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TTB Readers, Again, Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Good morning gorgeous people!
Today will be better than yesterday. Each new day will be better than the day before. Today is simply beautiful, favour from every corner will locate me today, my destiny helpers are seeking me out to bless me, great ideas are dropping into my spirit every minute, everywhere I go I go with God's divine favour and protection. My finances are blooming, my health keeps getting better, everyone in dark places is being flooded with light, my friends are blessed, their marriages are blessed, their wombs are fertile, my blog is blessed, my readers are blessed, before the end of this year they will have cause to testify. Everything I lay my hands on is blessed and pregnant with greater dividends. Yes, today will be better than yesterday, each day I step into will be better than the last. Amen. 

Speak life into your day/life/situation people. 

Ehen! So let me gist you! That  Should I stay, Should I go? post, you read it, right? Well the guy in question found the blog and the post and he said *Tongue out* to you guys who said "don't go, he just wants to sleep with you". He says to tell y'all it's not always about sex. As I explained, he lives in the UAE and had meetings all weekend and was booked to return to Dubai yesterday, this was the only reason he asked me to come. In any case I'd already said no, because I wouldn't have been able to go either ways, I'd just come in from PH and I have a life, responsibilities and people I'm answerable to, so it's unlikely I would have been able to make it. 

Anyhoooooo, like I said, he's English, not Nigerian and rarely ever comes this way. He called me from the airport last night just as he was boarding, said it's not about sex at all, promised me he would never ask me to do something I'm not comfortable with, and then he said "Please come to Dubai for the New Year, I'll take care of the logistics". 

Haaaaaa. TTB readers I ask again, Should I stay or Should I go???

(Hmmmm, ok but this comes at a time when I'm somewhat encumbered...)


  1. Hmmmn. Good morning Thelma. I feel you should do whatever your instincts tell u

  2. Good morning T and TTB readers. Thelma please let him do the logistics then you can give me the ticket *wink*.

  3. So even up till now he hasn't told you why he wants to see you, after making it clear it's not about sex? Hmmm...

    I was even thinking he was going to give you a job/contract or something like that since you said you guys talked for hours. Well, I don't know what to say sha, but if by now his intensions aren't clear...

    1. Please make his intentions clear oh! Cos he really hasn't said anything concrete yet! Coms to dubai, to do wat na?

  4. This could be ur much anticipated dubai hols in another form staring right at
    For the fact he read the blog,said it's not all about sex doesn't mean it wouldn't/can't that's a gamble.
    If u decide to go cos u in the best position to decide,I would advice u know someone/have a back up plan with a friend who lives there or something.too many people looking normal these days can't be too trusted,worst part u going far to a place u really don't know.

  5. Hmmm...UAE? where they kidnap women, force them into hijabs and marry them off to rich men. Nwando, you are on your own o, don't allow anyone push you off the balcony or elevator. My 2 cents, people. Ciao!

  6. Lmao. I still say Go. Now what you can do, pally up with a friend if you have any that lives there. Let him pay for flight, cover your own hotel and make sure it is booked in your name. Agree to meet only in public places, the guy hasnt asked to share a room with you, whats the fuss? Is he going to rape you at a TGIF or the mall?

    I know where the guy is coming from, the expatriate lifestyle can be very demanding in that you have very little time for yourself and personal interactions. So while the money is usually available, you sometimes have to go the crazy route of flying a thousand miles to go on a date with someone you find interesting. So my dear please go and have a good time while at it. Fine he may be looking to you for some sort of relationship etc. Please if you know you can't marry oyibo, then dont bother going sha. Because when they love they love oh, as in romantic things.

  7. Dubai??? that's even worse! a Nigerian girl following an "English" man to Dubai? (I put English in quote because I doubt that he is fully English). Anyways, I digress.... following him to Dubai? (yeh yeh technically I know you are not actually following him, he might be there waiting for you etc etc) again, I digress, but once you cross that line honeybun, you automatically become one of "those" girls. Not even Paris or Milan but Dubai? Olorun Oba o!

    Also, he says its not about sex right? I go with Dee on that one, it doesn't mean it wouldn't be or cant be. Again, I also go with Memphis too, why cant he just say what it is he wants? And please don't tell me to "talk", he wants to hit you up with that job, contract,? then let him do so now and then we'll know s**t just got real....

    Again, I say don't go! I'm even more convinced now than ever that you shouldn't go. When next he is in Lagos, you guys can hang out, he's got money innit? he should fly down again one of these weekends and y'all can kick it....just saying....

    1. My crush oooo!!!! Hahahahahahahaaahahaa! *faints*

      I can't even advice her cuz when it comes to issues like this, I can be very rigid and conservative! But I couldn't have said it any better! Oya chop kiss! **hugs**


    2. Lol kiss has officially been chopped. ***hugs****

    3. Fnlp 100likes for ya comment. Thelma we love u dear..we're not trying to scare u..jst being real and analytical abt ds situation. 1Love.

