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Dear Thelma... (25 Year Old Blog Reader Needs Advice).

Gud day T, pls i wud like you to post this because i would like comments. I am a final yr student, 25yrs old and gud luking too, but I am so bored and unhappy, everything seems not to be working, i want to be loved, pampered and taken seriously. I want those little things dat make a girl happy. I'm not a materialistic person though, i just luv good things. I've been fantasizing about my dream man who would eventually be my Husband. I jst want things to fall in right 4 me.Secondly are there men dat love hairy girls becos I'm one of such girls but I am light skinned. Am an anonymous reader. Thanks.


  1. Dear poster,stop bothering urself about whom will love you,just look good,love urself,make yourself happy and do not think about any man and before u know it,you would be surprised the number of men that would want u to be theirs. But when u make it obvious and also make yourself unhappy, then you killing yourself the more,hangout,watch movies, attend church activities, mix with people and just do things that would make u happy,don't bother ur head biko u hiaa me. God would bring a man that would love and cherish u to pieces and remember God loves u. Be HAPPY SIS.

  2. OK. I think Mabel got it right.
    Poster u'll be okay eventually. Hang out with friends more (good ones oh).
    Also pamper urself pls with movie & spa dates if u can afford it. U have no idea share u might meet ur DFH.

  3. Someone once said that there's something attractive in a lady who isn't looking for a man. I find that apt for this issue, its always and I believe it will still remain the duty of a man to search and find the Mrs.
    For your other concerns, I'd advice you find what's makinf you unhappy and avoid such. Make new friends, read, hang out, embrace leisure activities as a needful part of your day, attend a lot of final year activities that comes up in school, plan out the immediate subsequent phase of your life, find time for family and friends. I believe if you just did half of what I just proposed, you'd have no time to read TTB (just humouring you).
    Your happiness resides with you, don't give anyone, anything, any idea the keys to your happiness. Its okay to fantasize about your dream man/husband, you know what you aint alone. A lot of females do so but don't let it get the better of you (there's always more than being a Mrs.)
    As for the hairs, if you are uncomfortable with it, there are good hair removal creams around that need no razor, otherwise you can use an epilator or go for waxing. If you are comfortable with it, I'm sure there are guys who'd be aiit with you as you are.

  4. Love yourself 1st n foremost n evrytin will fall into place
    There r guys that love hairy girls definitely

  5. @poster, I used to have this same problem sometime ago.i posted same problem on a blog sum time ago. In fact I had to look back to b sure it wasn't my story dt was posted.
    Anyway lemme give u d advice I was given then. Stop being desperate. Guys can identify desperate gals frm afar n dey will definitely take advantage of ur desperation. U r just 25. Ur guy will definitely locate u at d ryt time. Dress fine and learn to appreciate ur self the way you are

  6. Dear poster, please, please and please, focus on yourself and your education right now. Though I was 20 going on 21 in my final year... I began to bother my little head about how i'm not in any relationship, my roommates(in lower levels) were and I was not! Will I get married?! Will I experience mushy mushy feelings?! Will I ever fall in love?! and all what not. I had project to write, books to read and I was just preoccupied with things I had no business thinking about... but God loves me too much(just as he loves you too) I had this friend... she was in her 30s then, she was also in her final year, she talked to me... told me to forget about anything like that and focus on my school work. there'll be plenty of time after she said. And I heeded to the advice. I knew I couldn't make a first class and I already settled for at least a 4point. if I didn't listen... hehe... i probably wouldn't have achieved that too.
    My point is.... you have too much on your plate right now to be bothered about men.(I don't know how hectic or flexible your school work is) finish first... the men would come. Don't work yourself up unnecessarily. Get involved in (good) activities.... study hard... like Chris said... "there's something attractive in a lady who isn't looking for a man"... so babe! have fun jare! Focus on you books, enjoy final year tinz, savor the moments and don't ruin it with thoughts of things that'll still fall into place. :) all the best! **hugs**


  7. Calm down jo! Things seem.not to be working for you just because you're not dating? That's not true; Things if you make them work. It's not a man who should solely be your source of joy / success etc.
    You're bored and lonely? What happened to seeing movies with friends, gisting and going to parks, karaoke and all? You don't need much money for these o. You only.need the will and planning.
    When you're bored, pick a pen and write things you'd like to achieve and how to go about them. Dream! Pray. Be nice, look clean. Go out. If you're still bored, eat fruits and drink water- it'll keep you engaged and there's nothing to lose.
    Don't disturb your head about finding a man because the day you'd meet him is coming. Smile girl!
    About being hairy, there's no particular way to be to get a man. If you aren't comfy with it, then take it off na. That's not difficult.


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