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Did He Sleep Last Night?

Yesterday along Lekki Expressway there was a hit and run incident. My friend who was on a date at the time was on the rooftop of a restaurant along that road when this happened. She and her date looked down on the road and in a moment that was meant to be romantic they witnessed this ghastly accident. She said she heard the deafening screech of the car, heard the loud thunk as the car hit the body of a pedestrian crossing the road, watched the body dramatically fly up in the air and then drop to the ground, lifeless, then she watched the murderous car immediately speed away. 

For years I've wondered about hit and run drivers. Some years ago my friend lost her baby sister that way. She was still in primary school, somehow she got out of the school compound and was about to cross the road when someone hit her with his/her car and immediately ran away. She died on the spot. 

When you see or hear someone do this you immediately wonder how terribly evil they must be, how cold and wicked. You wonder if God created those ones too. Yet I sometimes don't see it that way, they didn't set out of their homes in the morning to kill someone along the way, they didn't spot them and intentionally ram their car into them in a vicious attempt to kill, they most likely were careless and they hit someone, who was probably also careless, and in shock they panicked and fled the scene immediately. 

I'm not justifying this. Not at all. In fact I hate them so much but even more than that I feel sorry for them. For someone who left home in the morning on their merry way, setting off to work or to see a lover, and then in a split second their vehicle rams into someone and BAM! there's a body hovering above their head which would be lifeless by the time it hits the ground, thanks to you... 
     I wonder about yesterday's driver. When he kept driving what was he thinking? Where did he go? Did he still get to his destination or just run till he found somewhere safe where he crawled into a tiny space, curled into a fetal position and cried? Did he tell anyone about it, has he told anyone about it? Did he sleep last night?

Did he sleep last night?

And this is why I feel so sorry for them. If only in the millisecond that panic caused them to make that quick decision to step hard on the throttle and flee, if only they had known it would be better to step down from the car instead and face the consequences, even if it meant being mauled to death by blood-thirsty agberos, if only they'd known that this would be easier than carrying the secret, the guilt and weight of innocent blood on their hands...

Do they sleep at night?

I sympathize with the family who lost a loved one to a reckless hit and run driver yesterday, I pray that the soul of the victim finds peace. 

And I know Christmas isn't a time for gloomy reflections but this also makes me thank God... It could have been anyone crossing that road, I'm no better than anyone who lost their life or the lives of loved ones this year, yet me and mine have been safe all year. 

For this I'm thankful. 


  1. How awful. Most times we only think of the victims and never about the drivers. I'm now wondering how they cope.

  2. "even if it meant being mauled to death by blood-thirsty agberos".

    This line is why most of these pple flee d scene, the fear of wht might happen 2 them.. These blood thirsty agberos can butcher some1 in a flip second even if u are not @ fault. I've seen and witnessed that many times. If d accident didn't happen in civilivised climes ehn..u never can tell wht d pple of dt area can be up 2. But it's always better 2 stop by and face d consequences head on, instead of running and carrying d guilt and weight of innocent blood on ur head.

    1. Just thought to let you know that our first natural reaction is "flight" or how to escape from sticky situations. It is the reason behind lying and many other unwanted experiences.
      A vehicle that I once hired was involved in such accident, hitting a mentally challenged individual. There was no agbero on the highway but running away from the scene was his first reaction.

    2. Very few of the drivers feel any guilt, people are generally wicked.

      I don't feel for the drivers involved in such accidents because of my belief in the creed that says all accidents are preventable. Many people are drunk while driving, especially at this time of the year and we must all be careful as we move about.

    3. I understand but the person can drive straight to a police station and turn himself in.

      A close family friend hit someone at ogudu. The person died. It was a mistake and it was early in the morning. He drove straight to estate police station and turned himself in. He was arrested, detained for 3 days cuz twas a friday, and then charged to court for man slaughter. Eventually, he was released. At least, he has a clear conscience and he can sleep better at night.

      Meanwhile! Scr*w diet jor! Christmas is here!!!! *shoki*

  3. I honestly have never thought about it from the driver's perspective.
    Living with the guilt can't be easy and the fear of jungle justice is probably the beginning of their panic.

    May God grant the families who have lost people to these incidents peace.

    I am grateful for the gift of live He has given me and every member of my family. God knows I don't deserve the love He has for me yet he loves me still.

    PS: Where are FNLP and Claire? Been a while

  4. How is well!!

  5. Exactly the way Eesah puts it: the fear of what might happen to them make a lot of these drivers flee.

    I had an accident when I was 13; an accident so bad the doctors and nurses were surprised I could survive it with only a scar which I still carry till date. The driver that hit me could have run but he stayed, paid the medical bills and never came back afterwards.

    Talking about this, do we know that our third party motor insurance policy has a provision for compensation to the family of the victims of such accidents - either deceased or not? This compensation is unlimited but in accordance to negotiations between the parties involved.


  6. Merry Christmas everyone! and pls come tell us how it went!...the Christmas i in everyone should come tell us how theirs went...#JoyDaNuGirl

  7. Me too, I have never thought about it this way but the guilt though, it can change someone for ever.

  8. Wow,reading this just sent shivers down my spine,i hate it when such things happen, especially during festive periods,that person must have had plans, hopes,dreams and aspirations, then it all goes like that just two days to Xmas. Eesah said it all,I never looked at it in this dimension T,fear of d unknown must have made him fled. Am thankful i and my family members are alive,we aren't better than those who have lost deir lives this year,but thank God for his grace.Am also thankful for the life of Thelma,her family members and all BVS on Thelma thinks and their family members too. May we all witness this coming new year. Amen

  9. This has happened to me "hit and *run* " only I didn't die. Head on collussion with a car that only had one head lamp on so we didn't see it coming, I was on a bike... Sometimes I still wonder how that person sleeps at night not knowing if I survived or not

  10. Some feel guilty afterwards but the heartless ones dnt feel a thing,with the mob action pple take this days the 1st thing that comes to mind when. something like that happens is to run
    Thank God for the gift of life

  11. What a pretty night turned sour for your friend& date! My heart goes out to the family of such victims. Sudden death is too painful.
    Yes, sometimes 'he' sleeps at night. People are becoming less sensitive and care little about others.
    I also think about these just as you wrote, I think about the fear and flight (possible nonchalance too), I still think it's wicked.


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