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Chika Ike's #CelibacyMode... But Are You Worth The Wait?

So apparently Miss Chika Ike is on one of her vacations and she's in celibacy mode. She posted a picture of herself in bed and captioned, ‘He loves, he spoils ,he pampers….. But I’m not your regular breakfast in bed kind of girl….not regular…..celibacy mode!!!! When he loves you do you think he should wait?

Ok... Celibacy and all, I remember when a lady called into a very conservative talk show and complained to the host that she'd been finding it difficult to keep a relationship because she was a virgin/celibate (not sure which) and most of the men she dated got tired and when she wouldn't give in, they eventually left. She said she never stopped them when they were leaving because as far as she's concerned if they really loved her they would have stayed with her. I'd expected the host, who's a very conservative Christian to say something like "You go girl! Don't worry the man that loves you will love you regardless and stay with you till it's time". But I was surprised, albeit pleasantly, to hear the woman's response. She asked the caller; "Are you worth the wait?". The caller was momentarily stunned into silence. The woman asked again and on getting no response she went ahead to say "Most men like sex, and if they're dating you they'll naturally want to sleep with you. Now, if you're going to deprive him of this you've got to give him a reason to stay, a reason to stay interested in you, a reason to stay in that relationship. What qualities do you have that would make a man forego the sex and wait with you till you're ready? What do you bring to the table? You've got to be worth waiting for, you've got to give him reasons to feel that there's something special about you, so sex or no sex, he needs you in his life. So I'm asking you lady, are you worth the wait?".

Wow. I was just as stunned as the caller. I'd never really looked at it that way. It gave me a new perspective of things; if I've got nothing solid to offer my man, no qualities that would make me worth waiting for, then I don't have much right to complain when he chooses to take a walk. 

Just thought to share...


  1. That's some paradigm shift right there...

    1. Some major paradigm shift! Lol!

      Uhmnnnn... good question! i'm gonna take that... keep it in my left hand! So I won't eat it with Amala! Hehehe!


  2. Hmmmm... Time to consider that question. #ThinkingMode

  3. Hmmmmmmmm am stunned too. Another dimension to this. Okay.

  4. I've never really thought of this but its so true... You have to be worth the wait, I have to be worth the wait.


    1. It's your birthday tomorrow dear.HBD in advance.

    2. Yeah yeah! It is! **alanta**
      I was gonna say it later but u beat me to it! *side eye* bloggitup! Be kiaful o! Hehe!


  5. Ermmm,Thelms....wassup with this new background?kinda bare

  6. hmmmmm, DEEP!!! Nywayz, True Love Waits!!!

  7. I have never seen it that way but i like the response,it kinda is major paradigm shift i swear

  8. YES....i am worth the wait...

  9. Interesting! But does it mean that those who give sex, do not have something good to offer so they use sex to cover abi make up for it? No I don't think so. For me, he who wants to wait will wait no matter what.

    1. Nobody waits if u aint gat nufin to offer dear... Truth be said, u aint giving me sex yet u expect me to wait when U aint offering valuable support/advice that would make our relationship grow. My dear, Adios pepe!

  10. Honestly, Girls really need dis... Most times, they just want to Eat Eat Eat and Eat. Nothing to offer and yet they be forming on bed.

  11. I wouldn't be surprised if that happens to be the storyline of her upcoming movie. Since she is in Dubai for the post production of her movie.


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