  8. At this point i will say go, you don't have to stay in the same hotel with him, you guys can meet in public places n Dubai is a beautiful place n someone paying for the trip makes it more beautiful n u never know it might b the beginning of something beautiful

  9. Telema, you want to go to Dubai?and its not just about going to Dubai,I think you already have buttyflili in ur tummy for Mr white.
    It's count down to the new year.check him up on Facebook and and get all d info you can about him.
    You can take the risk and make the trip since you only just met him.It will be a part of your 'Adventure 2015' but inform close pals before you leave.
    Do not go all dramatic when Mr White wants to "work in the lab" most of these UAE guys love mad s**x with black girls cos they are ready to pay wella.
    if you are going to make that trip just zero your mind about sex cos it might or mightn't happen.
    Forget all 'em talk about him getting you a job or asking you to come over just to "talk".o girl you be 20s babe now,so you suppose know wetin dey gbei, even if u tell am say e nor go flavour your jollof, na wen u rish, e go remember you say na em paleh land u dey; after all na em chedah the trip for you. o' girl bone the matter all na wash.

  10. Hmm, tricky one...I agree with pynk the expatriate life can be demanding, yet again I think you both should come to a compromise. Let your first dates be here on familiar grounds then if it works out later you can fly to wherever. M& B things Lool.

  11. I don't want to talk much. It's even a lot more suspicious now. See him again when he comes to Nigeria. If you want fun, then go but keep an open mind cos sex may be part of it. Make sure you also have enough money to bring you back just in case things go wrong. Ask him if you can come with a friend?

  12. My opinion.... dis guy might mean no harm,there are guys out dere who are nice n don't mind spending on good girls if dey see one..u striked him as one,u re an adult n can take care of things.... if u must go,book a two way ticket....incase of anything,ure sure of u coming back... what's d fuss abt her going for a visit sef,na today yansh dey back???? He's not even stressing it...

    1. most are just planting seeds, some just ve more spending powers than others and can let go of money lost if nothing is returned

  13. We didn't want to travel to Abuja to see him, how would we 'permit' you to go out of the country?

    I'll say let the communication begin. So far, nothing has been said. Who/What are you going to Dubai as? Your 'relationship' hasn't been defined yet. Except you love adventure, then you may take the risk.

  14. Don't go, don't even consider going. Even if he gives you valid reasons say no. If its so important that he meets you let him come to you.

  15. He promised not to make u do anything u r uncomfortable with? Now its his job to make u confortable and then make his demands afterwards, for someone celibate i ll say dont go, if ur only worry is sleeping with him, its not ALL about sex but myt be a BIT about sex. Its only safe u get to know this person before visiting him in another country, the only things u know about him are the things he told you which may be truth or lies, so dont get carried away but Life and love is a risk, if u r willing to take the risk then have a fun filled Holiday

  16. "it's not about sex at all, promised me he would never ask me to do something I'm not comfortable with" but if u r comfortable he's game! you know how these things work sometimes. b4 the end of the trip u'd give him d sex without even knowing it n forget celibacy. nywayz, i said u cld go d previous time n id say it again Go if u want to. you r single shebi u dont need permission from SO n dont work for anyone!!! make sure he gets a return ticket n carry some vex money for hotel just in case cos i can sense u r catching feelings for whitey!

    moreso, T i dont think u really want to go else u'd av quietly done that n come bck with d gist but if u do sha ooo, we wear same size of shoe n dont like heels too cos am tall. u get the gist. lolz *wink*

  17. O gini ga emekalisi? O nwero. Please go and have fun not sex or sex if you want, Bone FLNP. I know she is your friend but sometimes just do something without seeking approval. Or you can ask FLNP to go with you. She has revealed on this blog that she can afford certain things like Dubai trip without batting an eyelid so she is the perfect chaperon. NK

    1. Huh? This has got to be a joke right? I think I know who you are mixing me up with, reveal what on what blog? If you know me well then you'd know I can't even afford Ibadan without batting an eyelid. Let's read between the lines people, please. Thanks.

  18. My main concern is why do all your visits have to be on his turf, on his terms? Like someone (Memphis? Wale?) said last time, it seems he feels his time is more valuable than yours, thus the request that you be the one to travel and meet him. Seriously, if he really wanted to come to your area, I think he could make that happen. He seems smart and enterprising enough. That being said, what are you hoping to gain out of this relationship? If it's just a casual, short- lived thing then have your fun. However, if you want something long lasting, then I think you need to set some limits.
    Quite frankly, in spite of the hours you spent talking, he's still a complete stranger that wants you to come and meet him in a foreign country.

  19. You said you are "somewhat encumbered" . That means you are seeing your "somewhat encumberism (lol)" as enough reason not to go


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