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What Should I Do About This...?

Good afternoon my people. I would like to tell you I went to church this morning but I didn't. Last night was rather exhausting and I got very minimal sleep. 

I have a question for you guys. Having not slept much last night, at about 9 or 10am I decided to take a nap. I closed my eyes and just a few seconds later I began to dream. In the dream I walked into my friend's room and saw her mum sitting by the dresser. Her mum asked me some random question and I responded saying "I'm not like *Amina who likes that kind of thing biko. She has the energy for that kind of 'waka'. Me I don't."  

Amina is someone I know who also happens to be pregnant at the moment, she's well past her first trimester and is showing very visibly. (We're not too close and she doesn't visit the blog which is why I don't mind posting this here). 

In my dream her mum laughed at what I said and then I realized that there was someone on the bed, I thought it was just her mum and I in the room but apparently Amina was there, backing us. I walked to her and nudged her so that she'll roll over and face me. When she did I was shocked to see that her belly was flat, very flat. I was shocked and confused and she noticed, then she said to me "oh, my belly? My belly shrank, there's nothing inside anymore". I suddenly woke up after that. 

I slept off again almost immediately and I woke up a few minutes ago, that dream is heavy on my mind. 

I'll have you know that I'm no Joseph, I'm not one of those who dream about things before they happen. A few times my dreams are revelations but nine out of ten times they're just dreams. So I'm wondering if that was just a dream...

This leads me to my second question. It could have been just a dream, therefore it would be completely unfair and unnecessary to tell Amina about the dream I had and make her panic over nothing. 

Amina and I aren't such close friends, would it be awkward to tell her about this dream?

Could this dream actually have another meaning? Does anyone here understand dreams?

Some people also say that the fact that you see someone's face in a dream doesn't mean it's about that person, like I could have a dream about Beyoncé but it's Rihanna who was actually in the dream...

I could go on and on but... Would you tell this person if you're in my shoes and how would you go about it?

And those (I don't want to name you, you know yourself) who don't believe that dreams mean anything... 
*Explain to me why the first time armed robbers came to our home my mum dreamt about it and warned us to lock up very thoroughly before she left for work because she dreamt that armed robbers came, which they did later that night, but thanks to mother's warning, couldn't gain access into our apartment... 
*Or why she dreamt about something that was going on in my life before even I was yet to find out about it (found out about my condition two weeks after she dreamt about it)... 
*Or why Candy's mum called her a few days before we made that trip and warned her not to join the bus because there'll be a terrible accident and if Candy goes her body wouldn't be found. We ignored this and went anyways and yes, there was a ghastly accident. I still have the cut underneath my eye, an anonymous blog reader still has the scars and stitches on her hand and arms to show for it, and Chocolate still remembers how her waist had problems and pains for several months... And you tell me dreams are just dreams? I see...

PS: I have a number of friends and blog readers whom I'm now friends with that happen to be pregnant at the moment. Rest assured you're not the person I saw. *Amina is completely random which makes it all the more confusing... Like if God actually meant to reveal something, wouldn't He reveal it to someone closer to her?...


  1. I feel you should just pray and not tell. Pray for her and everyone you know is pregnant around you. If you choos

    1. Forgive my over zealous keypad.

      If you choose to tell her, don't go into details. Simply tell her to be careful and prayerful. When I was pregnant, some people even my hubby had bad dreams about me, they didn't go into details, they told me to be prayerful. Some prayed with me.

      Since you're not close to her, don't go into details.

  2. Don't tell her o! Pray for her and trust God to do something about it. God reveals things to us because something can still be done, otherwise there will be no revelation.

  3. The best you can do in this case is to pray for her. Telling her can scare her unnecessarily. It's not as if you know any one thing she needs to avoid.

    And happy holidays

  4. Atimes dreams are some kind of revelation. And it might nt really b d Amina that u dreamt about so as Enjay said, pray for her and use her as point of contact to everyother pregnant person that is close to u. Goodday T.

  5. Thelma, I don't know about dreams. But the thing is this, what would telling her change? Is there anything that can be done to avert what the dream implies? If it's a revelation and it's meant to happen, you can't do a thing to stop it! So don't tell her, say a prayer for her and wish her all the best. Period!

  6. @ selle u r soo wrong! Where there's revelation there's victory. @ thelma pls don't tell her details just ask her to pray and in d subtle way. And pray for her too and all other pregnant women u know. Who knows it may not be her or it may just be a dream.

  7. I agree with Enjay.

    Sometimes, God reveals things to us about people close to us. So we can pray about it without making the person panic. Even if it's just a dream and not a divine revelation, it won't hurt to still pray about it. No need to tell Amina or worry about who the dream is for, just pray as your spirit leads. For all you know, it's just a dream.


  8. I feel u should pray for her safety and the child's and secondly, if u are really bothered and curious about the dream,ask God to open ur eyes and help u to understand what it means and am sure he would, u could add a day's fasting to make the prayers effective. Dreams mean a whole lot and that dream could mean the following or more: could be Aminat could be someone else. could also.mean spiritual abortion or termination of goof things in someone's life. E.t.c. just pray and am sure he would shed more light.Happy Sunday T and everyone.

  9. Did u watch anything "pregnancy" before bed? Well tell someone who's close to her what u saw in ur dream. U might have gotten ur mamah's gift.
    If u see me in ur dreams,...

    1. Lmao. If I see you in my dream it's only good things I'll see and they'll definitely come to pass.

    2. Nne,Amen biko. Cos I can't shout...

  10. Just pray for her. Because if you tell her and something goes wrong you are a "winch".

  11. Pray for her and also pray against the early termination of a fruitful venture, echoing Opara Mabel. I once had a dream similar to yours and almost missed an opportunity I had been waiting for.

  12. If people know better, they'd act better. Dreams (when true) are a source of future indication of the course of things which might come to pass or may be averted. Often times, with dreams, we often know how to plan our lives better while maximizing the positives of a dream and minimizing the negatives.
    I believe in dreams ( the bible even affirms it) and I feel one would be narrow minded to discredit dreams. The point of contention which is often overlooked is what is the defining feature of a true dream. True dream meaning something indicative of future happenings.
    As regards your acquaintance Amina, I have a poilicy with unpalatable news which I feel should be adopted here - 'Counsel without help is Useless' - essentially, one should always seek to provide a measure of the required help (physically, emotionally et al) or advice the person in question the necessary steps to adopt to mitigate the negative consequences of an undesired occurence.
    Particularly, for her situation and the complexities of your relationship with her, I'd advice the following - Establish a line of communication with her, Inquire about her pregnancy and how it is developing, encourage her to attend all ante-natal and necessary medical check-ups, encourage her to adopt a healthier lifestyle and activities that would help the baby, and also prayers from your end and hers.
    A subtle point here, funny enough, one might fail to see that in all three dreams you mentioned and most other dreams from the Bible, they were revealed to people who had the wherewithal or access to the resources to actualize that dream (if positive) or prevent it from happening (if negative). I feel, dreams from God are a way of realigning our current priorities and also the means to solve those dreams are always within our grasps (He never encumbers us more than we can bear).
    Last, another common denominator with most dreams is that they require a defined physical course of action and less of prayers although I don't doubt the potency of prayers. You were required to lock the doors to prevent the burglary, Candy was instructed to not go on the trip to prevent her death, Joseph was required to store food supplies for the famine period.
    I trust you'd take the best course of action.


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