Skip to main content

The Bosses That Make You Suicidal!



Let me begin by asking if you agree with the above statement. Do you? 

My friend *Biodun quit his job after two years of torture, torment, psychological abuse and trauma from his boss. This woman is the stereotypical bitch-boss, nothing he did ever pleased her. From day one it was as though she just hated the very sight of him and did everything in her power to frustrate him into quitting. If he did things one way she would complain, often calling him a fool or no-good, when he asked her for directives, she would still call him a fool and said he lacked initiative. Often times she would question his degree and qualifications, she'd often emasculate him and embarass him in front of the office. Unfortunately not much could be done because she's closely related to the CEO and just recently Biodun caved and handed in his resignation. 

I honestly didn't think it was that serious till he told me he quit. 

Now another friend of mine is on the verge of quitting her job. In her own case she has reported to HR on two occasions but twice it was to her detriment. Now she's thinking about just quitting her job as staying is ruining her self-esteem and peace of mind. The problem however is that her job is a good one and the pay is very decent, the only offer she has (she's been applying for other jobs) isn't exactly what she wants to do and the pay is much less, but she's sure that the circumstances would be better there, she would be working under a family friend. 

This morning she talked about it and the question above is pretty much what we're wondering; Is a bad job with a good boss better that a good job with a bad boss?

And please can someone tell me what it is with bosses that do everything to frustrate their subordinate(s)? Do you think they're facing serious problems in their personal lives and they take it out on junior staff or are some people just plain evil and derive pleasure from making others miserable?

Have you ever had to deal with a mean boss? How did you cope?

Comments

  1. Wow... people do go through shit.
    I never had a mean Boss. Just a sexual predator, Reason why I prefer female Bosses now.

    But really, she should quit if her emotions are being shattered.
    Those Bosses sha, I have no idea why they do the things they do.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Some of them face serious family issues ranging from marital,health,spiritual, e.t.c while some are just pure witches and wizard n also sadist who are never happy seeing others do better than them. What's the essence of working in an environment with a good pay and weneva u wake up to go to d office,ur heart beat races fast? Isn't that slavery. I would advice she quits but gal before u quit give that boss of urs a piece of your mind and pack your bags.

    ReplyDelete
  3. You quit and the next boss is worse, so you quit again??

    People must develop survival strategies to deal with tough situations in life, things are not getting better and the workplace is more hostile today than it was several years back.

    ReplyDelete
  4. When u r going thru what ur friends r goin thru u begin to believe that statement above thou
    Some bosses r just sadist that bring all their life problems to work n frustrate others with it
    She should quit thou if its messing with her self esteem n trust God for something better..u knw the saying when one door closes another opens well it may apply her..having a bad boss is the worst thing ever

    ReplyDelete
  5. I agree with the statement above. Thing is, you spend a lot of time with the people you work with, practically most of your waking time, those people and your relations with them will impact your life one way or another, you must be sure that that impact is positive.

    I worked in one big audit firm for one year before I went to serve. At the time I worked there, the pay was crap cos I didn't have a certificate yet but after service, my mum asked me to go back there. The pay would have been fantastic but I refused to go back. Why? Hostile work environment.
    I couldn't imagine spending eight to nine hours everyday with those people. I stayed at home for 8 months before I got a job that paid a quarter of what the audit firm would have paid me but I had peace of mind at my work place.

    The peace of mind lasted until they hired a new admin person. This woman was hell to work with. I'm generally a patient person and can tolerate most people but this woman made me seriously consider quitting my job. She was hostile, mean, rude, and arrogant. One day she called me into her office and gave me a serious tongue lashing, I had tears in my eyes by the time I came out. She eventually passed her boundary and spoke rudely to our Director, she lost the job the next day barely one month after she resumed.

    People like this mess with your self esteem which isn't good for anyone. A number of them are that way because of problems that are probably not related to work but many of them are just naturally mean sadistic people who just want other people around them to be unhappy.
    And some are jealous of you and what you have accomplished at your age.

    We can try to make excuses for their meanness but we all have a choice to be either good or bad, nothing stops them from making the same choice thousands of people make everyday to be good people.

    ReplyDelete
  6. I've been in a bad job before, honestly I hated waking up everyday to go to work. I couldn't wait to leave. If you can stay, stay and bear but for me, that experience really thought me that money isn't everything

    ReplyDelete
  7. Most bad bosses are just evil people on an ego trip. Never thought they'd amount to anything and so have to rub it in at their subordinates. I have only had one bad boss. He wasn't mean, just sneaky and sly and always trying to pit staff against one another. I ignored him for all he was worth. I didn't laugh at his jokes or even crack a smile when others were smiling at him. I left that particular job( not because of him) and I heard he was sacked later. What I have learned is that bad bosses don't really last. Take your money and flex with it and ignore that meanie who doesn't know any better. Just do your job WELL and pay extra attention to your looks. It kills them faster than Ebola.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Most bad bosses are just evil people on an ego trip. Never thought they'd amount to anything and so have to rub it in at their subordinates. I have only had one bad boss. He wasn't mean, just sneaky and sly and always trying to pit staff against one another. I ignored him for all he was worth. I didn't laugh at his jokes or even crack a smile when others were smiling at him. I left that particular job( not because of him) and I heard he was sacked later. What I have learned is that bad bosses don't really last. Take your money and flex with it and ignore that meanie who doesn't know any better. Just do your job WELL and pay extra attention to your looks. It kills them faster than Ebola.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I feel bad/evil bosses do much evil to their subordinates cuz they feel life has been hard on them and thus they should rub it even harder on those they can.
    As to the other issue, every choice or decision should be made on benefits versus costs. The benefits should include non-financial gains and also the costs. If you feel the costs far outweigh the gains then by all means there shouldn't be any reason sticking to the job. I'd advice you stick to the job and increase you search for another job via networks, linkedIn, referral from friends and other colleagues et al till you get an acceptable one. otherwise if the job environment (boss) is too unfavorable, quit and continue job search or entrepreneurial activities

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Turia Pitt Suffered 65% Burns But Loved Conquered All...

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. 
Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:
"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

***
This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…

...

Good morning people! 
Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

One More Post...

#WriteRight. VIVIAN: MY FIRST SEX EXPERIENCE WITH MY BOYFRIEND

He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
Kai!
See how you are serious dey read this story....!
My…

THE ‘NEW’ SIDE CHICK: I WAS HER

A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…

Shhhhhhh....

I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Closed Chapter...

Hello everyone, yesterday a friend said to me, Thelma I love your blog, I've told so many people about your blog, I think you're a very good writer but I feel there's something you're not doing right"

This friend was the first person who won our beauty of the day contest back then in 2014. Then we had met just once through a mutual friend. I mentioned the blog to her and she became an instant reader. I wouldn't have exactly called her a friend then but yesterday as we sat down waiting for our Uber to come get us from Wal-Mart, she's definitely my friend and I knew she was coming from a good place when she said she had much higher expectations of my blog.

Me too.

But you see, in the last year or so, maybe even longer than that, I haven't felt much joy in blogging. It began to feel more and more of a laborious chore, one which I hardly reaped any fruits from.

I really love writing, I love sharing my life and my experiences with others and I've enjoy…

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 


Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.


Uyi & Tiwa