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He Says He Loves You "Just The Way You Are". BIG LIE!!!


So you've seen me, right? Maybe you haven't so I'll describe myself to you. I'm hella SEXY (yes ke!) and I'm also BIG. Azzzzzzin, and then this Christmas season isn't even helping matters at all. Yeah I know all the right things to do, I even joined this gym that's practically on my street about a month ago. On the day I registered I paid in full, but I never went back after that. It's been a month and I never went back! My bestie is a caterer and a baker and in PH she experimented on me, she baked this mad ass hybrid extrachocolatey red velvet cake and another one with almonds and pecans, my favourite! And then she wrapped up both cakes and sent me on my merry way to Lagos. I really should stop, I know. Yet he keeps saying you're such a sexy woman, I just love your body, I love you just the way you are. 


Mind you he's a very vain person (I use vain deliberately because there's 'health-conscious', and then there's 'vain', he is both); gym every morning; seven days a week! Protein shakes, fresh vegetables, juice fasts and all... Yet he holds my love-handles and says "You're a very sexy woman, I love you just the way you are" Roighhhht

And I believed him, silly, gullible, gluttonous me, I actually believed him. Until I realized that on a few occasions I've caught him get lost staring at not so big women, staring in admiration and approval... I decided to give myself brain o!!!

I need to look for that gym receipt, thankfully I told them that my time wouldn't start running till the day I start my work out. And then I'll hit the vege-market, do a detox and lose this friggin flabby fat! 

And while we're on the topic of men saying one thing and wanting another, check out this comment I saw on Bella Naija one day. 

LOL. Men why do y'all do this?

Has your boo ever told you (he'll like you) to do/act/dress one way and you later found out that he likes the exact opposite?


  1. Loool...thank God the lady bought brain, Men will always be men....thankfully no boyfriend has ever told me what to wear n what not to

  2. "And I believed him, silly, gullible, gluttonous me, I actually believed him". Lol. Thelma ur not serious.

  3. Men! I fear them.they want it all,they will say this and want another...
    In other news,abeg,shey na only me waka like flavour's golibee video ?
    Dear flavour,u 'kelt' that video.

    1. I looooove it too, infact its on continuous play when am going to work (d audio). He killeth the video

  4. Iv neva had a guy i was seriously dating make such a remark, mayb dey wr scared i'll beat dem up lol. * dont know smiley*

  5. Men do it because it is what women want. You will catch a monkey faster with banana rather than with pizza.

  6. Trust me when I say most men do not know what they want. My ex never liked me making up, fixing my nails,wearing figure hugging clothes and all but you should see him staring lustfully at them girls when we "went" out. Do not be deceived. In the end, JUST DO YOU.

    1. same ooo. SO will tell me not to wear skimpy things or flash my little cleavage whenever we hangout at night but you all need see the way he stares at em' sisters with skimpy wears and massive cleavages. Menh, wasn't told to wise up before I continued mine ooo. Mbok cant shout, better he looks at ME with his 3D specs than goggle out there.

  7. kai! the long epistle i wrote just vanished, n my spirit said save 1st but i dint listen. am vexed! *sad face*

  8. Most men will not want you to dress in a certain way cos they don't want another man staring at you. That's how jealous they are.
    Personally, I dress for me, not for any man. I exercise everyday, eat healthy, sleep and dress well for me - to be healthy and to look good.
    I generally dress conservatively but the few times I tried to be daring, I heard complaints which I simply pretended to not have noticed.

  9. Men say these things sometimes to boost our self esteem, Thelma, trust me if this guy comments on your weight all d time you would say he doesnt love you n probably end it, kill urself in d gym, stop eating or become uncomfortable around him. whether you are a size 8 with big boobs n bum men would still stray with their eyes. my SO loves big bum bt unfortunately am not endowed on the buttocks. he sometimes looks at butts even while driving. i started to feel inferior whenever a lady with big butt says hi to him or passes by(even total stranger oo), gradually wasn't comfortable around him, wore longer top to cover my flat a55 and finally subjected myself to wearing body magic "yodi" i lied to him that i was doing squats thus d enlargement in d buttocks, bobo got curious n one day i went to his flat n he playfully hit my butt, said nothing bt caught me one day sha...... he sat me down and gave me a full lecture on self esteem n asked that i never wore it again, said hes in love with me, my personality... not my bum bum. i threw "yodi" away o.
    Afterwards, all i see is a BIG butt in d mirrow even when pple tease me saying chinese butt, c ur flat a55 etc. i shake it d more after-all i gat hips. now we look at the butt together, even draw his attention to any nice looking big butt n dts all.
    Sometimes i even call him on the phone saying stuff like "bae u shld see d bum bum in front of me or you wont bliv the bum bum i saw last night, wowzer, blah bl;ah blah... lolz bottom line, T bliv him when he says he loves you just the way you are n dont be too hard on urself just b you n do you.
    Its good to hit d gym but his eyes wld still stray. finito!

  10. And Thelma, the title of this post reminds me of the song by Bruno Mars titled 'Just the way you are'. I love that song

  11. Do people say things we wanna hear or they say things cos they are being sincere?
    The bottomline is how u feel bout urself. If u love ur weight,bask in it. If u dont,do something bout it. No one shld decide for u if u shld be fat/slim,go natural or not,be lupita or bleach. Etc. What u do shld be for u,ur health and general well being.
    (NB:if pleasing ur partner makes u happy,pls ride on..)

  12. Men! You can never please them,just do what will make you happy because at the end of the day its going to be about you and you alone. Kiki

  13. the pun @title...or was it unintended..wareva. I'm too distracted right now to type a reasonable sontin..

  14. Hubby of 15yrs always told me he didn't like weaves etc. Likes to run his fingers through my hair and feel my scalp. It helped that I don't like them much myself anyway so I always went with dreadlocks or shaved my head completely. I'm one of the few that can pull off that bald head look. Or braids. The lay he had an affair with is all up in her Brazilian and Peruvian hair. I was shattered. But wil I change who I am because of that? No, I won't. I will make an effort to change things up every now and again but he still insists he doesn't like it. The moral of the story: just do you! Look good for you boy because anyone else tells you to. Right now I am on operation forty and not frumpy. Bring it on. OJ

  15. Men say what is convenient. Even women. Its called washing, but its done with the best of intentions. You want you partner to be happy at all times. However as a person you must stay true to yourself, so do what makes you happy and secure.

  16. Thelma said "Roighhhhhhht!" Lmao.dtz so funny.
    P.S since u chngd d blog look,my fone hangs wn I open d blog page:( *tear*

  17. Biko Ladies should learn to dress to make themselves happy. Self-love is very important because not everyone you love will love you back.
    How others see you isn't important; But How you see yourself means everything.


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