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Dear TTB Readers which is worse; A Stingy Man OR An Unfaithful Man?

"An unfaithful man is better than a stingy man".

I keep hearing that and I'm not quite sure I agree but this morning a friend of my mum's whom I'm quite close to repeated this to me after I expressed some concerns to her over someone in my life. "Nwando, it is better to marry a man that cheats than to marry a stingy man". I was running out of airtime so I decided not to ask her why, couldn't afford another 10 or 15 minutes. 

My friend's mum once told her there are 3 types of men a woman must never marry, the third was a stingy man (an unfaithful man wasn't on the list...). 

Still I wonder why... 

So ladies, if you had to choose between an unfaithful spouse and a stingy one which would you choose, and why?

Do tell!


  1. I wudnt choose any biko, but a stingy man by mere reasoning and common sense appears worse.

  2. An unfaithful man!

    1. Anonymous rider I'm glad to see you're bubbly and lively. You're one strong woman. *kisses*

    2. Lol. Trying to dear, Thanks!

  3. None but I dislike stingy people sha. J

  4. I don't like any,but I would choose an unfaithful man,I would make sure he uses a CD before touching me, but a stingy man I can't deal with,marry a stingy man n it feels like one is in hell.

  5. I won't chose any but a stingy man is worse,a lot of pple have told me a stingy man is a no no

  6. Both not a good choice but will choose a stingy man over an unfaithful he-goat

    1. Asin an unfaithful man is worse!

    2. Ha! Thnk God, I thot I was alone, I hate unfaithful bastards feeling smart, if I hve sm csh, I won't send the stingy partner, I dnt even mind asking 4too long!

    3. As in first thing dah came to my mind was "God forbid" none biko"! But if I must choose, I'd go for d stingy! Evn though I smell stingyness frm miles away, I loathe it but I can't deal with unfaithfulness! Hian!

  7. *side eyes* to those choosing an unfaithful man to a stingy man. Hmmm...Na una know o. Compare the weeping women married to these kinds of men. And @Mabel, CD? Really? So what happens when you decide to make babies? Hia!

    1. No babies between us @memphis,if he wants babies he would not cheat,when he stops cheating then we mk babies or go for a test to b sure he is clean.

    2. So @mabel, you are okay so far he's sending you money. Is dat it? Money?
      What has the world turn into? If a man is stingy, Dash him money and make hin understand you really don't need his money.

      Women and their dependence on Men! I get turned on by Ladies who don't ask before they get. #MissIndependent all the way

    3. @Uyi,are u a guy or a girl???

    4. Bros Uyi thank you. If I talk na finger nails for my face. What happened to making your own money and to hell with his? Because of money you're ready to spend your life with a he-goat. Issorai...

    5. @sasha! Shuo! This your queshion, I go wait till New year before I go fir ansa ram oh! Lolz.

      Oga Memphis, na so we see am oh! And they would still preach Women Empowerment ontop.(@mabel,don't be offended. I'm really not directing dis specifically to u. U knw I love u)

    6. @memphis n Uyi,no one is depending on him but no matter how rich I am does DAT mean I should carry d burden of the home all alone?answer me plss I want to know because I for one would not care abt a mans money so long as I have a career n a good job.

    7. Mabel dear, you make it sound like a hegoat is the lesser evil...still, because of Money. Which is better? Carry the burden of a home almost entirely alone, or share the burden and share your man? Which of these two is honestly more emotionally draining? And mind you, not all he goats have THAT kind of money. There's also a high probability of a hegoat giving you inadequate help because he has to settle Nkechi and Prisca. This is 2015, choose wisely. Hehe.

      Happy New year dear.

    8. Rightly pointed out Memphis, I really hope @Sasha understands too!
      Is it truly a lesser evil just cos u're not in His money?

  8. None abeg. What kind of punishment life would it be picking either of the two?

  9. I will choose A Stingy man a million times over!!! Why?
    It's easier to stop being stingy than to stop cheating.
    No Diseases associated with being stingy. plus I go thief him money last last! LOL

    1. "I go thief him money last last!" Take 5ive jare!

    2. LOL, I can't deal with infidelity abeg, it's like the bubonic plague

  10. I think it's easier to stop been unfaithful than been stingy. That stingy thn is in the blood. My cousin is stingy and married a stingy woman, they both work but in the morning they use chewing stick instead of toothbrush cos none of them will agree to buy toothpaste. To cook with meat wahala, then when they do to take the meat another wahala. been stingy is a disease on it's own. I dare say it's hereditary somehow cos their popsy is stingy koko and two of his siblings are. I can't risk having stingy children that will not take care of me when i'm old. J

    1. Yep,drinking,smoking and womanizing all fall under the same category. They are habits which were picked and can be dropped. But Stinginess? That's a whole different kettle of fish...

