complete disaster. Was 19. No pleasure for either party. No bloodshed either. I regretted it for a long time after because I think I just let myself get sweet-talked like a fool. Consequence of going to an all girl boarding school and not much exposure to boys. OJ

  11. Today is my so happy....thank you God as I mark another awesome year. To you Lord I give all my praise.
    First time? That was more than a decade ago. It is just something u wish never happened with the person u did it with abeg. I was 19. Horrible Experience.

    1. Happy birthday!!! May God bless you :)

    2. Lol,HBD missy...ditch the "first time" memories and have fun!!!

    3. Happy birthday Ejoec.. Wishing you Heaven Best.. God bless Ur New age.

    4. Happy birthday Ejoec! Wishing you many more happy returns with long life and prosperity amen...

    5. Happy birthday Ejoec! Live long and prosper beyond limits.

    6. Happy birthday Ejoec...many more glorious years to come with lots a money!...still waiting...will let you know when I do....#JoyDaNuGirl

    7. Happy birthday Ejoec! Have loads of fun...

    8. Happy Birthday, Ejoec God bless your new age....... Cheers

    9. Happy Birthday Ejoec! Many more years of bliss...

    10. Happy Birthdayyyy!!! May GOD give you more blessings and favors than you can dream of; this year and the years to come. Amen.

    11. May your light shine brighter unto a perfect day, Have a wonderful celebration!

    12. Happy birthday dear, may this new year be better than the last

    13. Awwwwwww, thanks everyone ( I feel so blessed). God bless you all immensely.

    14. HBD dearie. WULLNP

  12. @ccc thanks. @ Sasha bone....having the fun of my laif.

    1. Happy birthday dear God bless your new age

  13. Happy Birthday Ejoec. Enjoy many more beautiful years in sound health and abundant wealth. Cheers!

    *Amma just pretend like I didn't see Thelma's question...#TeamBAV*

  14. Mehn mine was not an interesting experience jare.... 300 level and no thanks to peer pressure.

  15. 22. Painful but he was comforting me all through. Still together.....

  16. 1st time... I was 20. Been together for 17 years now, married for 12!!!!!

  17. First time independence hostel in ekosodin.was 15nd a jambito....hated d guy after..

  18. My first: my first year in higher institution with the man who later became the father of my children.


  19. My first experince no be here biko. I gave the bobo hell cos i was fucking scared to the bones. Took postinor afterwards even when he dint pour inside. i fear belle pass hiv then. lol

  20. Babu ruwa na a wannan magana (in hausa people's voice). Team BAV#

  21. Hmmmm, i lost mine or gave it to him to keep as he taold me and i "mumulishly" believed him at 16. i was a fresher in the University. it was almost like rape. After that Night, i never got close to a D.....K, till i was 20, the New guy thought i was i virgin. so i lost mine twice to two guys. hahahhahahahahahaha. Memories


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