So I met someone recently and just as we were hitting it off he admitted to having a teenage child from a previous marriage. I've never been adverse to divorcees but for certain personal reasons I've always thought I'd pass up on proposals I'd get from one. Yet I gave it some serious thought recently and I realized that if I should meet someone who checks most of my DH boxes I'll go for it, even if he's been married before.
Not long after this honest internal monologue, I had a conversation with a blog reader on the same issue. Her boo is in his late thirties, a father of two kids and has been married. She says she's certain the divorce is final, he has shown her the papers and everything. However she still has her reservations so we decided to post this and hear from others, especially those who have been in this situation.
We found ourselves asking questions like:
-Are there any advantages in marrying someone who's never been married before over marrying a divorcee, and vice versa?
-Is there any stigma attached to marrying a divorcee?
-What challenges is a person marrying/married to a divorcee likely to face? (Emotional baggage, constant comparisons, insecurity, lack of attention etc)
-And generally what advice would you give to someone getting married to a divorcee, what can they expect?
One more thing I'd like to know is the attitude of parents when a daughter brings home a suitor and he has once been married. Has anyone been in this situation before? Were your parents indifferent and accepting, or was the divorce a deal breaker?
This is one topic I know little or nothing about and I'm curious to hear what you have to say.
Ps: the title of this post is (admittedly) click-bait. I'm neither currently dating or considering getting married to a particular divorcee.