Do you believe in "soul mates"?
Chris Graham is not my soul mate. He is my husband, my best friend, my lover, my favorite person to talk to, my biggest cheerleader, and my family. But he does not complete me, fill me up, or make my world.
On her blog Mary Gratham wrote an Article titled "My husband is not my soul mate", and I found this article most interesting. She went ahead to say;
He challenges me, encourages me, and talks me down off cliffs, but he isn’t the end-all-be-all of my world.
...And I think that idea, that lie we’ve been sold, damages so many relationships, ends marriages, and leaves countless people unhappy when they’ll truly never be happy.
I love my husband. I think he’s pretty awesome or I wouldn’t have married him and had some babies with him. He makes my life more interesting, makes me better, and loves me even when I’m not very lovable (which is a lot of the time). I picked a good one, for sure. And I’m glad he’s in my life.
But if I hadn’t met him, I think my life would still be pretty good. I wasn’t waiting for someone else to come along and rescue me from my horrible existence. I had a good existence before him. I was loved and cared for and fought for by a Father that made me whole in a way no one else could."
Ask me what I found fascinating and liberating about this article and I probably wouldn't be able to say. First off I'm not certain there's such a thing as a soul mate. For many years this haunted me; my soul mate; Who is he? Where is he? Will I ever meet him? What if I don't get married to him? What if I get married and then meet him afterwards? Would I ever be truly happy if he's not the one I'm with?... On and on my mind would wander in turmoil. This concept; a soul mate.
One day for no reason whatsoever I decided that there's no such thing. I find it hard to believe that God created just one person for just one person, that's there's only one 'The One', that without this one person I wouldn't truly be happy or fulfilled... Quite frankly that's frightening, absurd and almost unfathomable.
So reading this article, my spirit soared. But reading through the comments on her blog and other blogs it's been posted on I realized that not everyone agrees with this. Some people do believe that 'Soul Mates' exists, that there's that one person for everyone, they have soul mates and they are, or will end up with them... What do you think?