So apparently Miss Chika Ike is on one of her vacations and she's in celibacy mode. She posted a picture of herself in bed and captioned, ‘He loves, he spoils ,he pampers….. But I’m not your regular breakfast in bed kind of girl….not regular…..celibacy mode!!!! When he loves you do you think he should wait?
Ok... Celibacy and all, I remember when a lady called into a very conservative talk show and complained to the host that she'd been finding it difficult to keep a relationship because she was a virgin/celibate (not sure which) and most of the men she dated got tired and when she wouldn't give in, they eventually left. She said she never stopped them when they were leaving because as far as she's concerned if they really loved her they would have stayed with her. I'd expected the host, who's a very conservative Christian to say something like "You go girl! Don't worry the man that loves you will love you regardless and stay with you till it's time". But I was surprised, albeit pleasantly, to hear the woman's response. She asked the caller; "Are you worth the wait?". The caller was momentarily stunned into silence. The woman asked again and on getting no response she went ahead to say "Most men like sex, and if they're dating you they'll naturally want to sleep with you. Now, if you're going to deprive him of this you've got to give him a reason to stay, a reason to stay interested in you, a reason to stay in that relationship. What qualities do you have that would make a man forego the sex and wait with you till you're ready? What do you bring to the table? You've got to be worth waiting for, you've got to give him reasons to feel that there's something special about you, so sex or no sex, he needs you in his life. So I'm asking you lady, are you worth the wait?".
Wow. I was just as stunned as the caller. I'd never really looked at it that way. It gave me a new perspective of things; if I've got nothing solid to offer my man, no qualities that would make me worth waiting for, then I don't have much right to complain when he chooses to take a walk.
Just thought to share...