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Gifts-Giving For Those Who Already Have It All...

This question has hounded me for longer than I can remember and I've never quite been able to answer it. Thankfully a blog reader asked me this yesterday and I'm like "Yes, we'll ask on the blog!", even I need answers to this very simple yet difficult question; what do you give to someone who already has everything?

The blog reader who asked is a guy, his girlfriend is from a well to do home and also receives a sizable salary, basically she has it all, at least everything she wants. He therefore reached out to me to ask what I think is a good idea to get her seeing as she has everything she wants&needs&likes in abundance. I couldn't give an answer.  

I'd also like to know as I might do some gifts-giving myself this Christmas to someone who's almost similar to this blog reader's bae; already has it all. What's a good idea for a gift, something that they'll treasure and appreciate?

Some years ago I heard the story of a very wealthy man who never got any gifts because every one thought he had everything he wanted, therefore no one bothered to get him anything or knew what to get him. Then on his birthday one year this lady who knew he liked a particular kind of bread went and baked it for him herself, wrapped it beautifully gave it to him. He receiving the bread he was soooo happy that he declared that that was the best gift he had ever had.
     I guess the moral behind this story is Simplicity, ie people who already have it all will appreciate the simple things... I'm not sure that applies to all of them sha. LOL. 

So we're asking this morning, what gift would you give to someone who already has it all? --Have you ever had a significant other whom you knew wanted for nothing because they already had it, what kind of gifts did you give to them that they appreciated? 
-AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I need to hear from this last category; do you have it all? If yes, what valuable gift could someone give to you?


  1. Give her a ring!
    And Thelma,why wld u wanna give someone who has it all something for Xmas? And what happens to those who don't hv at all? No wonder the Niger Delta has crisis over resource control. If u were a tax administrator,wld u tax the rich less and tax the poor more? Hmm...(I guess this escalated very

    1. So, for the sake of this comment I'll refer to the subject matter(s) as "they".
      1. Because they are an important, significant, special part of my life.
      2. Because they have given me several gifts over time and will most likely do so this Christmas.
      3. Because it's about time I reciprocate.
      4. Because they actually give me a lot emotionally, physically (read 'physically' not 'materially'), intellectually and they (work hard to) make me happy.
      5. How on earth do you know I'm not giving gifts to those who need them? I always have and I still intend to do so. The difference is that I know what they need/want/like and therefore the only reason I would mention that on the blog is to advertise myself as a cheerful giver.

      So madam Sasha Bone, there you have it.

    2. And oh, why do you just presume that just because she's single she will value a ring? #typicalnigerian.

      Lol. No vex, I just had to do that.

    3. A vacation might do, just saying.

    4. A ring coming from her man,she berra... or isn't that why they are dating? *side eye*

    5. Well some women just want companionship, loyalty and great sex on the regular...

    6. @Thelma, OMG to sex on the regular.... I hope that was a joke sha! I'm sure pun was intended.
      She's single, well to do. She's got a BF, I think sasha bone's option is the best in dis situation except their relationship is On a wrong foundation.

    7. No pun intended Uyi. Not every woman wants a ring. Let me tell you something that happened at a wedding I recently attended; when the photographers were interviewing the bride they asked her how her groom proposed and how it made her feel. The bride was speechless, you know why? Because the groom proposed six times, over the span of 4 years, before she finally agreed. She just wanted other things. So that thinking that every Nigerian lady needs a ring on her finger when she gets to a certain age is wrong. Mind you, my friend was 30 when he made the fourth proposal and she still said No.

    8. Then I guess, she's Sure "worth the wait"...

  2. I don't have it all, & even if I did, I know i'll value the person's thought behind the gift & not the gift itself...

    I'm also giving a gift to someone who has it all, literally. He's coming from the UK this weekend & I know he's obsessed with snacks & his favourite fruit is pineapple. I immediately remembered there's a pineapple snack called "Reel Fruits", so I'm buying 15 packs for him to travel back to work with! Just 3k oh... but I know he's appreciate it mega!

    Just find out the little things these "have it alls" love but won't have the time to go get themselves!
    Cheers to the holz!!!!

  3. I don't have it all, so.....

    Everybody has something they really love and can't get tired of, discover it from them or people close to them. No how little it is, it will mean a lot to them.

    Portraits, cakes, house decor items eg. vases, paintings, a CD from their favourite could be anything... just make it valuable.

  4. Steal something that they own that they really treasure, then buy them the same thing as a gift. They'll appreciate it, I think.

    1. Lol. What an idea! I had to read this twice. Haba!

  5. You know Thelma i had an ex who refused to buy me gifts for this same silly excuse. I broke up with him. I love ankara all he had to do was go an buy 2 pieces and i would have been happy. My husband i feel has everything so i buy him quirky gifts - monogramed cufflinks, custom shot glasses etc - they are often under $50.
    For the person who you want to give a gift, cook a 5 course meal and serve the person. If the person is matried, call the other partner and arrange the meal with them. There is no such thing as a needless person. Go and make a card, write out how you feel the person has contributed to your life. If you have pictures with the person make them the cover of the card.
    The guy that wants to gift the lady, he can give her a spa day. If they are dating he can have a masseuse come to the house and then also make her a home cooked meal. He can give her a certificate to relax and plan the day out as a suprise.
    There is no such thing as having everything.

  6. Well I don't think anybody has it all in this life. No matter how wealthy u are, u'd still need somethg 4rm d next man. Either physically, emotionally, spiritually, monetary and so on. I think I'd prefer seeking 2 gv them those things dt they don't hv (if it's within my reach) and maybe gv d kinda gifts they'd appreciate once in a whille.

  7. There no such thing as someone has it all, no one is as perfect as Christ. There's always something to give, it doesn't matter how small it is as long as you know what that person likes, you can always give them even if they have billions of it, giving is an emotion so obviously that person will feel that you love them enough to give them.

  8. I do not have it all and can't afford to give anyone a gift this Xmas and am sure they perfectly understand.

  9. Wait oh! Isn't today Sunshine's Birthday? Or....? If it is, Happy Birthday Sunshine and wishing you all the best that you wish for in life dear!

  10. Even if one can afford it all, won't they be glad to save their money? You know we don't always give gifts because the recipient doesn't have it. Just the fact that you thought it and bought them gifts could be pleasant enough. Also the knowledge that you care for and like them makes the gift more splendid.
    A clue to get a close person gifts is trying to find out what things they really like/ can't get enough of, a mix of different items and deliver the gifts yourself!

  11. Simplicity is the best thing especially for people that we think have it all,he should listen to all her small talk he might pick something from what she says

  12. Yeah, no matter how rich, no one has it all. Remember the saying "You're not rich until you have something money can't buy"
    From research, People who seem rich appreciate the most unimportant gifts..From their relationship so far, there may be stuffs the babe may have admired, no matter how silly, maybe at random outings or during random gists. The guy should have a good thought n go down memory lane.
    Better still, he could do an Art work/Painting of her from an expert. I hv a similar friend(girl), who d bf presumed she "had it all"..and she was blown away by the work of art he gave her. (It might not work in ds case..just a suggestion)
    So Dear bro..little gifts go a very loong way . The heart of the giver is what matters.


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