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Leaving It All Behind.

Weeks ago a 19yr old lady called Aunt Landa and in tears she told her that although she was only 19 she had had eleven abortions. She was broken and that was baggage she wouldn't want to carry along with her into 2015. 
Hearing this made me wonder if there are things I would like to leave behind in 2014. Naturally there are emotions, attitudes, habits, baggages, characters, "friends", relationships, patterns, incidents you'll like to leave behind in the past.

Since I'm always open with you guys, I'll share the things I want to leave behind in 2014. Thankfully I've dealt with the emotions, character, and attitudes I won't like to take into the new year. These are the ones I'd really like to leave behind. 

Habits; (a) procrastination. I really must stop procrastinating. I sometimes do this and end up not doing things I need to do or I wait till the very last minute. 
(b) laziness; or should I just say prayerlessness? I dunno why but sometimes prayer feels like a chore to me and I really need this to change. I just must make it a habit to get on my knees first thing in the morning and actually pray. Instead of (hmmm, what did I eat yesterday? Damn! I need to put my eating in check... Do I have anything to post today? I don't think so o! Oya where's that ipad let's look for what to post today...)

PatternsDisappointments: So, this is very very very personal but me thinks I've shared more personal things on here, so... Besides I really want to say this very publicly, make a public declaration of this, because it's not happened in a while and I believe that I am COMPLETELY leaving it behind in 2014. By disappointments I'm referring to the one in relationships, the one where he loves me today and stops loving me tomorrow and has no explanation whatsoever. Good bye to that yo!

Toxic Friends; some people come in the guise of friends but these people just fill your life and the air around them with toxins and so much negative energy. These people are not good for me and I'll do all I can to ensure they're not features in my life in 2015. 

Incidents; 2014 was pretty uneventful for me but one incident happened that pushed me down to my knees and caused me to burst into tears at the worst times; in traffic, during meetings, while having a quiet evening with the boo, in church... This is one incident I would love to leave behind in 2014. 

What experiences/baggage/relationships/habits/memories/patterns/personality traits would you like to leave behind in 2014?



  1. Hey Thelma,
    I have trouble with prayer procrastination as well. There's a study I recently completed that made a huge impact on my prayer life. It's based on one of Max Lucado's books "Before Amen". I'll include the link to the study below. It really helped me. It's a 4 week study but you can also do the book on your own.

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  3. I can't think of anything I'd like to drop in 2014 but things I'd like to continue in 2015.
    As for being prayerless. Pls thelma make it a habbit. Prayer changes alot of things. Early dis month I had a terrifying experience. I had an attack of diziness, weakness and heart palpitations sleeplessness.and heaviness in d head. Within 2 weeks we had been to 5 diffrent hospitals. Each doctor with their own test. They said I was hypertensive, anoda one said I was exhibiting signs of stroke, anoda said my heart wasn't pumping blood well anoda said pregnancy typhoid or malaria anoda one said it was from my brain. Alllll the test we did showed nothing was wrong with me. Na it we begin battle am with prayers Oo°˚˚˚°! Today to the glory of God I am hale and hearty. There is power in prayers my dear.

  4. Doing away with Toxic friends is quite easy. Easier than the rest. As for bad habits, hmmm... Let's just hope, be focused, and watch.

  5. I don't wanna say it, I'll just work towards it and make sure it happens...
    I hate it when I list out things I should do away with and end up not doing anything!

  6. I just decided to forgive someone, a lowlife that attacked my father along my street. I promised to get back at him whenever in life but I'm taking it back. I promise to greet him first when next we meet, the hate ends in 2014.

    1. Nice one bro. Forgiveness isn't solely for the benefit of the offender but also the offended. I pray 2015 will work out fulfillment, love and better results than you have anticipated with your divine decisions.
      'To err is human, to forgive divine'

  7. I would like to drop so many things, 3 abortions this year,habit ofprocrastinating, issues with my anger,my asthma, really need healing, habit of trusting people to easily and lots more. So help me God. Going anon on this cos of d abortion part,my admirer might jut be here.

    1. *sigh* I don't need to Judge you but seriously? Are you allergic to condoms? Or they(he) make(s) u trust them(him) dat they(he)'ll 'marry' you when you give them(him) skin-to-skin?

      Please if you can't abstain from sex in 2015(which is highly unlikely) abeg use a condom e jor! *sigh
      I'm going Anon on this cos my admirer might just be here too!

  8. The way i hold on to things, I can be very sensitive!

  9. Hey Thelma, as regards prayerlessness, this is my 2 cents based on my exeperience.
    Set a chair or anything within the surroundings of your bed or where you normally wake up and promise yourself that each time you wake for the day, you'd sit and say a one minute prayer to God. If you feel you can do better, you could make it 5 minutes, 10, 15, 30 or an hour daily. As you get a better understanding of Him, His desires and plans for you, the efficacy of the little prayers you say daily in the past, you'd easily give Him more of your time.
    I feel often times it is the lethargy we have to overcome to be prayerful. The Devil knows this and he swamps us with a dose of hesitancy and then swamps us with a ton of things we have to do to prevent us from praying.
    'Just like every important thing in life, we never have time to pray, we make out time to pray'

    To all blog readers, visit '' and write a note to yourself. It'd be mailed to your specified e-mail address at your chosen time (a year, 5 years, 10 years or whenever). I feel it' aid with our accountability for each year and invariably each day.

    Wish you all a prosperous New Year.

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  11. I share yoir first two T.

    I'm also dropping my relationship. It must'nt even follow me into 2014. I dropped it about 5months ago but my guy is still thinking something is happening. I'm going to take the step and say Its over on my own. Damn all. Happy 2015 everyone.

    1. Lol @ruby, you just wrote 'my guy...'
      Are u sure u're ready to leave him?
      Happy 2015 to. U too

    2. Uyi!!!!....Of course, I am. That my guy was the usual home boy thingy. Like when you see a friend and you say "my guy". Gerrit??? LoL

  12. When I talk about marriage,he says he's not too sure that we should wait and see how things go but when I meet someone new who starts to show interest by calling and all,he sits up! When he sees that I've blanked the person,he starts to misbehave again. Whenever bros is making arrangements,he does so for himself alone..very self-centred mother f*cker. Give me money,problem,give me time,mba,give me attention,oti oo. I'm dropping his wicked,time wasting ass tomorrow! Fool!!!

    1. Lmao! Someone is angry hia oo!

      I think this is a confident move. Keep up the Change.

    2. Uyi talk ur own,yy u just dey tackle everyone. Haba,stop that ohhhohh.

    3. Shouu! See dis babe oh! Na you be Malala yousafzai abi? Lol!

  13. One thing am sure of... Am not going into 2015 with any regrets! I skip ma quiet time atymes, am dropping that too.#BetterHappierMeCome2015

  14. Dropping my prayelessNess,self-pity,being ok in my comfort zone all in 2014! I choose to be happy,more career & business oriented come next year

  15. I choose to put me first in my finances this year, it's good to be a giver but I think I'm being taken advantage of. Give I will but within set limits . How can I earn a tidy sum and not have liquid to back it up. Liquid because I see assets. If it doesn't make me money/ richer in 2015. I say no to it.


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