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Thumbs Down To The 40 Year Old Boys!!!

He was pleasing to the eyes, the first thing you'll think when you see him is this is a 'Grown Man'. All 6.4" of him, long torso and lean muscles, dignified grey beards, a head full of silver hair and those quirky glasses that added to his charm... He was everything... Not!

So I had a meeting about a week ago and he's an acquaintance to my business partner, and that's how we met. After a brief convo I learnt he's a divorcee and a successful business man who doesn't live too far away. The first meeting had us talking work and careers and right now I'm all about the big break and the big bucks, that one person with whom I'll seal that multi-million naira deal, so when he suggested we meet up for lunch I was definitely up for it. 

And that's how he fell my hand. 

We met up in the evening, him, dapper as usual. We sat and placed orders and then he began to regale me with tales about last night. So apparently "Friday night was Mad! .. We started out at my friend's. There's no kind of drink that wasn't there, no alcohol that somebody could ask for; champagne, Henessey, Belvedere, Ciroc, Gold Label etc etc etc... After we had drunk and I was getting high we went to this new lounge that my friend just opened, but when we got there it was boring, that kind of place that husbands go to with their wives *bleh*... I just told my friend that the place will flop, places like that don't make any money abeg. So my friends and I left, and then..... We hit the strip club!!! Mehn baby you need to see where we went. It's not like that strip club in Lekki phase 1, that one is like the strip clubs in America (Me: How are the strip clubs in America?). You know nau, those ones where you can look but you cannot touch. This one we went to last night, closer to VGC; no holds barred, no rules! In fact the minute we stepped into the door we saw two of the strippers on the floor having oral sex, one was really eating the other one's ******. Then further down one stripper was f******** another one with one giant dildo. Mad I swear! Every corner, babe something was happening in every corner. See men everywhere doing the strippers, getting oral... (It got too explicit so I won't bother with the details). In fact in that place there are two strip clubs, both owned by two brothers. Their father owns the hotel at the back and he opened the strip clubs to set up his sons. Mehn... Last night was.... Bla bla bla."

At this point I called Sasha Bone to know if she was home biko. I had totally lost interest and was completely disgusted. Before he started telling me about this I asked about some projects he'd mentioned he's working on the day we met, but his dismissed me in that "is that what we're here for?" manner, and then started to tell me all about their night of decadence. The funniest part of this, this is a normal Friday night for him and his goons

So I sat there looking at this man who's about 50yrs, with grown kids and responsibilities and he suddenly became very repulsive to me. 

Thinking about him now I'm reminded of the munched chats SDK posted on her blog some months ago, which she eventually deleted. Why a bunch of old men; women's husband and children's fathers, would form a bbm group just to discuss their sexcapades and decadent lifestyles is completely beyond me. Anytime I think about it I try to imagine the look on their wives faces when those chats hit the internet. Yup, those women are married to a bunch of boys. 

It's ok to sow wild oats, go wild, have nights of decadence and madness, get so drunk you don't even remember which of the chics you shagged, sit down and swap sex stories, swap bedmates, swap STDs, swap anything swappable, but that's what your late teens and twenties are for, if you must. 

There's nothing less attractive that a 40 year old boy. Y'all know what they say about fools at 40, right?


  1. Ewwwwwwe that's disgusting, with all the kind of stories I hear about naija stip clubs I doubt I'll ever want to step my foot in them. Thank God I've hung my boots. That club go just the smell toto toto. #coversfaceinshameandrunsaway

  2. Let me clean Memphis' tears first before I start my own!!! #Wailing
    And the painful part is that, na the Over Handsome, Rich & well connected guys wey dey live this kin nauseous life. As in the correct DHs them. Life = Irony.
    When next I see a Dabota & Sunny Union, I will think of this man in this post.
    Please let me have the responsible pot bellied & big bumbum man instead so I can sleep with both eyes close & my legs open knowing nothing dangerous will be swapped to me!!!

  3. I feel sorry for the children of these kinds of men.

    1. How were they raised? You'll find out his parents lived the party life. To him, he's doing nothing wrong. This was the way he was raised. Most likely the reason his wife divorced him. I believe there must be a commonality of values for any relationship to work. He can only live with a woman who's like him. It's these men you'll find clubbing in their 70s. Sleeping with small girls. That's if AIDS doesn't kill him first. Another woman will fight to marry him. Believing she can change him.

  4. That's the life they have chosen to live. They never grew up. And yes, time will tell.....

  5. My ex falls well in this category. To top it off he wasnt successful. Sadly too many of these type of people exist. Sooo its to live and let live. Make sure you keep them out of your space.

  6. And someone ll be smwhr telling someone married to this kind of man to pray for change. Such men starve thr families to fund this lifestyle.

  7. Thats what happend when u dnt do this things in ur teens n when u sometimes decide to carry it over n not grow up...what a shame..a fool at 40 is definitely a fool forever

    1. U don't av to do any of these things even as a teenager

  8. Yuck!! Dat guy is just a kid in a man's body. I can't deal biko. Thelma u can really be patient to some kind of chats wt guys o..I would've started showing signs of disgust on my face which d bros go code n switch convo sharply!!
    Ds one na confirmed Fool@40.


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