    2. Chineke m,this couple deserve each other

  11. Once Momsi s friend introduced me to a stingy guy,his calls na midnight free calls,then during the day na office phone,if he sends me 200 naira recharge card he will call to tell me to be careful oh,he wanted me to visit oh,said I should take bus gave me 10k while bus na 4k then,said I should spend 500 on the road,wanted me to cook,buy fruits make my hair upon the 10k oh,didn't go. The guy kept calling me to return the money

    1. Return the money? Hahahahahaha
      Uyi wld prolly expect u to use ur money to make ur hair and cook the soup while flying okada to the market cos ur #MissIndependent

    2. Lol,sasha the money was for return ticket oh,the guy dey ginger forming taking stout and milk in preparation for my arrival

    3. @sasha, I'm not an advocate for Stinginess, but should our relationship be built on how much I can spend on you. It means I can literally BUY and put in my house. Afterall, I'm not selfish and likewise you are my property and I can easily get more 'properties' like you. Don't you just love an unselfish me?

    4. Lemme correct something. Not all unfaithful men have families outside,not all unfaithful men marry the women they are cheating with,not all unfaithful men bring home STD's but there's no angle to look at a stingy man. A stingy man is a stingy man. The headache of knowing/not knowing ur man is cheating on u is better than the headache of plotting on how to steal ur husbands money all because he doesn't knw selfless giving. Love is giving and if ur man can't give,im sorry honey but he don't love u...

      FYI: Money is always gonna be uber important. To run a good govt/country,u need money. To preach the gospel u need money. So I donno why women who need this same money to run their home (which u both share) are crucified.

    5. @sasha, this is not abt Married couples alone. We are talking generally. Marriage is a Responsibilty so I can totally understand from that point of view. But wat if you both are not married?

      Like the one whom they gave 10k. There's everything just wrong with that. Why should he give you money in the first place, did you ask for it? If u did, why? And then you took the money and den refuse to go? Who is the smart one now? You? Think well...if u don't like someone... Leave him

    6. "A stingy man is a stingy man".

      Sasha, you categorized unfaithful men and didn't do the same to stingy men? Ah ah naa.. There are stingy men who pay rent, pay school fees, pay for medicals, buy their kids and wives clothes, and so on. In these cases he is termed stingy because, obviously, some cases or most cases he doesn't give adequate amount of money, especially for miscellaneous (and I should assume his spouse should have something doing to help herself and not rely on him).

    7. Ok,lemme ask u as a man,wld u rather be stingy to ur woman or be unfaithful to her?
      As for the 10k dude,he shld cut his coat according to his cloth. There are women who wld see that 10k as a million bucks. There are women who can cook soup with N500. Look for such women and don't force everyone to be like her...

    8. Ok, lemme answer real quick: I'll rather be stingy biko. Unfaithful? Hmmm...I'm not sure I can cope with that temptation.

    9. As a Man, I know for sure that if I'm unfaithful I'll definitely be unstoppable and you can't handle it emotionally. And any relationship without Emotional attachment is Doomed for destruction. But Stingyness? As a lady, just show it to his Face dat u don't care and see how he'll react.

    10. Yh,a stingy man is one who can afford better but insists on less or nothing. It's one thing to not have but it's another thing to deny urself/family what u can afford due to ur stinginess.
      An unfaithful man is one who does his shit outside but a stingy man is one who does his shit in ur face...

    11. You know wat? Let's agree to disagree. Cos when you choose to be with an unfaithful man cos he treats you with your 'Fantasy' money can buy. I guess there's nothing that need be said no more. #GoodluckSasha

    12. A stingy man isn't a broke man. Find out the lifestyle of a stingy man. A stingy man dont believe in quality or luxury or comfort and this wld reflect on his r/ship and family.
      The same women who advice fellow women to run from stingy men wld also say all men Cheat. So clearly,we know which of the two is a lesser evil...

    13. I guess since 'all men cheat', you're prepared to date/marry a Cheat. Just dat u don't want that same Man to be Stingy as well. Now I understand you, its cool. Lolz

    14. This post is bout the devil and the blue sea and picking a lesser evil.
      If a man is unfaithful,it means he has the money to maintain a double lifestyle but if he's stingy,both him and his woman can't even enjoy the only lifestyle sef...
      One wld need an overdose of valium to handle a stingy man. (which of course she wld hv to buy with her own

    15. So your 'lifestyle' should be determined by another man's weaith whether he's free with the money or not?

    16. My dear,YES!!

  12. I would rather be with a stingy guy than an unfaithful man I can't bear to share my man with other women as for the stinginess I would find a way to deal with it.

  13. Stingy over unfaithful.

  14. Wouldn't choose any bt if I must, then I will go for a stingy man. Can't deal wit unfaithfulness at aLl.

  15. Like Sasha said, its the devil or the deep blue sea. I know a woman who's married to a faithful but stingy husband. It was good for a while cos she could fend for herself. All the man does with his money is pay school fees and buy stuff he doesn't need.

    At first it was ok cos he wasn't earning much, after a long time, he started earning more but he still stuck with just school fees and that one wasn't always complete sef. So the woman is stuck with paying for everything and compensating for his stinginess.

    Everytime money is mentioned, there's always a huge fight. Something always comes up when he gets paid.. the car needs a part, he spent 10k yesterday alone and can't afford to spend anymore today, blah blah blah.

    This attitude has started to take its toll on their marriage. Thing is, whichever one you choose, in the long run, it will adversely affect the marrige. As a woman, if you choose the stingy man, you'll have to train yourself to not let it bother you cos no matter how much money you earn, it will bother you that he's ok with not lifting his own weight. You have to be able to turn a blind eye to it all.


    Y'all have a splendid 2015


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