Some weeks ago I was having drinks with a friend one night when she said to me "I don't know what I have to offer a man besides my living form" this she said with a sweeping gesture across her body. It was the day I did the "you want him to wait, but are you worth it?" post.
Overtime we here people talking about potential partners and asking what they bring to the table. I remember when I was talking to my friend Matty a few years back and we were discussing this friend of mind who was very hot, very sexy eye candy. All the men wanted her and she had some kind of Kim Kardashian status. I remember Matty asking me about her and her personality and I remember him say "I really don't care how pretty a woman is, what I care about is what she brings to the table. What value does she add to my life? What value does she add to our relationship? I just cannot marry a woman who does nothing for me, and I don't mean financially". I wish I'd asked Matty what exactly he meant but I was too consumed with asking myself and trying to answer the question; what do I bring to the table?
"I've thought about it over and over again and I can't seem of think of anything", my friend continued. "I really don't think I have anything to offer any man besides this my living form... I don't think I do". Oh, the way she kept saying "my living form" and sweeping her hands over her body made LOL.
It was absurd because this person in question is a fantastic person and I was surprised that she couldn't see it, so I listed to her some great qualities about her that any person would be glad to have; "first off you're a very intelligent person, you're witty, you're a great conversationalist and your brain is constantly at work. I don't think any man would like a boring partner, there'll never be a dull moment when he's with you. You're also a very good person, kind and patient; you'll listen to him when he has problems, because you're patient and intelligent he won't only depend on you for attention, he will also rely on you for ideas and answers. Besides this you're a good Christian; you'll pray for not only yourself but for him as well. You're empathetic so you'll see his problems as yours and treat them with the same urgency, both physically and spiritually. AND you don't mind cooking, I don't know of a Nigerian man who doesn't appreciate good home made meals."
When I was done talking I could see her take a step back and look within herself again. She did have something to offer after all!
This evening I'm asking if you've ever asked yourself that question; what do I bring to the table? It's imperative that you bring something to the table at work and in your circle, but tonight I'm particular about your relationships.
Have you ever wondered about it? What do you offer or have to offer your partner besides your body (ladies) or your money (gentlemen)? What value do you add? What value do you give? What do you bring to the table?
Please let us know.
...And because so many people aren't too clear on what the question "what do you bring to the table?" means, and I'm not too sure I've done a great job at explaining it clearly, I'm asking anyone who can to please explain the concept. Thank you.
Anonymous Rider I'm terribly sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers my darling. May the good Lord heal you completely, make you whole and lay his blessings upon your life. Amen.