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I Was Fine Before You Came Along.

I was fine before you came along. 

It's one of the cruelest things for you to know this, to know that I've been by myself all these years, and know that I've been fine all by myself all these years, then walk in and interrupt my peace and happiness, with your talk of love and commitment. 

I was fine before you came along. My heart was just fine being sealed off. I didn't need this, but you came and then you woke something inside of me. You called out and something from deep within my heart heard your call and responded. You woke love, you asked her to come out and play, only to take to your heels and run away. 

I was fine before you came along. 

Now love is running here, there and everywhere, looking for the one who was brave enough to wake her up. While asleep love was asleep, love was at peace, love was pacified. Now love has been woken, love's eyes are open, love has arisen, love is standing on her feet, love is hungry. Where are you?

Love shakes like a leaf in the wind, love is being starved, love's starvation causes my heart to shrivel up and wilt like a rose given to one from unrequited love's victim; left untended, unwatered, unloved. My heart wilts like an unwanted flower given to an indifferent lover, and I realize I'm no longer fine. 

I hate this because by myself I was fine, so I'd thought that if alone I was fine, then with you and your fancy talk and promises of love, I would become better than just fine, I would become "happy" in one word, precisely. Yet you walked into my life and my happy walked out the door. 

I'd rather be alone and happy, than be with someone who shoos away my happy. 

BUT why did you awaken my love when all you wanted was a minor distraction, never an intention to feed my love, to eat of my love, to love me, to love in return. 

Silly coward. 

Men, what makes you to relentlessly woo, toast, persuade and pursue a woman you do not intend to love?


  1. Please I am waiting for the replies of the men in the house :Favourite

  2. While the men are thinking of their replies, I have a question for Thelma

    why are there 2 different fonts though?

  3. Lust. But then, to an extent, women share considerable amount of blame.

    A man looks at you and tells you things he knows would arouse every butterfly in your belly, particularly the ones that migrate to your brain. He buys you gifts and takes you to places that fascinate you more than it does him. He goes out of his way to see that every cross you carry daily is less of a burden. He calls you and his voice immediately has that velvet feel that literarily makes the butterflies form contours around your belly. When in a logically solvable danger, you call unto him before you even think of calling JESUS, and guess what? Voila! He comes to your rescue. Tsk Tsk Tsk Tsk.

    When he speaks to you, have you looked at his eyes, or looked INTO his eyes? When he buys you gifts, is your appreciation the same as when/if a regular friend or family member does the same? When he takes you out and your excitement hits the fan, have you paused at intervals to study him and know if he feels EXACTLY the same way, or you're satisfied with "I'm happy if you're happy" syndrome? When you call him, does he readily accept your calls almost all the time, and hardly complains of restraints, even when you sometimes do when he calls, like..well...that's normal? And have you ever wondered why? And now the ultimate: have you had this nagging feeling to show appreciation? I show THAT appreciation you know or feel will awaken his own butterflies? Has he subtly or directly asked for THAT appreciation? If he has, he doesn't love you, and if you feel you need to show appreciation...well...don't blame the gods when Stephen transforms into Emeka.

    1. In 300 Leonidis' voice- "None that need be said."

      Perfect expression of A Real Man to all the women out there looking for love.

  4. What do you do when, for whatever reasons, you woke up the wrong kind of love? Stay or fly? Better to leave than hang around.

    Not every relationship should proceed to that next level and the lifespan of every love woken up is dependent on several factors.

  5. How do u hold onto someone who don't wanna stay and how to u get rid of someone who don't wanna go?

    Some men are brave while some are just bloody cowards when it comes to love matters. Like Wale said,not every r/ship shld proceed to the next level. But then again,why awaken the love of someone u don't plan on taking to the next level esp when where has been years and years of endless wooing????

  6. Sasha and wale, hmmmmmm u both hit two different nails on the head.@thelma NNE, no more blog party nii? I noticed u didn't say anything about it.

  7. Wale and Menphis you two should just accept it that men are just SELF CENTRED.From wat I av seen n heard, once a man is involved with a lady, it takes him a maximum of 3 mnths to know wat he reli wants from that lady.B ut most times, cos of either a man's indecisiveness n greed (i.e. eat his cake n still av his cake syndrome
    ), he keeps the lady, knowing full well that the lady is daily fallen deeper in luv wif him. One tin me I sha know is dat what so ever any1 sows hw will reap, n whoever ( whether male or female ) knowingly plays wif anoda's emotions ur reward is waiting 4 u in front.

    1. Abeg, which 'Cake' are you talking about. Sex? Is dat it?

      Please read Memphis' Comment again.

      That's why I loved that Post abt being 'Worth the wait'.

  8. For starter, reading that post felt lyk I was reading a poem *beautiful*. And to the issue at hand......... Sometimes I think the guys just do it for fun and it already a part of most men.

  9. i guess they like the adrenaline rush of the chase? maybe they feel more masculine? gives them some kind of validation? their idea of evidence of their passport into manhood? who knows?
    whatever the reason is, it's extremely cruel to toy with a woman's emotions
    but to my fellow ladies, you know what they say... Love like you've never been hurt before. don't let any man take that away from you

  10. This is how i feel right now.


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